One of the features of moderation is fairness when it comes to disagreement
Be fair to so-and-so: fulfill his rights
He split the prize with his colleague: he took half of it and his colleague took the other half.
He has gray hair: it has reached half of his head.
The middle of the day: It has reached the middle of the night.
The fairness
giving half
The justice
is in this and in other things
Fairness is a language Taken from (Al-Nisf). The basic principle of using a thing is that it is shared equally between two people, so whoever takes half of it without adding anything more has done justice, whoever gives his partner half of it without any diminution, he will be fair. Whoever makes a ruling or divides between two partners, so, he gave each one half of it, without any increase or decrease, for he was fair, then the use of the word and its derivatives expanded, to indicate equality between people, in what they have and what they owe, whether it is half or something else that is due, and whether it is in things, actions, or words.
From the previous linguistic meanings and others, we understand the following:
Someone has a right to you, so you have more than one way to give him his right
1 - You take away his rights and do not give him anything, and it is called injustice.
2- Giving him his full rights, even if it is at your own expense. This is called altruism.
3- Giving him half of his rights and you take the second half voluntarily. This is called fairness.
What does it mean to give him half, i.e. deduct a full half from your right and give it to him? This is a time for love and serenity, which is nice of you, while it is a time for quarrels and disagreements.
Some verses that came about fairness
Allah says
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ بِالْقِسْطِ شُهَدَاءَ لِلَّهِ وَلَوْ عَلَى أَنْفُسِكُمْ أو الْوَالِدَيْنِ وَالْأَقْرَبِينَ) «النساء/135»
O you who have believed, be upholding justice, witnesses for God, even if it is against yourselves or the parents and the relatives.) “An-Nisa’/135.”
We benefit from the following noble verse:
The fulfilling God’s rights
bear witness to the truth even if it will harm you again.
The Justice
justice and settlement
Guardianship: including that the man undertakes all of the woman’s material and non-material rights.
Allah says
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا كُونُوا قَوَّامِينَ لِلَّهِ شُهَدَاءَ بِالْقِسْطِ وَلَا يَجْرِمَنَّكُمْ شَنَآَنُ قَوْمٍ عَلَى أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا اعْدِلُوا هُوَ أَقْرَبُ لِلتَّقْوَى وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ «المائدة"
Shan'an: : they hated one another
O you who have believed, what is the meaning of this speech? God Almighty says in more than one place (Do the people think that they will say, “We believe” and they will not be tried?) Here in the verse is the highest level of temptation.
Then what is the location of the temptation? Hate, and how do you know what hatred is? Psychologists say that there are three things that bring out your true self (your conscious mind): 1 - Writing. 2- Anger. - 3 - Sadness. Hatred, my dear brother, brings out your precious metal if it is precious.
Allah says
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آَمَنُوا إِذَا ضَرَبْتُمْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ فَتَبَيَّنُوا وَلَا تَقُولُوا لِمَنْ أَلْقَى إِلَيْكُمُ السَّلَامَ لَسْتَ مُؤْمِنًا تَبْتَغُونَ عَرَضَ الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا فَعِنْدَ اللَّهِ مَغَانِمُ كَثِيرَةٌ كَذَلِكَ كُنْتُمْ مِنْ قَبْلُ فَمَنَّ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكُمْ فَتَبَيَّنُوا إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ بِمَا تَعْمَلُونَ خَبِيرًا) «النساء/94» “«4 ».
O you who have believed, when you strike in the way of God, be clear and do not say to the one who greeted you, you are not a believer, you seek things of the life of this world, God has many spoils, God has many spoils, thus you were before, so God has bestowed upon you, so Find out, that God is ever aware of what you do.) “An-Nisa’: 94” “4”.
We benefit from the following noble verse
1 - That is, if your feet hit the ground for the sake of God (whether jihad, knowledge, work, or anything else) This was for the sake of God. So stop at your limit and do not pass judgment on anyone without clarifying (so clarify), meaning you know the thing clearly.
2 - And the other prohibition: Do not say to the one who greets you, “You are not a believer, like me” (I am the believer closest to God, isn’t this the case?) No, no, do not do it, when he greets you with the apparent greeting, and God takes care of the secrets.
3 - Why do you do this, to say to someone, “you are not a believer”: Now answer between you and yourself? No one will take care of you except your Lord. May He helps you? to be told that you are better than him, to get a position, a husband, or any benefit? To prove to everyone that you are the best... and... and... .
4 - With God’s provision for you, your provision will never be fair to someone else’s characteristics, even if your provision is not as high in level of faith as yours. Why? Because God has many spoils.
6 - Then he begins to accuse your incomplete faith. Yes, yes, we all have faith. Our faith increases and decreases. (And so were you.) So it was a blessing from God Almighty - through faith... So understand why. God came the word ( clarify ) twice?
God is aware of what you do, and what does that mean? You are told that an antiquities expert turns an antiquity in his hands and knows everything about it, and you and I do not understand anything about that, t is said that he is an expert, an appraiser, an expert in jewelry, etc. So God is an expert in what? In the souls, in what is going on within yourself, in your psychological defense mechanism for your noble self, whether this defense is mature enough or like a child.
Second: Some hadiths that talked about fairness
On the authority of Aisha, who said: ((A woman borrowed jewelry from people she knew, but she did not know, so she sold it, she took its price and brought it to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and its people sought Usama bin Zayd, He spoke to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, about it, and the face of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, colored as he was speaking to him. Then the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said to him: He said: Are you intercede for me regarding one of the limits set by God? Osama said, “Ask forgiveness for me, O Messenger of God.” Then the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, rose that evening and praised God. Glory be to Him, Because of what he deserved, then he said, “as for what follows, the people were perished before you, If the honorable among them stole, they would leave him alone, and if the weak among them stole, they would impose punishment on him, By the one in whose hand is Muhammad’s soul, if Fatima, the daughter of Muhammad, had stolen, I would have cut off her hand. Then he cut off that woman.))
On the authority of Umm Salamah, may God be pleased with her, she said: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “You are disputing to me, and perhaps some of you will be more melody to his argument than others, so I decide for him according to what I hear from him. Whoever has his brother’s rights cut off for him, let him not take it, for I have cut off for him a portion of the Fire.” Narrated by Muslim.
The Melody
Look at the wording, my honorable brother, as if some speech is melodious, pleasing to him like singing, as the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - says that if two people quarrel and one is ignorant and one is in front of him is educated, then he does not speak well and the other makes speech artful, or one of them knows psychological sciences and the other does not understand it, or one of them knows the law well, He studies the loopholes and the other does not even know the law that is fair to him, so the trial is not fair, right? Then the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - warns: He is not responsible for this, so who is responsible? You, yes you, if you take more than your right or part of the right of the person in front of you, It is a piece of fire that precedes the fire of the afterlife, so congratulations to you. May God Almighty protect us through His grace, not His justice.
We now turn to psychology
Equity theory posits that when it comes to relationships, two concerns stand out:
(1) How beneficial are their community, family, and work relationships?
(2) How fair and equitable are these relationships? According to equity theory, people feel most comfortable when they get exactly what they deserve from their relationships—no more and certainly no less.
The equity and well-being
Interestingly, research shows that growth in justice and thinking about others leads to higher personal well-being. Fair-mindedness helps us develop mutually supportive relationships with those around us. Research has also found that showing fairness and generosity is intrinsically beneficial. Children under 3 years old understand that sharing can make a person happy (Paulus & Moore, 2017). As social animals, our happiness is closely linked to the happiness of the people around us. Being a source of joy for the people around us can also increase our sense of purpose, which is equally important in promoting our well-being (Gilham et al., 2011
the equity and achievement
Fairness also supports a positive classroom environment, which predicts personal and academic flourishing. Students are more likely to try new skills, be motivated and earn better grades in an environment where they feel supported and can expect to be fairly evaluated for their hard work (Dweck, Walton, and Cohen, 2014). Fairness is also important in equal divisions of labor on group tasks and performing tasks with others, which Gregory Walton and colleagues (2011) found to be academically motivating.
Research has also found that
being a fair person, not just in a fair environment, has a positive impact on our academic achievement. For example, a study of Italian schoolchildren (Caprara et al., 2000) found that displaying just and prosocial behavior at age 9 was a better predictor of grades at age 14 than their grades at age 9. through well-being, meaning that the effect may It occurs because justice increases well-being. Specifically, this may occur because developing fair and supportive relationships with each other supports positive development and motivation, which enhances academic achievement, and reduces vulnerability to depression and antisocial behavior, which undermines academics.
The meaning of fairness, religiously and psychologically, is over now
. Dear fair and generous: Would you please be fair to the people around you for your sake, not for them, for your sense of social well-being and psychological well-being?
And remember that
The highest degree of loyalty to God (being fair to others than to oneself)