The restraint is the master of morals
On the day of Hunayn, the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, favored people in division, So Al-Aqra' bin Habis gave one hundred camels, and he gave aayinh the same, and he gave it to some of the nobles of the Arabs, he favored them in division, and a man said: By God, this division is not justified in it, and it is not intended for the sake of God, I said: By God, I will inform the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, so I came to him, I told him, and he said: Who is just, if God and His Messenger are not just? May God have mercy on Moses, he was more harmed than this, so he was patient.
The companion is the one who met the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, believing in him and died on that, the people of Nahrawan are not like that, and as for their leader, Dhul-Khuwaisira, even if he saw the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, he was a hypocrite, and this is evidenced by his attitudes towards the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, in the two Sahihs, Abu Saeed al-Khudri, may God be pleased with him, said: While we were with the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and he was swearing an oath, Dhul-Khuwaisira came to him, He is a man from Banu Tamim, so he said: just. He said: Woe to you, and who will be just if I am not? He said: I will be disappointed and lost if I am not just. Omar said: O Messenger of God, give me permission to do so, so I will strike his neck, He said: Leave him, for he has companions one of you belittles his prayer with theirs, and his fasting with theirs, they read the Qur’an but it does not go beyond their throats, they pass through the religion as an arrow passes through the shooter.
From the previous hadith and the subsequent study, we deduce some points
The Prophet was the most disciplined people. This does not mean that everyone who dealt with him - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - was dealing in a good way, but there were likes of Khweisra who dealt with bad manners, accusing the Messenger of something that does not include (injustice), which is an attribute that cannot be found in a leader, nevertheless, he remains self-disciplined - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and does not depart from the praiseworthy morals.
The study indicates that
Those who control themselves are happier, more engaged in relationships, successful in academic achievement, and more than that, the relationships of the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - The relations of the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - were all successful, and only the hypocrites and polytheists hated him.
Research has also consistently shown that higher TSCs are associated with positive life outcomes such as higher academic achievement, and better health, and more interpersonal success, less bad adaptive modifications. As such, self-control has been heralded as an evolutionary trait to ensure adaptation and survival.
A man’s prayer or worship does not indicate his true Islam by the text of this hadeeth, but as it is said (Only nations have morals as long as they remain, and if their morals are gone, they are gone), especially in quarrels or personal interests.
Why are people with high self-control happier? The effect of trait self-control on happiness through organizational focus
Abdullah bin Al-Harith, may God be pleased with him, said: “I have not seen anyone who smiled more than the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, If this indicates contentment with everything, no matter what great events happen, and contentment is higher than happiness, and if happiness is a moment, then contentment is life, as it is said in the Arabic proverb, Background: While self-control is often associated with positive life outcomes such as higher academic achievement and better health, recent insights reveal that people with high trait self-control (TSC) may experience greater life satisfaction or happiness.
Self-control is defined as the ability to change and regulate dominant response tendencies that lead to the inhibition of unwanted behaviors, while reinforcing desirable behaviors to support the pursuit of long-term goals.
As a basic principle of self-control, it involves the trade-off between enjoying instant gratification and achieving long-term goals
Although people with a higher TSC are clearly more successful in life, are they also happier? One can imagine that constantly self-regulating according to morals, norms, and social expectations would lead to a boring, mundane, miserable life, to support this speculation, emotion regulation research has shown that individuals with a high incidence of ALS actually experience less momentary affect, inhibited expression of spontaneity and extraversion, as well as limited daily emotional intensity. TSC helps people to experience happiness to the fullest in life.
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