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Grandmother's family rights
Allah says
“اللَّهُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ ضَعْفٍ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِنْ بَعْدِ ضَعْفٍ قُوَّةً ثُمَّ جَعَلَ مِنْ بَعْدِ قوَّةٍ ضَعْفاً وَشَيْبَةً يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ وَهُوَ الْعَلِيمُ الْقَدِيرُ”، الروم، 54.
“It is God who created you from weakness, then made after weakness strength, then He made after strength weakness and gray hair, He creates whatever He wills, and He is the Knowing, the Powerful.” Al-Rum, 54.
1- Child custody right
Grandparents have the right to custody of the child as well as guardianship when both parents are unable to perform their duties, the right of grandparents to custody follows custody after parents in Islam.
2- The right to visit the grandmother
Grandparents have the right to be visited regularly by their grandchildren if they live far from them, they should not be neglected simply because they are old or incapacitated, Having grandparents even in old age is indeed a privilege, not everyone can get it.
The grandchildren must respect the grandfather and grandmother as parents
The best of creation, our master Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, said about respecting those who were the oldest in age, “He is not one of us who does not show mercy to our young and honor our elders.” It was narrated by Al-Tirmidhi and classed as hasan. The grandparents are older than the parents, as is the duty of the parents, respect them, grandchildren have the same obligation to respect grandparents, like parents on an equal footing.
4- The right to alimony for the grandfather and grandmother
When the grandchildren are able to earn money on their own and their grandparents are still alive, It must be spent on them as it is spent on the parents, as Islam considers the ancestors to be like the parents, their presence is necessary and important in life, and their maintenance is on the children and on the parents as well.
Ibn Al-Mundhir said
Grandparents are fathers, and grandmothers are mothers, so one does not go on raids except with their permission, I do not know a sign that necessitates this for other brothers and other relatives.
bn Hazm said
In his book, the ranks of consensus on the agreement of scholars, on the premise of righteousness, He said: “They agreed that honoring one’s parents is obligatory, and they agreed that honoring the grandfather is obligatory.”
Mother's family rights
First: the Holy Quran
Allah says
َقَضَى رَبُّكَ أَلا تَعْبُدُوا إِلا إِيَّاهُوَبِالْوَالِدَيْنِ إِحْسَانًا إِمَّا يَبْلُغَنَّ عِنْدَكَ الْكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَا أوْ كِلاهُمَا فَلا تَقُلْ لَهُمَا أُفٍّ وَلا تَنْهَرْهُمَا وَقُلْ لَهُمَا قوْلا كَرِيمًا وَاخْفِضْ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ الذُّلِّ مِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ وَقُلْ ربِّ ارْحَمْهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرًا } الإسراء(23، 24).
Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him,and be benefactor to the parents, either one or both of them reach old age with you, so do not say to them a 'ff', and do not rebuke them, but speak to them honorably, and lower to them the wing of humiliation out of mercy, And say, “My Lord, have mercy on them as they brought me up when I was young .” Al-Isra’
(23, 24).
Allah says
آية15″وَوَصَّيْنَا الْإِنْسَانَ بِوَالِدَيْهِ إِحْسَانًا حَمَلَتْهُ أُمُّهُ كُرْهًا وَوَضَعَتْهُ كُرْهًا وحَمْلُهُ وَفِصَالُهُ ثَلَاثُونَ شَهْرًا حَتَّى إِذَا بَلَغَ أَشُدَّهُ وبَلَغَ أَرْبَعِينَ سَنَةً قَالَ رَبِّ أَوْزِعْنِي أَنْ أَشْكُرَ نِعْمَتَكَ الَّتِي أَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيَّ وَعَلَى وَالِدَيَّ وَأَنْ أَعْمَلَ صَالِحًا تَرْضَاهُ وأَصْلِحْ لِي فِي ذُرِّيَّتِي إِنِّي تُبْتُ إِلَيْكَ وَإِنِّي مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ (15) أُولَئِكَ الَّذِينَ نَتَقَبَّلُ عَنْهُمْ أَحْسَنَ مَا عمِلُوا وَنَتَجَاوَزُ عَنْ سَيِّئَاتِهِمْ فِي أَصْحَابِ الْجَنَّةِ وَعْدَ الصِّدْقِ الَّذِي كَانُوا يُوعَدُونَ (16) وَالَّذِي قَالَ لِوَالِدَيْهِ أُفٍّ
لَكُمَا أَتَعِدَانِنِي أَنْ أُخْرَجَ وَقَدْ خَلَتِ الْقُرُونُ مِنْ قَبْلِي وهُمَا يَسْتَغِيثَانِ اللَّهَ وَيْلَكَ آَمِنْ إِنَّ وَعْدَ اللَّهِ حَقٌّ”.
And We enjoined on the human being his parents a favor thathis mother bore him with hate and gave birth to him with hate, and his pregnancyand weaning were thirty months, until, he reaches the age of forty, he says, "My Lord, enable me to be grateful for Your favor which You have bestowedupon me and on my parents, and that I do righteous deeds that will please You, reform
to me of my offspring, I have repented to you, and I am of the Muslims (15) those from whom We accept the best of theirdeeds and overlook their bad deeds among the companions of Paradise, a promise of the truth that they were promised (16) And he who said to his parents, "Uff for you! do you promise me to be expelled when centuries have passed before me, and they seek God’s help, woe to you! Indeed, God’s promise is
true.”
Second: The Honorable Hadiths
It came in the Two Sahihs from the hadith of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him, who said
A man came to the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and said: O Messenger of God, who among the people is most deserving of my good companionship? He said: Your mother. He said: Then who? He said: Then your mother, He said: Then who? He said: Then your mother, He said: Then who? He said: Then your father.
Ibn Majah narrated from the hadith of Muawiyah Binjahama Al-Salami, may God be pleased with him, who said
I came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said: O Messenger of God, I wanted to fight with you, seeking the face of God, and the home of the Hereafter: He said: Woe to you, is your mother alive? I said: Yes, O Messenger of God. He said: Woe to you, Stick to her legs, then heaven.
Al-Bazzar tells that there was a man
By circumambulating, carrying his mother, circumambulating her, The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, asked, “Have I fulfilled her right? He said: No, not with a single exhale.
A man came to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said
I have sinned, is there any repentance for me? He said: "Do you have a mother?" he said no, He said: “Do you have an maternal aunt?” He said: Yes, He said: so do righteous to her.
r The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
“It is among the greatest of major sins that a man curses his parents, It was said, O Messenger of God, how can a man curse his parents? He said, “The man insults a father of someone, so the man insults his father and curses his mother.”
The right of a mother who associates with God
Asma bint Abi Bakr asked
The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, on the relationship of her polytheistic mother, and she came to her, and he said to her: “Yes, reconcile to your mother.”
Examples of mothers in the Qur'an
Musa's mother
She responds to God's revelation and inspiration, and she throws her child and the pleasure of her liver into the sea, reassured by the promise of her Lord: Allah says (( (And We inspired Musa's mother to breastfeed him, and if you fear for him, then throw him in the sea, don't be afraid and do not grieve, we will return him to you and make him one of the messengers))
Mother of Mary
who vowed what was in her womb to set free for God, Devoid of all polytheism or servitude to others, praying to God to accept her vow: Allah says (( (Then accept from me, for You are the Hearing, the Knowing)) when the baby was a female
And Mary, the daughter of Imran, the mother of Christ Jesus - peace be upon him -
The Qur’an made it a sign of purification, humility to God, and belief in His words, Allah says (( (And Mary, daughter of Imran, who guarded her chastity, so We breathed into it of Our Spirit, and she believed in the words of her Lord and His books, and she was of the obedient ones). And God knows best
The right of a divorced mother
A woman came to the Messenger of God and told him that my womb was his vessel, and my breasts have waterskins, and my pelvis has an enclosure, and that his father divorced me and wanted to take him away from me, the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “You are more entitled to him as long as you do not marry.”
Fourth: Spending on the poor mother
Scholars differed as to the distribution of alimony in the event of the meeting of male and female ( the rich children)
Ibn Qudamah said
And if a son and a daughter meet, then the alimony between them is in threes, like the inheritance
Abu Hanifa said
Spending on them as well - because they are both close
Al-Shafi'i said
Alimony is on the son because he is the league and we have the saying of God Almighty (( {And the heir shall do the same}).
Sister's family rights
Allah says
﴿ يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ اتَّقُوا رَبَّكُمُ الَّذِي خَلَقَكُمْ مِنْ نَفْسٍ وَاحِدَةٍ وَخَلَقَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا وَبَثَّ مِنْهُمَا رجَالًا كَثِيرًا وَنِسَاءً وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ الَّذِي تَسَاءَلُونَ بِهِ وَالْأَرْحَامَ إنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ عَلَيْكُمْ رَقِيبًا ﴾ [الساء: 1]
O people, fear your Lord, who created you from a single soul, and He created her husband from it, and dispersed from them many men and women, and pious Allah by whom you ask, and the kinship, Indeed, Allah is ever Sergeant over you.” [Al-Sa’a: 1]
The story of the Messenger of God with his sister Al-Shaima (his sister through breastfeeding)
A story with his sister, Al-Shaima bint Al-Harith, when she was captured by Bani Saad. She said: O Messenger of God: I am your sister through breast-feeding, He said: What is the sign of that? She said: A bite you bit me on my back, and I am sitting on your leg, so the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - recognized the sign, He spread his mantle for her, made her sit on it, and gave her goodness, saying: “If you like, I have an honorable beloved, and if I wanted to make you enjoy yourself and you would go back to your people, I would, She said: Rather, you will enjoy me and bring me back to my people, He gave her a boy and a maidservant and returned her to her people, and in a narration, he said to her: “Ask, and you will be given, and intercede, and you will be interceded.”
Sister's rights
1- Good maintenance her and spending on her
On the authority of Abu Saeed Al-Khudri, he said: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “He who has three daughters, or three sisters, or two daughters, or two sisters, so keep good company with them, And pious Allah in them, for He will have Paradise.” (Narrated by Al-Tirmidhi).
On his authority, he said: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said “Whoever takes care of three daughters, discipline them and marry them, And do good to them, and they will be in Paradise" In a narration, he said: “Three sisters or three daughters, or two daughters or two sisters »(Narrated by Abu Dawood).
On the authority of Umm Salama, may God be pleased with her, she said
I heard the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, say: “Whoever spends on two daughters or two sisters, or my relatives, alimony is calculated on them, so that God enriches them of His bounty, the Almighty, or it is sufficient for them, and they are a shield for him from the Fire.” (Narrated by Ahmad).
And peace be upon him said
“Whoever supports two or three daughters or two sisters, Or three sisters until they die or die from them, It was me and him, and he pointed with his index and middle fingers.” (Narrated by Ahmad).
2- Defending the sister and protecting her rights from her husband
Islam also called for defending the sister and preserving her rights, if her husband wanted to oppress or humiliate her, If a divorced woman returns to her brother's house, he must honor her and not force her to return to her husband, except that she is satisfied, willing, honored, and honored, while advising her and taking care of her affairs and intending good for her, Al-Bukhari narrated on the authority of Ma’qil bin Yasar, he said: I married a sister of mine to a man, so he divorced her, Even when her waiting period expired, he came to propose to her, and I said to him: I married you, bedded you, and honored you, so you divorced her, then you came to propose to her? No, by God, it will never come back to you, He was a good man, and the woman wanted to go back to him, so God sent down, this verse: {So do not prevent them from marrying their husbands} (Al-Baqara: 232) I said: Now I do, O Messenger of God, he said: So he married her to him »(Narraed by Al-Bukhari), this is a companion who is keen to protect his sister and her rights, He defends her in front of her husband, who divorced her.
3 - A brother's sacrifice for his sister
(The companion: Jaber Ibn Abdullah)
He says: I fought with the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and he said to me: “Didn’t you get married, Jabir? Virgin or previously married, I said to him: I married the one she was previously married, He said: “Why did you not marry a virgin who would play with you and play with her? I said to him: O Messenger of God, my father died - or was martyred - I have younger sisters, and I hated marrying over them like them, Do not discipline them, and do not stand up to them, so I married women she had previously been married , so that she would rule over them and discipline them.” (Narrated by Muslim)
4 - The right of the sister in connection
How many brothers have nothing to do with his sister except through the phone, How many brothers are fed up with their sister just because she came to visit him?
God Almighty says
{فهل عسيتم إن توليتم أن تفسدوا في الأرض وتقطعواأرحامكم} (محمد: 22)
{Would you then, if you were given aut
{Would you then, if you were given authority, make mischief in the land, and sever your ties of kinship.” (Muhammad: 22)
Among the descriptions of the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - that Khadija described him - may God be pleased with her -
During the revelation to him, she said - may God be pleased with her: “No, by God, God will never disgrace you; you uphold the ties of kinship…”. agreed.
5 - The moral right of the sister's children
The Messenger - may God bless him and grant him peace - called the Ansar on a special matter and said: “Is there anyone among you other than you?” They said: No, except the son of our sister, The Messenger of Allah, peace be upon him, the son of the people’s sister from among them”; Narrated by the two sheikhs.
6- Discharge of her obligations in case of her death
What was narrated by Ibn Abbas - may God be pleased with them both - who said: A woman came to the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, She said: My sister died and she had to fast for two consecutive months, He said: “Did you see that if your sister owed a debt, you would pay it off?” She said: Yes, he said: God's right is more worthy.
7 - He should not prevent her from marrying
does not prevent her from marriage; greed for her money, or indifference to her need, or he exchanges it for his sister and says: Give me your sister in marriage, and I will give you my sister in marriage, this is the shighar that the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, forbade, or the rich bargain on her, and hate her on whom she do not want for his money or company, or he takes something from her dowry, and it is hers, and nothing is permissible for him, from him except for the kindness of them.
wife's family right
First: the Holy Quran
Note
Acoustomed is: like what the people of righteousness have known in society
Allah says
﴿ وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُمْ مَوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً إِنَّ فِي ذلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِقَوْمٍ يتَفَكَّرُونَ ﴾ [الروم: 21].
{And among His signs is that He created for you mates from yourselves so that you Thou shalt dwell to, and placed between you affection and mercy, Indeed, there are signs in that for people who reflect.” [Al-Rum: 21].
And serenity: reassurance
and people, and stability; That is, to become familiar with her and to be reassured by her, so God made the woman a residence for the man to take take shelter with her, He is reassured by her, and settles with her, so he explained that homes should be built on tranquility, which leads to stability in marital life.
and placed between you affection and mercy
In this verse, it is clear that the relationship between a man and his wife is based on love, affection, and intimacy. because she is the weakest link.
Allah says
وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِنْ كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَنْتَكْرَهُوا شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللَّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا
) And live with them with accustomed, If you dislike them, perhaps you dislike something and God places in it a lot of good.
What is the accustomed with good?
The cohabitation: from the ten, which is: mixing, and favor: it is what the Lawgiver defines: He enjoined kindness towards women, mercy towards them, and good manners towards them, by being kind to them in the speech , and beautifying them in action.
Al-Ghazali said in Al-Ihya’ (2/43)
“And good-natured interaction is done by treating her kindly, and refraining from harming her, rather, the Prospect the harmful from her, and gentle about her indiscretion and anger, following the example of the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - as his wives used to revise his speech, rather, he increases the possibility of harming her through foreplay, Joking and petting, they are what sweeten women's hearts, and the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - was joking with them.
Allah says
{وَلَهُنَّ مِثْلُ الَّذِي عَلَيْهِنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَلِلرِّجَالِ عَلَيْهِنَّ دَرَجَةٌ وَاللَّهُ عَزِيزٌ حَكِيمٌ} البقرة(228).
{And for them is the same as that which is due upon them with acustomed, and men have a degree over them, And God is Mighty, Wise} Al-Baqara (228).
Second: the purified hadiths
PBUH" said
recommendation to the women with good
On the authority of Samura bin Jundub - may God be pleased with him - he said: The Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - said:
((The woman was created from a rib, and if you set her straight, you will break her, trick her, live with her))
In Muslim's narration
((Would not you upright on a way, If you enjoy her, you will enjoy her, and she is crooked.))
In the another Muslim narration
((And if you go to straighten her, you break her, and broke her divorce her))
The Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - said
((Allah is asking each shepherd about what he has entrusted him with, preserved or lost, until the man asks about his household)
On the authority of Al-Irbad bin Sariyah - may God be pleased with him - he said
I heard the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - say: ((If a man gives his wife water to drink, he will be rewarded))
On the authority of Ibn Abbas - may God be pleased with him -
“I adorn myself for my wife as I would like her to adorn me.”
The woman wants from the husband just as the husband wants from her in beauty, , and adornment, and good manners, and cohabitation with acoustomed.
Acoustomed is: like what the people of righteousness have known in society
Third, the rights of the wife over her husband
1- Alimony is divided into two parts
A - Non-renewable financial rights
Her right to the dowry, and the dowry is a wife's right over her husband, which she takes possession of at the time of the contract, or according to what was agreed upon between them; For God Almighty says: (And give the women their dowry as a gift). [2]
B - Renewable financial rights
The husband must provide the maintenance of food and drink, clothing, housing, treatment and its expenses for women
For God's saying
(and mothers breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who want to complete the breast-feeding, And the one who is born to him is responsible for their provision and their clothing with accustomed)
the Almighty says
(Men are the maintainers of women according to what God has bestowed one upon another, and for what they spent of their money)
3 - Residential
Her right is for him to live in a house that contains all that she needs in her daily life
4 - The clothing
And to provide her with appropriate clothing that covers her and suffices her in the cold of winter and the heat of summer.
5 - Food, drink and treatment
For God's saying
(and mothers breastfeed their children for two full years, for those who want to complete the breast-feeding, And the one who is born is responsible for their sustenance and clothing for them in a accustomed manner.)
And to say the Almighty
(Men are in charge over women, God favors one over the other, And for what they spent of their money)
6 - good relationship with her
The first thing that the husband must perform of the moral rights of his wife is to honor her, to treat her well, and to treat her with accustomed, This leads to reconciliation between their hearts, He must also bear what comes out of it and be patient with her.
God Almighty says
(And live with them with accustomed. If you dislike them, then perhaps that you dislike a thing and Allah puts in it much good) One of the manifestations of complete manhood and sincerity of faith is that one is gentle and tolerant with his family
The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, says
(The most perfect of believers in faith are the ones with the best moral, and the best of you, the best of you to their wives).
And honoring women is evidence of the integrated personality, and insulting them is a sign of meanness
On the authority of Amr bin Al-Ahwas - may God be pleased with him - he said
(He attended the Farewell Pilgrimage with the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, He thanked God and praised Him, reminded and preached.
Then he said
Treat women well, for they are captives with you, you do not own anything from them other than that.)
And from honoring them is caressing them and having fun in their presence, and their treatment is the best that treats anyone of creation
7- Chastity of the wife through sexual intercourse
This is to take into account her right and interest in marriage, and to protect her from sedition, and that,
To say the Almighty
(Then when they are purified, then come to them from where God order you.)
And the Almighty said
(Your women are a field for you, so get your tillage as you wish)
And he, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
(And in one of your private part a charity, They said, O Messenger of God, does one of us fulfill his desire and have a reward for it? He said: Have you seen that if he put it in a forbidden way, he would have a sin on it? They said: Yes, he said so, If he put it in halal, he will have a reward)).
What is meant by that intercourse is to obtain pleasure within the law, to treat her according to what the wise Law commanded during the marital relationship between them, He does not order her to do something forbidden, and he does not do what he was forbidden to do from her, as if he comes to her from the anus, or to have intercourse with her during menstruation, or the like
9- Taking into account the rights of the wife
The woman is obliged by her husband to take care of her and take care of her affairs, He does not make her need other people, and he does whatever he has to do, to ensure security, stability and a comfortable life for them, so she settles down and reassures herself.
10 - Reform the wife
It is a woman's rights that her husband should seek to reform her, If he deems it necessary, And to help her to obey and command her and encourage her to do so.
Daughter's family right
Allah says
وَإِذَا بُشِّرَ أَحَدُهُمْ بِالْأُنْثَى ظَلَّ وَجْهُهُ مُسْوَدًّا وَهُوَ كَظِيمٌ* يَتَوَارَى مِنَ الْقَوْمِ مِنْ سُوءِ مَا بُشِّرَ بهِ أَيُمْسِكُهُ عَلَى هُونٍ أمْ يَدُسُّهُ فِي التُّرَابِ أَلَا سَاءَ مَا يحْكُمُونَ) النحل/58، 59.
And when one of them is given the glad tidings of a female, his face will remain black and he will be kathem (full of anger and distress) hides from the people because of the bad news, does he hold him with an insult or thrust it into the dust, Is it not bad that they judge? (An-Nahl: 58, 59)
Allah says
{لِّلَّـهِ مُلْكُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ ۚ يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۚ يَهَبُ لِمَن يَشَاءُ إِنَاثًا} [الشورى من الآية:49]
{To God belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth, ۚ He creates what He wills ۚ He bestows females upon whom He wills} [Al-Shura: 49]
The reward for raising daughters
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said
(Whoever is afflicted with girls by something, and treats them kindly, they will be a shield for him from the Fire.) Agreed upon.
It is proven in the Two Sahihs on the authority of Ibn Omar, may God be pleased with them, On the authority of the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, he said:
(All of you are shepherds, and each of you is responsible for his subjects) Agreed upon
The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, says
(Whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood, he and I will come on the Day of Resurrection) and he joined his fingers. [Sahih Muslim 4/ 2027]. And in a novel:
(He who takes care of two girls, he and I will enter Paradise as these two), He pointed with his fingers. [Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 4/ 319]
For may God bless him and grant him peace
“No one from my ummah can support three daughters or three sisters, If he does good to them, they will be a shield for him from the Fire.” (Sahih Al-Jami’, No. 5372)
The rights of the daughter over her parents in general and over her father in particular
1- Choosing a good mother
This will not be achieved unless the husband chooses a righteous wife for himself. The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, says: (a woman gets married for four things: her money, her lineage, her beauty, and her religion, so be victorious with who's carry religion, your hands will be dusty) agreed; Because she is a good woman, and she is keen to give her daughter a good upbringing as well
2 - To make doa'a before the wife prgnant in his daughter
The father is keen to protect his daughter from the devil by praying for her before she is born, The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, says: (If one of them wanted to get to his family, he would say: In the name of God, God save us from Satan, And keep Satan away from what You have given us, For if a child is destined between them, Satan will never harm him.” Agreed upon.
3- Reciting the Adhan in her ear immediately after giving birth
1. To say the call to prayer in her right ear, say the Iqamh in her left ear. [Isnad al-Matalib 1/ 125]
4- Tahnik with dates
On the authority of Anas, may God be pleased with him, he said: “I went with Abdullah bin Abi Talha Al-Ansari to the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, when he was born, the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, was wearing a cloak, comforting his camel, He said: (Do you have dates?) I said: Yes, so I gave him dates, He put them in his mouth and chewed them, then he opened the mouth of the boy and put it in his mouth, the the boy taste it, The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “The Ansar love dates" and he named him Abdullah.” [Sahih Muslim 3/ 1689].
5- Naming with good name
And he called it Hasan, because the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, used to change ugly names into good names, Ibn Omar, may God be pleased with them both, narrated that a daughter of Omar, may God be pleased with him, was called Asiyah, The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, called her (beautiful). [Sunan Ibn Majah 2/ 1230].
6- Slaughtering a sheep for its ‘aqeeqah
On the authority of Aisha, may God be pleased with him, that the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: (For a boy, two sheep are rewarded, and for a slave girl, one sheep, Musnad Ahmad 40/30] It is Sunnah to cook it like all banquets, and it is cooked with sweets out of optimism With the sweetness of the morals of the newborn” [Mughni Al-Muhtaaj 6/140].
7- Separating her from her male brothers in the beds
The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, says: “Order your children to pray when they are seven years old, and beat them on it, when they are ten years old, and separate them in their beds.” [Sunan Abi Dawood 1/133]
8 - That her father allow her to study and obtain an academic degree
The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “Seeking knowledge is obligatory for every Muslim.” [Sunan
9- The right to own what she earns from her work or what is given to her
God Almighty said: (And women have a share of what they have earned) An-Nisa/32, And the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, says: (The property of a Muslim is not permissible except with his willingness) [Musnad Ahmad 34/299]
10 - Marry her
Says the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace
(He who raises three daughters, discipline them, marry them, and do good to them, and he will have Paradise.” [Sunan Abi Dawood 7/459]
11 - Marrying a man of moral character and religion
And to marry her to a man of religious commitment and character, according to the words of the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him: (If someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you, marry him, If you do not do so, there will be discord and corruption in the land.) They said: O Messenger of God, and if he is in it? He said: (If someone whose religion and character you are pleased with comes to you, marry him) three times. [Sunan Al-Tirmidhi 3/387]
The father is required to
He searches for a fiancé for his daughter, and asks trustworthy people about his commitment to his religion and morals, If they bear witness to his religious commitment and morals, marry him, otherwise, it is not permissible for him to marry her to an immoral person who does not fear God Almighty in her, The father should ask about the suitor’s religion and character before asking about his job or home, It is not permissible for the father to prevent the girl from marrying her for any purpose, whether it is greed for her money, or a deviant thought in his mind, or a bad habit, because God Almighty says: (So do not prevent them) Al-Baqara / 232.
- If she - meaning the girl - desires a specific match
He wanted to marry her off to another of her equals, and he refused to marry her off to whom she wanted, was a hindrance to it. As for if she asked to marry someone who is not compatible with her, He may prevent her from that, and he is not preventing her from doing so, because if she married someone other than her match, he would have the right to annul the marriage, so it is better to prevent him from the beginning.” [Al-Mughni by Ibn Qudamah] And because his behavior will be a disaster for her, then it is the instinct that God Almighty created - man on it and created it in him, she is the one who calls out and demands her right, Woe to those who deny her the right that God Almighty has ordained for her.
The dowry is her right
{وَآتُوا النِّسَاءَ صَدُقَاتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً ۚ فَإِن طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَن شَيْءٍ مِّنْهُ نَفْسًا فَكُلُوهُ هنِيئًا مَّرِيئًا} [النساء:4]. إذًا فصداقُها حقّ لها، وإن أخذتَ شيئًا فاتَّق الله في الأخذ، لا تأخُذ ما يضرّها ويضعف من مكانَتِها.
{And give the women their alms as a gift, If you are satisfied with any of it, then And if you are satisfied with any of it, then eat it with good health.” [An-Nisa: 4]
Therefore, her dowry is her right, and if she takes something, then fear Allah in taking it, do not take what harms her and weakens her position.
Her permission to marry
The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, says: “She should not marry a woman who was previously married until she is commanded, and do not marry a virgin until you ask permission, they said: O Messenger of God, how is her permission? He said: “Be silent.” (Sahih Al-Bukhari)
- Prohibition of shighar marriages
He, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, said: “There is no shighar in Islam, (Sahih Muslim: and the shighar is that the father does not marry the girl until the suitor marries his daughter or sister, If he did not do it, he would not do it, and this is wrong because the matter does not refer to the interests of the father and the mother, rather, it is considered for the interests of the girl, You may not be good to that girl, and she does not desire you, so do not submit her marriage to your own interest, rather, I see her interest above all else.
And if the girl is divorced and returns to her father's house
It is not permissible for him to rebukes her by her divorcing, and he must do good to her; Until God Almighty makes a way for her through another man, If she came out of her period, and returned to her divorced husband, He wants to marry her again, so the saying is her saying, If she wants it, then her father has no right to stop her, from him on the grounds that he divorced her the first time, in such a case the prohibition verse was revealed
Al-Bukhari also narrated on the authority of Al-Hasan Al-Basri, may God Almighty have mercy on him
In the words of God Almighty: {So do not prevent them} [Al-Baqara: 232] He said Ma'qil bin Yasar told me that it was revealed about him. He said: a sister of mine was married to a man, so he divorced her until after her waiting period expired, he came to propose to her, so I said to him: I married you, made you bed, and honored you, so you divorced her, then you came to propose to her, but by God she will never come back to you, He was a good man and the woman wanted to go back to him, so God sent down this verse.] I said, “Now do, O Messenger of God.” He said, “So he married her to him.”
And in a narration, he said Maqil, may God be pleased with him
(Listen to my Lord and obey, so he called her husband and married her to him) In this incident, Al-Hassan, may God Almighty have mercy on him, says: (Allah Almighty knows the man's need for his wife, and the woman’s need for her husband, so God revealed this verse.
The right of the mother aunt / father aunt
The mother aunt
1 - She is like a mother
As narrated by Abu Dawood (2278) on the authority of Ali, may God be pleased with him, on the authority of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace said: (The maternal aunt is like a mother) and it was classed as saheeh by Al-Albani in Sahih Abi Dawood.
The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, performed the rituals of Umrah along with his companions, may God be pleased with them, then he went with them back to Medina for enlightenment, and during his return, and life happened a situation that resulted in a legal ruling
On the authority of Al-Bara bin Azib, may God be pleased with him, he said
When the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, wanted to leave Makkah after performing the Umrah, Hamzah's daughter followed him calling, "O uncle, uncle," and Ali took her, so he took her by her hand and said to Fatimah, may God be pleased with her: Your cousin is without you, Ali, Zaid and Jafar, may God be pleased with them, disputed about her, Ali said: I took her and she is my cousin, Jaafar said: She is the daughter of my uncle and her maternal aunt is under me, Zaid said, “She is my brother’s daughter.” So the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, gave her to her maternal aunt, And he said: The maternal aunt is like the mother, and he said to Ali: You are from me and I am from you.” He said to Ja’far: you are like my character and character, and he said to Zaid: You are our brother and our Mula ) Narrated by Al-Bukhari.
2- Her righteousness is an expiation for sins
(1904) On the authority of Ibn Omar, that a man came to the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said: Oh God, I have committed a grave sin, so do I have to repent? He said, (Do you have a mother?) He said: No. He said: (Do you have an aunt?) He said: Yes, he said: (make good to her).
3 - She is among his mahrams
It is permissible for him to shake hands with her, be alone with her, and travel with her, It is permissible for her to uncover in front of him, as a mother does in front of her children.
The father - Aunt
It is not permissible for you to cut off one of your aunts, but if your visit to them will cause harm, then there is objects of non-visiting relationship, such as communication, gifting, and assistance, and so on, everything that has been customary to be In it is a connection to the kindship, so it was, as previously explained in Fatwa No.: 7683.
Muslim narrated on the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God be pleased with him
A man said: O Messenger of God, I have a relative of their origin and they cut me off, I do good to them and they mistreat me, and I forebearing of them and they are ignorant over me, He said: If you are as you said, it is as if they were eating ashes, and you will still have a backer from God over them as long as you are on that.