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The Psychology does not cover all topics - only what we were able to bring.Aisha, may God be pleased with her, asked the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, about this verse,
{وَالَّذِينَ يُؤْتُونَ مَا آتَوْا وَقُلُوبُهُمْ وَجِلَةٌ}
{And those who give what they give, and their hearts are in fear}
She said: do they whom are drink alcohol and steal? He said: “No, daughter of Al-Siddiq, but they are the ones who fast, pray, and give alms.”“Those who are hasten to do good deeds and precede it.” (Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi)
Allah says
إِنَّ الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ كَانَتْ لَهُمْ جَنَّاتُ الْفِرْدَوْسِ نُزُلًا خَالِدِينَ فِيهَا لَا يَبْغُونَ عَنْهَا حِوَلًا [سورة الكهف:107، 108]
Indeed, those who believe and do righteous deeds will have the Gardens of Firdaus as a residence, they will abide therein forever, not turning away from it for a transfer [Surat Al-Kahf: 107, 108]
And the meaning Those who believe with their hearts and do righteous deeds with their limbs, and this description includes the entire religion, its beliefs, its deeds, its origins, and its apparent branches, and the inner ones, for these people - regardless of their levels of faith and good deeds - will have the Gardens of Firdaus. It is possible that what is meant by the Gardens of Firdaus is the highest, middle, and best Paradise, and this reward is for those who have perfected faith and good deeds, the prophets and those who are close to Him, and it is possible that what is meant by it is all the stations of Paradise, so this reward includes all classes of people of faith, of the close ones, the righteous, and the frugal, each according to his condition, and this is the first of two meanings due to its generality, and because Paradise is mentioned in the plural form adding to Paradise.
The idea of believing in God and doing good deeds
First: What are good deeds? They are good deeds or deeds that have a lasting effect. The thing was made good: it was beneficial, what are the types of good deeds then? Anything that will benefit people and have an impact Digging wells - planting trees - reviving a river on the verge of evaporation, reclaiming agricultural land, or reclaiming hospitals or schools, or, of course, the ideological actions that benefit you personally and benefit society by creating a good human being who is not harmful to anyone, but on the contrary, he is useful and good in himself and good for others, or appropriate, and hence, doing appropriate good deeds while not believing in God Almighty is unacceptable, and believing in God and not doing good deeds is unacceptable, and combining the two brings out the best in life.
The psychology of doing good deeds
It turns out that people rarely give without an incentive of some kind. Whether this trigger is manufactured by an external source or is something within their psyche doesn't really matter. The point is that people don't donate to charity accidentally,
Among these reasons are:
Moral duty (altruism) – where a person feels that giving is the right thing to do
Ego – where a person gives because it feels good. It also includes the way they want to be perceived by others. Social dynamics – when people donate because their peers do so, or when their peers encourage them to do the same.
Motivated by the desire to belong and be accepted. And others, of course, and the incentive of Paradise for Muslims is the greatest incentive of all.
Allah says
الَّذِينَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِالْغَيْبِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ وَمِمَا رَزَقْنَاهُمْ يُنفِقُونَ (3)
Those who believe in the unseen and establish prayer and spend out of what We have provided to them (3)
The unseen is what is hidden from the servants of the matters of Paradise and the matter of Hell, and what God Almighty mentioned in the Qur’an, their belief in this - meaning the Arab believers - was not based on a book or knowledge they had.
The idea of believing in the unseen
It is a very central idea in Islam, and it is the truth of Islam and the essence and sum of its difference from other non-heavenly beliefs. It is a belief in a God that we do not see - Glory be to Him - and belief in angels and devils, even if we spend our lives without seeing them once, and a day of reckoning that regulates the rhythm of our work day and night, because man does not know where or when his death will occur, so his compass of faith is set just because he believes in a part of the unseen, which is the Last Day.
The psychology of belief in the unseen
There is some evidence that the tendency toward beliefs of this kind may actually be innate—part of our natural evolutionary heritage. Oxford psychologist Justin Barrett has suggested that the prevalence of beliefs of this kind can be partly explained by our possession of a highly sensitive agent detector, or H.A.D.D. comment That is, whatever the psychological explanation for the phenomenon of belief in the unseen, but the Muhammadan nation is one of the first characteristics of its faith is belief in the unseen. Whoever tolerates this scientifically tolerates it and whoever rejects it scientifically rejects it.
Allah says
الَّذِينَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِالْغَيْبِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ وَمِمَا رَزَقْنَاهُمْ يُنفِقُونَ (3)
Those who believe in the unseen and establish prayer and spend out of what We have provided to them (3)
Those who establish prayer by performing it according to what God has legislated regarding its conditions, pillars, duties, and Sunnahs. He says: They perform the prayer, or perform the prayer, because it is not enough for it to merely perform its apparent form. Perform prayer means external performing by complete its corners, duties and conditions, establishing it inwardly is by establishing its spirit, which is the presence of the heart in it, and contemplating what it says and does from it. This prayer is the one about which God said: {Indeed, prayer forbids indecency and evil} and it is the one that results in reward. There is no reward for a person from his prayer, except what he makes sense of it, and enters into it. Prayer has its obligatory and voluntary prayers.
The idea of establishing prayer
It is establishing it in the soul before the limbs, and the soul is intended for the heart, and a heart that is preoccupied with the problems of the world does not taste the sweetness of establishing prayer, so the opening supplication was prescribed so that you can remember that you have left the concerns of the world to the concerns of prayer, the preoccupation with prayer is not to neglect the affairs of this world, but instead to neglect the meanings of the Qur’an, and about God - the Almighty - hearing His words from you, and to conjure stillness and understanding about God, so that you emerge from prayer not as you entered it, but rather emerge with a spirit that forbids you from immorality and evil, and that it be Your mind is aware enough to digest what you say with your tongue.
The psychology of humility in prayer
Humble heart
That is, knowing who we really are and accepting our strengths with gratitude, our limitations without judgment, and the world around us with appreciation – is a powerful and attainable quality. Humility of heart can help us walk through this world with confidence, integrity, and wisdom. Humility of heart does not require taking reserved or shy positions in our interactions with others, but rather requires a calmness in our being, and a calm knowledge of who we are. Humility of heart is being honest with ourselves and others, and expressing our gratitude and respect to all involved.
Humility is expressed this way in current business references:
Admitting that you don't have all the answers.
Ask for advice or ideas from others.
- Dealing with and accepting different points of view. And others
The benefits of practicing this type of humility
It is to gain the respect of friends, family and co-workers, along with more creativity and peace at the end of the day. Why? Because they realize that a self-centered ego is not what is needed to thrive in today's rapidly changing environments, whether at work, social, or home.
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Imagine that every act of worship you have has a worldly benefit. Have you read what was mentioned above well? Humility of the heart makes you close to God, close to people, and praying 5 times
This day and night is not voluntary (continuous practical education) so that it becomes a norm in your life, and God is Most High and Most Knowing.
Allah says
وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَلَىٰ صَلَوَاتِهِمْ يُحَافِظُونَ
And those who are preserve their prayers
Whereas believers adhere to performing prayer on time, and observe its conditions, pillars, and duties. Together and individually, they “preserve” and perform it on time.
The idea of preserving the prayer
One of the reasons for faith is preserving the times of prayer, and the prayer itself from being wasted and lost in the midst of the day’s concerns, and here we will not talk about the reward of preserving the prayer or waiting for the prayer after the prayer, as is the case with stationing for the sake of God - the Almighty - rather, we will talk about the importance of this in our daily lives. My brother, you and I, we are in changing circumstances, and whoever is busy today is empty tomorrow, and who is empty today is busy tomorrow, and so being forced to do something important, such as praying, while you are empty, is a kind of psychological well-being. Why? ? Because it is something that forces you to get up from your seat to do it. It is known that routine is one of the biggest things that kill one’s life. For a short time, it was almost the number 1 factor leading to suicide in the West, then I retreated. God Almighty taught you that you would not leave your work, even if it was burdensome for you, so that your free time would teach you that it is part of your habits, thus preserving your psychological and physical peace. The World Health Organization tells you that if you move for a full hour or two separate hours a day, then you are in safety, the rest of the day you can sit on your couch, otherwise you are not safe, if you note, The 5 prayers almost complete this 2 desperate hours and God Is the superior and know the best.
The psychology of maintaining the prayer
Why is consistent, predictable action important? Familiar activities can provide comfort to both adults and children during difficult and turbulent times. Just like adults, children feel more confident and secure when their daily activities are familiar and predictable.
The importance of schedules and routines A schedule hung on the wall inside the daycare room Familiar activities can provide comfort to both adults and children during difficult and turbulent times. Just like adults, children feel more confident and secure when their daily activities are familiar and predictable, a consistent daily schedule and step-by-step routine gives children a predictable day. Schedules and routines in the group care setting and at home help children:
Feels in control of his environment
You feel safe, secure and comfortable
Knowing how to do an activity or task
Engage in learning
I have seen in my experiences that the difference between religiosity of form and religiosity of subject matter is the hardness or tenderness of the heart. Imam Muhammad Al-Ghazali
Allah says
{أَلَمْ يَأْنِ لِلَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا أَنْ تَخْشَعَ قُلُوبُهُمْ لِذِكْرِ اللَّهِ وَمَا نَزَلَ مِنَ الْحَقِّ وَلَا يَكُونُوا كَالَّذِينَ أُوتُوا الْكِتَابَ مِنْ قَبْلُ فَطَالَ عَلَيْهِمُ الْأَمَدُ فَقَسَتْ قُلُوبُهُمْ وَكَثِيرٌ مِنْهُمْ فَاسِقُونَ}... [الحديد : 16].
{Has not the time come for those who believe that their hearts should be submit at the remembrance of God, and what has been sent down of the truth, and be not like those who were given the Scripture before, so a long time go for them, then their hearts have hardened, and many of them are out of obedience...” [Al-Hadid: 16].
Has not the time come for those who have believed God and His Messenger and followed His guidance, for their hearts to soften when remembering God and hearing the Qur’an, and not to be as hard-hearted as those who were given the Scripture before them - from the Jews and Christians - for whom a long period of time passed, so they changed the word of God? So their hearts hardened, and many of them disobeyed God? The verse urges gentleness and humility towards God Almighty when hearing what He has revealed of the Book and wisdom, and caution against imitating the Jews and Christians in the hardness of their hearts and their departure from obedience to God.
The idea of hardness of heart and lack of remembrance God - the Almighty -
urges us not to live too long or harden our hearts, and the hardness of the heart is linked to longevity in general, for the longer we live, the more we become attached to the world and become preoccupied with its concerns and attachment to it. The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - said ((I advise you to be good to young men, for they are more delicate their hearts have been soften, I was sent as a bringer of good tidings and a Warner, but the young men supported me and the old men disagreed with me.” therefore, humility in prayer and softness of heart is the essence of all our worship, It is as if God - the Almighty - is telling us that to quench the heart so that it becomes soft and juicy like the hearts of children, it requires dhikr, and dhikr is what gives it this moral quenching that makes it a humble heart, and God is Most High and All-Knowing.
The soft heart psychology
The characteristics of a soft heart
1 - Empathic understanding
People with soft hearts are naturally empathetic. They intuitively understand the emotional states of others and strive to minimize their pain or amplify their joy. And unlike many others, they don't just sympathize; They empathize, putting themselves in others' shoes to understand their points of view.
2. Genuine care
Soft-hearted individuals understand that words are not enough to show they care. They make an effort to express their sincere care through meaningful gestures, such as cooking a special dish or giving a sincere gift, which shows others that they truly appreciate them.
3 - the mercy
Compassion is the cornerstone of the character of a person with a tender heart. Their hearts ache for those in pain, which motivates them to act. This trait allows them to connect deeply with others, making them a source of comfort in times of distress. It also enables them to forgive even in the face of great harm, Which enables them to maintain friendly relationships with difficult people. And also from the nature of a soft heart: ((Tolerant nature - unconditional love - sensitivity - selflessness - non-judgmental attitude - constant honesty)) God has blessed us with a soft heart.
Allah says
الَّذِينَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِالْغَيْبِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ وَمِمَا رَزَقْنَاهُمْ يُنفِقُونَ (3)
Those who believe in the unseen and establish prayer and spend out of what We have provided them (3)
It includes obligatory expenses such as zakat, maintenance on wives, relatives, Mamluks, and the like, and recommended expenses in all charitable ways, and in his saying: {We have provided for them} is an indication that this money that is in your hands is not obtained through your power or possession, but rather it is the provision of God who granted you and bestowed it upon you, Just as He has bestowed blessings upon you and favored you over many of His servants, so thank Him by giving away some of what He has bestowed upon you, and console your destitute brothers, The prophet Peace Be Upon Him said - “The upper hand is better than the lower hand, and start with those you depend on, and the best charity is that which is done from barely rich, and whoever is chaste, God will pardon him, and whoever is self-sufficient, God will enrich him.” (Sahih Bukhari),
On the authority of Adi bin Hatim - may God be pleased with him - he said: The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - said: “There is not one of you except that God will speak to him and there is no interpreter between him and him, then he looks to the right of him and sees nothing but what he has offer, He looks more disgraceful than him, He only sees what he has offer and sees In his hands, he sees nothing but fire facing His face, so avoid the Fire, even if it is half a date. (narrated by Muslim).
The idea of spending moderately
Spending exists in all cultures and religions. Islam has codified this habit. Some people spend a lot of money left and right without limits, and some people are miserly, even if it is towards themselves and their children, spending in moderation is one of the Muslim characteristics, and therefore God Almighty has dedicated many verses about spending in Islam. He has urged Muslims not to give a man everything he has to a woman, children, or orphans, as stated in Surah An-Nisa, He called them foolish people, and the foolish person in the linguistic dictionary means someone who is not good at dealing with money, and recent studies have proven that women are naturally greedy to buy things she do not need, The study confirmed that this is the nature of women, regardless of the presence of frugal women, or foolish women in handling money, so the idea of moderation between extravagance and miserliness was a central idea in Islam. Although it is there in the effect (there is no extravagance in goodness) however, moderation is represented by prosperity in Islam, and we will not forget (and do not be extravagant) and we will not forget (indeed, the wasteful were brothers of the devils) and God is Most High and All-Knowing.
The psychology of moderation spending
While popular wisdom generally equates money with happiness, we are now learning that money functions as a tool that will only increase happiness if used skillfully. If used effectively, money can promote improved relationships, a sense of mastery, And ultimately greater individual and societal well-being. Inappropriate uses can have the opposite effect. As we continue to gain greater knowledge about who benefits from pro-social spending and who does not, we can expand our understanding.
Allah says
وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى الْحَيِّ الَّذِي لَا يَمُوتُ وَسَبِّحْ بِحَمْدِهِ ۚ وَكَفَىٰ بِهِ بِذُنُوبِ عِبَادِهِ خَبِيرًا (58)
And put your trust in the Living One who does not die, and glorify His praise, and He is sufficient for Him as an expert of the sins of His servants (58)
And put your trust in the Living One who does not die. The meaning of trust is presented in (Al Imran) and this Surah, and that it is the dependence of the heart on God Almighty in all matters, and that the causes are means that He commands without relying on them, . And glorify His praise, that is, God Almighty has exalted Himself from what these infidels describe as partners. And glorification is pureness. It has been mentioned before and it was said: and glorified, that is: reached for it, and prayer is called glorification. And He is sufficient for the sins of His servants as All-Knowing, that is, so He will reward them for it.
The idea of trust
For you to trust in one of God’s creation, even if it is your father, even if your brother or son...etc. is a tragic idea, because your father’s interests may have conflicted with you, or he is working in corruption and you stood up to him, or you are corrupt and your father is good in himself and a reformer for others, so he turned around. You're upside down, Or your brother, or your son, or your uncle, or anyone who has an important role in your community or your tribe, or better than that. No one is guaranteed, and the only guaranteed is God - the Almighty - The one you can rely on and he does not change towards you, and you do not need to present a situation in front of him, because he knows your story from when you were in your mother’s womb.... And what is better than that is that he does not die while humans and jinn die.
Allah says
{وَالْمُوفُونَ بِعَهْدِهِمْ إِذَا عَاهَدُوا وَالصَّابِرِينَ فِي الْبَأْسَاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَحِينَ الْبَأْسِ أُولَئِكَ الَّذِينَ صَدَقُوا وَأُولَئِكَ هُمُ الْمُتَّقُونَ} [البقرة: 177]
{And those who fulfill their covenant when they covenant, and are patient in hardship and adversity, And in times of battle, those are the ones who are truthful, and those are the pious.} [Al-Baqarah: 177].
The covenant: is the commitment to oblige God or the servant to oblige himself. So, all of God’s rights are included in this, because God obligated His servants to fulfill them and they adhered to them, and they came under His charge and were obligated to perform them, And the rights of the servants, which God has imposed on them, and the rights that the servant has committed to, such as oaths, vows, and the like.
The idea of keeping promises
The idea of masculinity, even if you are a woman. As the common people say: A man is by his word, not by his muscles. Speech that resembles a sword is the actions of men. Men are their words (actions) If you break your promises to those around you, one by one, you will lose them not only in you, but in everyone who resembles you in any way, even if it is maleness. Then comes the last surah that was revealed to earth, Surat Al-Ma’idah, surrounded by 70,000 angels. It begins with (O you who have believed, fulfill your contracts.) contracts for what? Every contract you entered into, even if it was oral and not written, you are responsible for it before God, and you fulfilled it, or did you have an excuse not to fulfill it, or the reckoning, and the choice is yours.
The psychology behind promises
Motivational impact and strategic importance:
Promises have a powerful motivational effect that goes beyond self-gratification. Committing to a future action increases its sense of realism and concreteness, triggering a series of cognitive processes that improve the likelihood of carrying out that action. According to a study, individuals with clear implementation intentions, i.e. “I will do
Is it really important for someone to keep their word?
Nothing in life requires you to keep your word in front of people. A president who looks us in the eye and commits to something he can't or won't do is someone we can't stand. Don't be that individual! It's okay to only set reasonable expectations if you're not sure you can deliver, Tell your neighbor that although you would like to help plan the block party, your busy schedule is preventing you from doing so. I'll check in with her the following week. Even when they receive an answer that may not be exactly what they want to hear, people still value honesty.
Allah says
وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ اللَّغْوِ مُعْرِضُونَ
And those who turn away from idle talk
Idle talk: for something that is negligent and has no consequences, including the idle oath: {Allah will not call you to account for idle talk in your oaths}, What goes on the tongue unintentionally - useless speech To refrain from idle talk: Among the characteristics of believers is self-control and refraining from speech that is of no benefit or good.
The idea of nonsense
A Muslim should have precious time, because a person who does not know when, where or how he will die is ready to do good deeds as much as he can, and nonsense: as previously mentioned, it is talk that is useless, such as celebrity news of divorce, marriage, etc., or anything that does not benefit the person who is frivolous. Just a series of bad deeds are counted in his newspaper and the matter is over, and you are aware that God - the Almighty - has Abeed ( servants) and ( Abad) also servants, and we are all Abeed, but not all of us are Abad, for the Abeed are servants of the oppression of divinity, for He - Glory be to Him, is the one who created us and to Him is our return, We did not have a choice in a specific country, language, form, lineage, or the like. We are all oppressed under divinity. As for the Abad, they are those whom God Almighty has chosen from among the people.
Abad:
They are those attributed to God, such as the Almighty’s saying (and the servants of the Most Merciful) And note: In Abbad, the letter madd in it (alif) extends to the sky.
Abeed
They are common people, whether Muslims or non-Muslims, or even just Muslims by name and not believers. Note that the letter mad in it (yaa) extends to the earth and not to the sky.and God is superior and knows the best.
Allah says
وَالصَّابِرِينَ فِي الْبَأْسَاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَحِينَ الْبَأْسِ ۗ أُولَٰئِكَ الَّذِينَ صَدَقُوا ۖ وَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْمُتَّقُونَ (177)
And those who are patient in times of adversity, hardship and times of wars, Those are the ones who are truthful, and those are the pious. (177)
Y: Poverty, because the poor needs patience in many ways, because he experiences constant heart and physical pain that does not happen to others. If the rich enjoy what he cannot afford, he suffers, and if he or his family becomes hungry, he suffers, If he eats food that is not in accordance with his desires, he will suffer. If he is naked or almost exposed, he will suffer. If he looks at what is in front of him and what he imagines of the future for which he is preparing, he will suffer. If he is struck by a cold that he is unable to ward off, he will suffer. All of these and the like are calamities, for which one is commanded to be patient, to seek reward, and to hope for reward from God for them, {And adversity} that is: illness of all kinds, such as fever, sores, winds, and pain in a limb, even a tooth, a finger, and the like, for it requires patience with that; because the soul is weakening and the body is in pain, and this is extremely difficult for the souls, especially since it is prolonged, so patience is commanded, in anticipation of the reward of God Almighty. {And in times of violence} That is: the time of fighting for the enemies he is commanded to fight, because the executioner is extremely difficult for the soul, and makes a person afraid of being killed, wounded, or captured.,so he needs to be patient in this, out of hope and hope for the reward of God Almighty, from whom comes the victory and aid that He has promised to the patient. {Those} that is: those who are characterized by the good beliefs mentioned above and the deeds that are the effects of faith, its proof and its light.
The neuroscience of patience
Evidence suggests that there are two areas of the brain that jointly contribute to boosting serotonin which leads to the exercise of patience or impulse control. A new study involving mice has taken a step toward understanding tolerance by shedding light on the role of serotonin and how it interacts with various brain processes, In research recently published in the journal Science Advances, scientists believe that serotonin affects specific areas of the brain, which in turn support the patient's behavior. This study arose from an interest in uncovering how serotonin expectations support the expectation of future reward,
It is the area where neurons that secrete serotonin are located, and three areas of the brain associated with impulsive behavior: the nucleus accumbens, the orbitofrontal cortex, and the medial prefrontal cortex.
Previous research has shown that activation of serotonin-releasing neurons in the dorsal raphe nucleus leads to patience while waiting for future rewards. This time, the team found that activating the same process in the orbitofrontal cortex produced the same results, while activity in the medial prefrontal cortex “was unclear whether it merely enhanced future hospitality.”
In the experiment, everything depends on the stimulation of these neurons
While the mice wait for food. In fact, the mice learned that they were more likely to get food if they were patient.
Patience as a Catalyst for Personal Transformation In addition, different parts of the brain respond to serotonin and enhance patience, suggesting that each area of the brain contributes to the overall effect of waiting. Individual endurance therefore depends on brain function, which means that some brains are better suited to endurance than others. Other studies show that mindfulness can reduce stress and encourage positive behaviors such as empathy. The reason this happens and why others suffer in these areas may be due to the firing of nerve cells and the release of chemicals.
It is the faith that made the Bedouins say to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace: We do not say to you as the Children of Israel said to Moses: {So go, you and your Lord, and fight. Indeed, here we sit}, “But go, and we will fight with you"(Narrated by Al-Bukhari).
May God praise the honorable companions, may God be pleased with them
In this hadith, there is a statement of a position regarding their courage, the sincerity of their faith, and their love for the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, Abdullah bin Masoud, may God be pleased with him, narrates that he witnessed a scene and a situation from Al-Miqdad bin Al-Aswad, may God be pleased with him. He wished that he had been the owner of this scene, And he said that saying that he said, and that it is a saying that is more beloved to him than what was modified with it, that is: than what was weighed with it in terms of the enjoyments of this world, or the reward with which that scene was modified; The reason for this is that he drew inspiration from those words, It attained the satisfaction of God Almighty and the satisfaction of His Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, at that hour and in that place, an amount that cannot be equaled by the wishes attained by human knowledge.
The idea of the determination
to do good As you go through practical life, it is not the life from which you learn the greatest lessons, but rather in the field of work specifically, you will find people who do not know the difficulties, and if they set a goal or a goal is set for them in their field of work, they do not hesitate to implement the matter with determination and determination that is unparalleled, you find them surprised by their insistence and their determination, even though the resolve of many around them is lukewarm, and this is in the field of work. We move from the field of work to the field of life. You will find many who despair and those who have hope until the last drop of their blood: few, and by God and His words (the Noble Qur’an) In this hadith, the honorable companion started with this saying, which is filled with courage, determination, and determination to succeed, and you and we all walk side by side, What truly distinguishes us from each other is despair and hope, or call it determination that cannot be defeated by events, and God is Most High and All-Knowing.
Alla says
«وَعِبَادُ الرَّحْمَنِ الَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَلَى الْأَرْضِ هَوْنًا وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الْجَاهِلُونَ قَالُوا سَلَامًا» [الفرقان
“And the servants of the Most Gracious are those who walk on the earth in humility, and when the ignorant address them, they say, “salutes.” [Al-Furqan]
The scholars, may God have mercy on them, explained in its interpretation that the meaning: they walk on the earth humbly, meaning: they are humble and not arrogant, and when the ignorant address them, they say greetings. The meaning: they say good words, they do not respond to the ignorant with ugly words, rather, they respond to him with good words. If an ignorant person addresses them with inappropriate words, they respond to him with good words. May God guide you, may God bless you, may God fix you. What is obligatory is such and what is legitimate. They teach him and guide him, so that it may lead to goodness.
The idea of humility
It is a new and old idea. There is no group of people who gathered except that the humble appeared among them, and the arrogant, vile, and other characteristics of people appeared in them, Humility does not appear except among a group of people, and it does not appear except from a person to whom God - the Almighty - has given a greater gift than those around him, so he humbles himself, and here and only God exalts him. Why? because there are many temptations in life, and temptations mean a test, and they are temptations (money - temptations of beauty - temptations of knowledge - temptations of power). If someone is given somehow of them and pass the test with humble then he is success.
Why is humility important?
A humble mindset has significant positive effects on our cognitive skills, interpersonal skills, and decision-making skills. Humility is directly related to our ability and willingness to learn. Humble people are better learners and problem solvers.
Humble students who are truly open-minded
The feedback is often outpaced by their naturally more gifted peers who think so much about their own abilities that they reject any advice. Some studies have found that humility is a more important predictor of predictive performance than IQ
Furthermore it
Humility among our leaders enhances confidence, engagement, creative strategic thinking, and enhances overall performance
Humility is also associated with a general increase in positive emotions. Furthermore, humility promotes self-forgiveness
There are indications that humility
Strengthens various functions and social bonds. As a result of experiencing less stress and fewer negative experiences with others, humility may be linked not only to better mental health, but also to better physical health.
Allah says
وَالذَّاكِرِينَ اللَّهَ كَثِيرًا وَالذَّاكِرَاتِ أَعَدَّ اللَّهُ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةً وَأَجْرًا عَظِيمًا (35)
And those who remember Allah often, both male and female, for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a great reward (35)
On the authority of Ataa bin Yasar, who said: I heard Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, on the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, saying, (There are three whose supplications are not rejected: the one who remembers God often, the supplication of the oppressed, And the just Imam), so he made the first of them the one who remembers God often, Whoever remembers God a lot, God Almighty will not reject his supplication. Rather, he responds to him, and it was also authentically reported from him, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, that he said: (The world is cursed, cursed is everything in it except the remembrance of God and what follows him, and the scholar and the learner)
he idea of remembrance
When you love someone, you mention him often, and when you do not love him, you do not say his name on your tongue, but rather call him with bad names, and you cannot bear to mention his name on your tongue at all. God - the Almighty - loves us to mention his name often, but I wonder why? Why is there a fundamental difference between the hypocrites - may God not make us among them - And among the believers (many remembrance) and before I say why? According to my simple understanding - some scholars said that a lot of dhikr can be counted in the morning and evening remembrances or supplications for leaving the house...etc. A lot of dhikr can be counted for you, now: God Almighty says the reason why He wants you to remember Him morning and evening in His Qur’an is in the noble verse
(اصْبِرْ عَلَىٰ مَا يَقُولُونَ وَسَبِّحْ بِحَمْدِ رَبِّكَ قَبْلَ طُلُوعِ الشَّمْسِ وَقَبْلَ غُرُوبِهَا ۖ وَمِنْ آنَاءِ اللَّيْلِ فَسَبِّحْ وَأَطْرَافَ النَّهَارِ لَعَلَّكَ تَرْضَىٰ (130)
(Be patient over what they say and glorify the praises of your Lord before the sun rises and before it sets, maybe you satisfied))
And at times of the night, glorify Him and at the ends of the day, perhaps you will be satisfied. (130) Now did you know the reason (reaching satisfaction). My brother: They say: If the happiness is a moment, then satisfaction is the life. If you hear about a happy occasion for you or your son or or, then you fly with joy, But after several days, you just smile (smile: satisfaction) and the fly of joy is the happiness. God - the Almighty - wants you to have stability in your psychological state, not excessive joy or forgotten sadness, but contentment, and if you are one of those who adhere to that, then this is your reward.
Allah says
{إن الله يأمركم أن تؤدوا الأمانات إلى أهلها وإذا حكمتم بين الناس أن تحكموا بالعدل إن الله نعما يعظكم به إن الله كان سميعا بصيرا}
{God commands that trusts to their owners, and if you judge between people, you must judge with justice. Indeed, God, He commands you, he exhorts you with it. Indeed, God is the Hearer, the Seeer.
Al-Qurtubi says in this regard: The verse is “general to all people, as it deals with the rulers regarding the trusts entrusted to them in dividing money, redressing injustices, and justice in governments, It deals with people before them in preserving deposits, verifying testimonies, and other things, such as a man who judges in a calamity, and prayer, zakat, and all other acts of worship are the trust of God Almighty.”
The idea of honesty in Islam
A basic idea that addresses and includes your entire life, starting from the trust of the book that you borrow on a loan and whether or not you return it to its owner, to private trusts, such as purifying a woman from menstruation and bleeding, to the point of betraying the nation by placing those who do not deserve it and rejecting those who deserve it in places that affect the nation in any way.
The study, published in the journal Science
looked at The number of times people in 40 different countries decided to return a lost wallet to the owner, after researchers handed it over to the organization where they said they found it, Surprisingly, in 38 countries, wallets containing larger amounts of money were returned more often than those containing smaller amounts, this was the opposite of what the researchers expected: They thought there would be a minimum dollar value at which participants would start holding money. Overall, 51% of those who received a wallet with small amounts of money reported this, compared to 72% of those who received a larger amount, The most honest countries were Switzerland, Norway, and the Netherlands, while the least honest countries were Peru, Morocco, and China.
Honesty may make people happier too.
This may not be surprising when you consider evolutionary psychology's view that honesty is a sign that encourages trust and cooperation. So being honest gives you more collaborators and greater success, which means it provides an evolutionary advantage. If we evolved this way, it is not surprising that making a dishonest decision might go against our very nature.
Allah says
يَمُنُّونَ عَلَيْكَ أَنْ أَسْلَمُوا ۖ قُل لَّا تَمُنُّوا عَلَيَّ إِسْلَامَكُم ۖ بَلِ اللَّهُ يَمُنُّ عَلَيْكُمْ أَنْ هَدَاكُمْ لِلْإِيمَانِ إِن كُنتُمْ صَادِقِينَ (17)
they favor over you that they conversion to Islam, say, don't favor over me that you conversion to Islam, But God Favor over you that He guided you to Islam, if you honest.
God Almighty says in His mention of His Prophet Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace: These Bedouins have favor on you, O Muhammad, that they have embraced Islam, He says: Rather, God has favored you, O people, by granting you success to believe in Him and His Messenger (if you are truthful). He says: If you are truthful in your saying, “We believe,” then God is the one who has favored you by guiding you to Him, do not trust me with your conversion to Islam. It was reported that these Bedouins from Banu Asad expressed gratitude to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said: We believed without fighting, and we did not fight you as others fought you, so God revealed these verses to them.
The idea of mann in Islam
What is the meaning of mann first? It is an enumeration of the credit and benevolence of what He has given. My brother: Do you know how many earthly religions there are today on planet Earth alone, approximately 4000 religions? We never remember praising God for Islam, and if it were not for the supplication to finish the food, we would not remember it at all. The first problem we fall into, we start with this blessing. Have I not done such and such to you, O Lord, and others do not do it, as if we have bequeathed to God - the Almighty - our Islam. However, it is good manners that we must praised God for guided us for Islam.
Allah says
﴿ إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ الَّذِينَ إِذَا ذُكِرَ اللَّهُ وَجِلَتْ قُلُوبُهُمْ وَإِذَا تُلِيَتْ عَلَيْهِمْ آيَاتُهُ زَادَتْهُمْ إِيمَانًا وَعَلَىٰ رَبِّهِمْ يَتَوَكَّلُونَ﴾
“The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, are terrified in their hearts, and if His verses are recited to them, it increases them in faith, and in their Lord they rely.
The true believers in God are those who, when God is mentioned, their hearts panic, and when the verses of the Qur’an are recited to them, it increases their faith along with their faith, so that they contemplate its meanings and in God Almighty they put their trust, so they do not hope for anything other than Him, nor do they fear anything other than Him.
The idea of increasing faith with hearing the Qur’an.
Do you know how much information we hear every day? Researchers explained, according to a “livescience” website report, that the human brain may be able to retain the same amount of information in its memory as the entire Internet. What do I mean by this? I mean that the Qur’anic speech, before it is a word to be worshiped, is completely rational speech, as it does not tickle your feelings with love in Paradise or fear of Hell, and that’s it, rather, it tells you about the consequences of both groups at times, the history of other nations, and perhaps physics and mathematics, such as the atomic number of iron, and other types of knowledge in the Encyclopedia of the Holy Qur’an -if so to speak - With the excessive diversity in the topics of the Holy Qur’an: whoever listens to it intentionally and not just by listening, will be exposed to a high-level intellectual discourse that will elevate his mind at times, love its language at other times and be amazed by its eloquence and rhyme once again.
Allah says
﴿ وَالَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَائِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَالْفَوَاحِشَ وَإِذَا مَا غَضِبُوا هُمْ يَغْفِرُونَ﴾ [ سورة الشورى: 37]
And those who avoid major sins and immoralities, And when they are angry, they forgive. (Surat Al-Shura: 37)
And those who avoid the major sins that God has forbidden, and the obscene and heinous types of sins, and if they become angry at those who wronged them, they forgive the wrongdoing, They forgive the punishment of the offender; Seeking the reward and pardon of God Almighty, and this is one of the virtues of morals. t
The idea of anger and forgiveness of hurt
They forgive the punishment of the offender; Seeking the reward and pardon of God Almighty, and this is one of the virtues of morals, there are two verses in the Qur’an that are very similar, except that the difference between them is one letter, which is ( L ) The two verses are: (And be patient over what has befallen you. Indeed, that is part of the determination of matters. (17) Luqman, And the second verse: - (And to him who is patient and forgives - indeed, this is from the determination of matters. (43)) What did you notice? The two verses included the same command (and be patient over what befalls you), but in the second verse it came: “For whoever is patient and forgives.” Then the letter ( L ) came, The intended meaning is when the calamity came directly from God - you only had to be patient, but what is between you and the calamity directly from God is an enemy, do not hold on to him and put all your effort on him because he is the one who hurt you, The essence of monotheism is that you know that God is the one who is afflicted in the form of this debtor, and more than that, God - the Almighty - asks of you, To be patient, and moreover, to forgive this debtor who has brought upon you the test of God - the Almighty - so the idea of anger is the idea of the ego, and forgiving the debtor’s sin is the idea of the sublime ego.
The psychology of anger suppression
People react to anger in different ways. Some people express their anger verbally (screaming, cursing, arguing, or yelling), others express it physically, (Throwing things, breaking things, hitting walls, or fighting.)4 However, some people do not express their anger at all, choosing to block it out instead, Dealing with Repressed Anger Mindfulness: Mindfulness can be a healthy way to develop awareness of when you experience feelings, how intensely you feel them, and how to manage those feelings in the moment. Carefully observing what makes you angry and how you react when you're angry can help you express your feelings more constructively.
Emotional management
Learning emotion management skills can be helpful, including educating yourself about your emotions, understanding how emotions manifest in your daily life, and identifying triggers for your emotions. It may also be helpful to learn how to acknowledge and accept your emotional experiences rather than trying to get rid of them, so you can learn how to manage them when necessary. cognitive behavioral therapy.
Using the principles of cognitive behavioral therapy can also be helpful, such as learning to replace unhelpful thought patterns with helpful ones, as well as practicing skills and strategies to manage intense emotions when they occur.
It is important that you learn how
To set boundaries and communicate negative feelings constructively. Suppressing anger can damage our relationships and affect our mental and physical health. If you tend to repress your anger, it may be helpful to start becoming more aware of why you feel angry, how you respond in those situations, and how it affects your life and relationships. A mental health professional can help you overcome some of the anger-related issues you experience.
Allah says
“فجاءته إحداهما تمشي على استحياء قالت إن أبي يدعوك ليجزيك أجر ما سقيت لنا”سورة القصص الآية: 25
“One of them came to him, walking timidly, and said, ‘My father is calling for you, May He reward you for what you watered for us.” Surah Al-Qasas, verse 25
The two women quickly returned with the sheep to their father. He denied their situation and their quick arrival, so he asked them about their news, so they told him what Moses, peace be upon him, had done, He sent one of them to him to invite him to her father. God Almighty said: (Then one of them came to him, walking timidly) meaning: the walk of free women, as was narrated on the authority of the Commander of the Faithful Omar, may God be pleased with him, He said: She was covered with the sleeve of her armor. And Ibn Abi Hatim said: [My father told us, Abu Naim told us, Israel told us, on the authority of Abu Ishaq, on the authority of Omar bin Maimun, he said: Omar, may God be pleased with him, said: She came walking shyly, saying with her dress over her face, Aisha - may God be pleased with her - said: (I used to enter my house in which the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - and my father were buried, and put on my dress, And I say: He is my husband and my father. When Omar was buried with them, By God, I did not enter it unless my clothes were tied around me. Because of Omar's shyness.)
The Psychology of shyness
The science behind why some of us are shy
Only about 30% of shyness as a trait is due to genetics, and the rest comes as a response to the environment. Most of what we know about the genetics of shyness comes from studies comparing shyness in identical twins - who are perfect genetic copies of each other - with fraternal twins, who share about half the amount of shyness as a trait. Just the genes themselves.
In the past decade or so, scientists like Ely have begun to look at DNA itself to try to find genetic variants that might have an impact on personality and mental health.
Each individual genetic variant has only a small effect, but when you look at the thousands combined, the effect becomes even more pronounced. Even in this case, the effect of genes on shyness cannot be viewed in isolation.
Stay away from the adultery
Allah says
«وَالَّذِينَ هُمْ لِفُرُوجِهِمْ حَافِظُونَ»
“And those who guard their private parts.”
The believer avoids adultery and everything that leads to it in terms of words or actions, such as looking, touching, or anything else. Ibn Ashour said in his interpretation: The preservation: Maintenance and constipation. and guarding the private parts is known, i.e. from intercourse, and the exception in his saying: “except for their spouses” etc. is an exception from the generality of matters of protection that are indicated by the letter “al,” meaning they guard them over everything that is preserved except for the things related to them that are their spouses or what their right hands possess, what is intended is to separate the two types from among the rest of the types of women. This is a summary that is explained by the details of the rulings regarding the number of wives and what is permissible among them alone or in combination. And details of the circumstances from the event of dissolution of the usufruct, or the condition of the waiting period, all of that is known to those being addressed, and likewise with regard to female slaves. His saying: They are not to blame is a statement in addition to the rule of the concept of exception, because the exception does not indicate more than the fact that failure to protect spouses and owned property does not prevent farming, I would like to further clarify that it also does not necessitate legitimate blame, so this indicates, in the sense, that failure to protect someone other than them necessitates legitimate blame, so that believers may beware of it.
Allah says
التَّائِبُونَ الْعَابِدُونَ الْحَامِدُونَ السَّائِحُونَ الرَّاكِعُونَ السَّاجِدُونَ الْآمِرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَالنَّاهُونَ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ وَالْحَافِظُونَ لِحُدُودِ اللَّهِ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ
Those who repent, worship, praise, and fast, the kneeling, the prostrating, the enjoining what is right, and those who forbid evil, and keep the limits of God, and give good tidings to the believers.
Among the characteristics of these believers who have the good news of entering Paradise is that they are repentant and return from what God hates to what He loves and is pleased with. They are sincere in their worship of God alone and found obedience to Him, Those who thank God for everything He has tested them with, whether good or evil, those who fast, those who kneel in their prayers, those who prostrate in it, and those who command people to do everything that God and His Messenger have commanded, and they forbid them from everything that God and His Messenger have forbidden, those who perform God’s obligations, those who adhere to His commands and prohibitions, those who obey Him, and who abide by His limits. O Prophet, give good tidings to those believers who are characterized by these qualities of God’s pleasure and paradise.
In the noble hadith
Indeed, God Almighty extends His hand at night so that the sinner of the day maybe repent, And he stretched out his hand during the day, to repent the sinner of the night, until the sun rises from the west” (Narrated by Muslim), In a narration by Al-Tirmidhi, who classified it as hasan, and on the authority of Ibn Umar, on the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, he said: (Indeed, God accepts the servant’s repentance as long as the soul not leave the body in the last hour of his life); Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi
The psychology of repentance
Allen Bergin, prominent psychotherapist and religious psychologist He analyzed the psychology of repentance from the Mormon perspective. The process of repentance involves confronting oneself, self-control, and self-sacrifice. The latter includes restoration, reconciliation, restoration, and forgiveness.
The psychological and social effects of repentance
The criminal or deviant must realize, even for a while, in his conscience, that the person who violates the tradition of this existence; A disobedient, naughty, harmful being, who understands that the society around him hates him and views him as the garbage of society and the secretion of a dangerous disease that poisons human life and poses a threat to his security and peace. This concept leaves behind a feeling of lack of growth. Therefore, opening the door to repentance is more beneficial for such a person, restores confidence to him, and saves him from feeling pressured by society and alienated from him.
It is certain that society has an enormous psychological impact
On the nerves of the criminal and the deviant. It also looks at those who commit sin or fall into the abyss of vices. Its regulations remain a basis for evaluating and dealing with this criminal.
Allah says
تَتَجَافَى جُنُوبُهُمْ عَنِ الْمَضَاجِعِ يَدْعُونَ رَبَّهُمْ خَوْفًا وَطَمَعًا وَمِمَّا رَزَقْنَاهُمْ يُنْفِقُونَ [السجدة:
تَتَجَافَى جُنُوبُهُمْ عَنِ الْمَضَاجِعِ يَدْعُونَ رَبَّهُمْ خَوْفًا, Their sides stay away from their beds, They call upon their Lord in fear and hope, and spend out of what We have provided them [Al-Sajdah وَطَمَعًا وَمِمَّا رَزَقْنَاهُمْ يُنْفِقُونَ [السجدة:
تَتَجَافَى جُنُوبُهُمْ عَنِ الْمَضَاجِعِ يَدْعُونَ رَبَّهُتَتَجَافَى تَتَجَافَى جُنُوThe Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: God Almighty said: I have prepared for My righteous servants what no eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no human heart has ever thought of. and in some of his narrations: No close angel or sent prophet knows him. Abu Hurairah said in some of his narrations: (And read if you wish: No soul knows what has been hidden for them of comfort for eyes as a reward for what they used to do.)
The idea of praying
As we know that prayer is a connection between the servant and his Lord, and likewise sincere supplication is still the main gateway to this religion. Whoever does not pray to God becomes angry with him, as it has been proven from the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, He said: If you had not sinned, God would have taken you away and brought a people who would sin and ask for forgiveness and He would forgive them.
Who is God calling? Need something, right?
Everyone needs God for something, and whoever has everything may become bored and depressed with the routine of life. If you had not possessed a new ambition that you wake up every day and try to achieve and ask God - the Almighty - to fulfill it for you, life would have been impossible and you would have refused to wake up from sleep in the first place, God Almighty has many doors through which His servants enter, including fasting, prayer, etc. Do you know which of them is the quickest? (Brokenness) Yes, God loves those who are broken. Do not pray while you are exalted, but rather be broken, for the Almighty will mend your brokenness with His permission alone, with no partner.بُهُمْ عَنِ الْمَضَاجِعِ يَدْعُونَ رَبَّهُمْ خَوْفًا وَطَ
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Allah says
وَالْمُؤْمِنُونَ وَالْمُؤْمِنَاتُ بَعْضُهُمْ أَوْلِيَاءُ بَعْضٍ ۚ يَأْمُرُونَ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَيَنْهَوْنَ عَنِ الْمُنكَرِ وَيُقِيمُونَ الصَّلَاةَ وَيُؤْتُونَ الزَّكَاةَ وَيُطِيعُونَ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ ۚ أُولَٰئِكَ سَيَرْحَمُهُمُ اللَّهُ ۗ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ (71)
And the believing men and believing women are allies of one another, they enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong, they perform prayer and pay zakat, and they obey God and His Messenger. These are the ones whom God will have mercy on. Indeed, God is Mighty, Wise. (71)
As stated in the Sahih: The believer to the believer is like a building that supports one another and the interlacing of his fingers. also in the Sahih: The example of the believers in their mutual love and compassion is like a single body, If one organ complains of it, the rest of the body suffers from fever and sleeplessness, and God Almighty says: (And they establish prayer and pay zakat) meaning: They obey God and do good to His creation, (And they obey God and His Messenger) meaning: in what He commands and abandoning what He rebukes. (Those will God have mercy on) meaning: God will have mercy on whoever is characterized by these qualities. (Indeed, God is Mighty, All-Wise.) That is: Mighty, whoever obeys him, he honors him, for glory belongs to God, to His Messenger, and to the believers, (Wise) In assigning these qualities to these people, and singling out the hypocrites with their advanced qualities, He has wisdom in all that He, Blessed and Most High, does.
The idea of enjoining good and forbidding evil
The idea of the ship in which we live until we reach the last shore (the afterlife)
Imagine that it stops at stations and each one individually descends at one of the stations of life (death), until the last one of us finishes, then we all meet there and disperse, one team to Paradise and the other to Hell, If everyone had left (some) the ship would have been wrecked, we would all have died, Life includes politics, sociology, economics, natural resources, and other things, We assume that we, as an Islamic nation, are a third of those living in the world - just an assumption - and the other two-thirds are non-Muslims, and God Almighty says: (If there are twenty of you who are patient, they will defeat two hundred, (65) And if there are a hundred of you, they will defeat a thousand of those who disbelieve, because they are a people who do not understand. (65)) I mean: The ratio and proportion between Muslims and others is truly unreasonable, and yet God - the Almighty - commands us to enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong, and the life of this nation depends on this matter, so why? If every Muslim who is good in himself is good for others, he will be good in his field of work, (Perhaps his work was in politics, or in sociology, or economics, or administration, or life coaching or something else.) The whole earth would have been connected and the ship would have been repaired, To take us to the last stations of all, without anyone being stuck on the borders of countries or drowning others or other corruptions that claimed souls before lives.
May you always be a true believer