آداب ليلة الدخلة والمعاشرة بين الزوجين
1 - امنحها هدية
إذا دخل الزوج بزوجته فإنه يستحب له أن يمتعها بهدية أو شراب أو حلوى، والدليل أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم كان مع عائشة رضي الله عنها ( جاء في الحديث: («إذا أفاد أحدُكم امرأةً أو خادمًا أو دابةً ، فلْيأخذْ بناصيتِها ، وليدْعُ بالبركةِ . وليقلْ : اللهم إني أسألُك من خيرِها ، وخيرِ ما جُبِلَتْ عليه ، وأعوذُ بك من شرِّها ، وشرِّ ما جُبِلَتْ عليه ، وإن كان بعيرًا فليأخذْ بذِروةِ سِنامِه»
2 - صلاة ركعتين مع بعض
- أن يصلي ركعتين جمعا كما روي عن السلف (ابن مسعود، وأبو ذر، وحذيفة) ذكر حديث رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: (كان أحدكم إذا أراد أن ينصرف إلى أهله، قال: بسم الله، اللهم جنبنا الشيطان، وجنب الشيطان ما رزقتنا، إن قضى أن يولد بينهما ولد لم يضره شيطان أبدا).
3- يأتي زوجته من أي جهة شاء إلا الدبر
عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال { بينما نحن جلوس عند النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم إذ جاءه رجل . فقال : يا رسول الله ، هلكت . قال : ما أهلكك ؟ قال : وقعت على امرأتي ، وأنا صائم - وفي رواية : أصبت أهلي في رمضان - فقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم : هل تجد رقبة تعتقها ؟ قال : لا . قال : فهل تستطيع أن تصوم شهرين متتابعين ؟ قال : لا . قال : فهل تجد إطعام ستين مسكينا ؟ قال : لا . قال : فمكث [ ص: 397 ] النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم فبينا نحن على ذلك أتي النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم بعرق فيه تمر - والعرق : المكتل - قال : أين السائل ؟ قال : أنا . قال : خذ هذا ، فتصدق به . فقال الرجل : على أفقر مني : يا رسول الله ؟ فوالله ما بين لابتيها - يريد الحرتين - أهل بيت أفقر من أهل بيتي . فضحك رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم حتى بدت أنيابه . ثم قال : أطعمه أهلك } .
وقال تعالي
نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنْفُسِكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُمْ مُلاقُوهُ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ [البقرة:223]
4- يستحب الوضوء عند تكرار الجماع
«إذا أتى أحدُكُمْ أَهلَه ثُمَّ أرادَ أن يعاوِدَ فليتوضَّأْ بينَهما وُضوءًا»
5- يجوز لهما أن يغتسلا في مكان واحد
كما فعل رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم مع عائشة رضي الله عنها، ويستحب للمتوضئ أن يتوضأ قبل أن ينام، لأمر النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم، لحديث ابن خزيمة وابن حبان: قالت عائشة رضي الله عنها: كنت أغتسل أنا ورسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم من إناء - بيني وبينه - واحد، فأسرع بي حتى قلت: دع لي، دع لي، قالت: كلاهما جنبان: نجاسة من الجماع وفي رواية: من إناء واحد، تختلف أيدينا فيه.
6- في صباح يوم الزفاف يستحب له أن يأتي أقاربه للسلام عليهم والدعاء لهم
فهم يفعلون ذلك لأنه فعل ذلك مع أهله وزوجاته صلى الله عليه وسلم.
7- يحرم إفشاء أسرار الجماع
عن أبي سعيد الخدري رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: إن شر الناس عند الله منزلة يوم القيامة لرجل يُفضي إلى امرأته وتُفضي إليه، ثم ينشر سرها؛ أخرجه مسلم.
The Wedding night etiquette and cohabitation between spouses
1- Give her a gift
If a husband has consummated the marriage with his wife, it is desirable for him to please her with a gift, drink, or sweet and the he evidence is that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was build with Aisha ( It was mentioned in the hadith: “If one of you benefits a woman, a servant, or an animal, let him take her by the corner and say: Oh God, I ask you for the best of it and the best that have created for, I seek refuge in You from its evil and the evil of what it has created.” Narrated by Ibn Majah.
2 - Pray two Rak'ah together
To pray two rak’ahs together, as narrated from the predecessors (Ibn Masoud, Abu Dharr, and Hudhayfah) He mentioned the hadith of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace: (If one of you wanted to go to his family, he said: : In the name of God, O God, protect us from Satan, and avoid Satan from what You have provided us, If it is decreed that a child will be born between them; Satan never harmed him.)
3- He comes to the wife from any direction he wants except the anus
He may come to his wife from any direction he wants except the anus. Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) said: While we were sitting with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), a man came to him and said: O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined. He said: What ruined you? He said: I had intercourse with my wife while I was fasting - and in another narration: I had intercourse with my wife in Ramadan - so the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: Can you free a slave? He said: No. He said: Can you fast for two consecutive months? He said: No. He said: Can you feed sixty poor people? He said: No. So the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) remained silent, and while we were like that, a basket of dates was brought to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) - and the basket is a basket - and he said: Where is the questioner? He said: I am. He said: Take this and give it in charity. The man said: To someone poorer than me, O Messenger of Allah? By Allah, there is no household between its two lava plains - meaning the two lava plains - poorer than my household. So the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) laughed until his molars were visible. Then he said: Feed it to your family.
Also, Allah says
نِسَاؤُكُمْ حَرْثٌ لَكُمْ فَأْتُوا حَرْثَكُمْ أَنَّى شِئْتُمْ وَقَدِّمُوا لِأَنْفُسِكُمْ وَاتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّكُمْ مُلاقُوهُ وَبَشِّرِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ [البقرة:223]
8- إذا دعاها إلى فراشه فأبت لعنتها الملائكة
1/281- عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: إذا دعا الرجل امرأته إلى فراشه فلم تأت إليه فبات غضبان عليها لعنتها الملائكة حتى تصبح. متفق عليه.
4 - It is recommended to perform ablution during repeated intercourse
Because of his saying, may God bless him and grant him peace: On the authority of Abu Saeed Al-Khudri, may God bless him and grant him peace, he said: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: If one of you comes to his family and then wants to return, he should perform ablution, Ablution between them, narrated by Muslim. Al-Hakim added, “It is more effective for the oud: private member.
5 - It is permissible for them to wash in one place
as the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, did with Aisha, may God be pleased with her, It is desirable for a person in a state of ritual ablution to perform ablution before sleeping, according to the command of the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, according to Ibn Khuzaymah and Ibn Hibban: Aisha, may God be pleased with her, said: I and the Messenger of God were washing May God bless him and grant him peace from a vessel - Between me and him - one, so he hastened with me until I said: Leave for me, leave for me, she said: They are both gnban: impurity from intercourse and in a narration: From one vessel, our hands differ over it.
6- On the morning after the wedding day
it is desirable for him to have his relatives come and greet them and pray for them, they do so because he did so with his family and wives, may God bless him and grant him peace.
7 - It is forbidden to spread the secrets of sexual intercourse
It has been stated in the authentic hadith that the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, from the hadith of Abu Saeed - He, peace and blessings be upon him, said: One of the most evil people will have a position with God on the Day of Resurrection, A man has intercourse with his wife and she has intercourse with him, Then he or she will publish her secret.
8- If he invites her to his bed and she refuses, she will be cursed by the angels
1/281- On the authority of Abu Hurairah, may God bless him and grant him peace, he said: The Messenger of God, peace and blessings of God be upon him, said: If a man invites his wife to his bed But she did not come to him, and he spent the night angry with her, the angels cursed her until she wake up in morning. agreed upon.
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