Date (8 Shawwal / 3 Hijri) The eighth of Shawwal of the third year of the migration of the Prophet Muhammad - may God bless him and grant him peace - the place Al-Rawha’, thirty-six miles from Medina Does it an independent invasion? Many historians said that the Muslims were not actually defeated in the Battle of Uhud, because they were defeated in the Battle of Uhud Mountain, but they chased the polytheists in Hamra al-Assad, So the polytheists fled to Mecca. The Battle of Hamra al-Assad was not an independent battle in itself, but was an extension of the Battle of Uhud, which took place between the Muslims and the Quraishites and their allies. The reason: After the defeat of Uhud, the Muslims felt afraid to go out to meet them again, and among the frightened was Safwan bin Umayyah, the man who demanded to return to Medina, While the opinion of the majority was refusing to go back, at that time some launched a propaganda war, which was that the Messenger of God would throw his companions to destruction, but this war did not move a finger in the heart of the Muslim army, and the aim of this war was to stop Muslims from continuing their chasing infidels. Its purpose The departure of the Muslim army to Hamra al-Assad represented a strong declaration that Muslims are not a force to be reckoned with and that they have the ability to gather their forces and repel the aggression of the aggressors at any time. The events of the Hamra al-Assad battle began the next morning of the Battle of Uhud, on the eighth of Shawwal, when the Prophet Muhammad - may God bless him and grant him peace - called out to his companions that no one would go out with us except those who witnessed the fighting, Abdullah bin Abi bin Salul wanted to go out with the Prophet, but he categorically refused that, and when the Companions who witnessed the Battle of Uhud heard the Prophet’s call, they went out and responded to their wounds, He was very tired, and they said, “Hear and obey.” So He descended among them. God's saying ( الَّذِينَ اسْتَجَابُواْ لِلّهِ وَالرَّسُولِ مِن بَعْدِ مَا أَصَابَهُمُ الْقَرْحُ لِلَّذِينَ أَحْسَنُواْ مِنْهُمْ وَاتَّقَواْ أَجْرٌ عَظِيمٌ}، (آل عمران: 172( (Those who responded to God and the Messenger after they had been afflicted with ulcers, for those of them who do good and do piety a great reward.” (Al Imran: 172) We take advantage of this part 1 - The saying of the Messenger (No one will go out with us except those who witnessed the fighting) is an explicit declaration that whoever goes out is among the true believers who are relied upon in adversity 2 - After they had sores: the wounds they wounded yesterday in the battle of Uhud festered, and certainly the physical pain needs rest, comfort, and drinking hot liquids, this is really reasonable, but God's will is that they come out with their blood, pus, and psychological defeat factors that tickle their feelings, to meet the enemy on the second day directly. Why? The football players have coaches from Live Coaching, and they found that the players play a match for an hour or a quarter in full fitness, and then their performance drops to zero, and they knew that this was the reason for their defeat, after that, the training ran around the stadium for an hour, except for a continuous quarter, and then an additional 10 minutes, and they were very tired, and 10 minutes became 20 minutes on the second day until they reached their perfect performance, at the time of the match, God - the Most High - teaches the Muslims how the will is at the last grain of sweat, the effort increases, so that they are not less than horses in their race. 3 - Why did the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - refuse to took Abdullah bin Abi Salul go out with him? although He needs every person to fights with? Or at least: increase the number in order to intimidate the polytheists. The truth is that he was the one who spread the word in the Battle of Uhud that the Messenger died, and in fact you are also an expert in dealing with great problems and weak souls at the time of defeat, and physical strength among the Arabs early on, and victory in battles is all that they possess - do not bring them anyone in their midst to shake the soul, which may be fragile from the inside as a result of defeat, on the other hand, put yourself in the place of the Messenger, He knows with certainty that he is a hypocrite, and the Muslims know, but they do not speak, and so does the Messenger, but I wonder what the special feeling of the Messenger at that time was, to gather the Muslims together, , organizes the ranks and demands allegiance, and this comes with a yellow smile. I am with you, Messenger of God - this is among the trials of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace. See the appendix to the verse (For those among them who do good and pious Allah will have a great reward) It is not for any of them, but for the doers of good among them, the pious in performance while wounded, doing the best of what he has, charity and piety at this critical stage of their history, which They build it with glory in return for a great reward, and who says great? God Almighty, then he is a reward on the level of God, The Battle details The Prophet - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him – expected in his place, as he expected that the polytheists would return to Madinah to conquer it again, because the polytheists when they blamed and argued and said to each other: “You didn't do anything, you hit their stinger, alone, then you left them, there are heads left of them to gather for you, so come back, we will eradicate them, Whoever did not come out in the midst of one, they were injured among you, and our army was tired, but the army of the polytheists refused to respond to the opinion of Safwan, they settled themselves on returning to Medina to eradicate the Muslims, and while they were preparing to return to Medina, Ma`bad bin Abi Mu`bad Al-Khuza`i caught up with them: and he declared his conversion to Islam, and he came to the Messenger of God, advising that he was afraid of their evil. At that time, the Messenger of God commanded him to follow them, despite the dangers that surround Muslims, However, the Messenger of God has refused to return to Medina again. He had met the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - before he went to the polytheists, the Prophet commanded him to join the army of the polytheists, so he would let them not fight the Muslims. Ma`bad went to Abu Sufyan and waged a psychological war against the polytheists and told him that the Muslims had come out with a great army wanting the polytheists, and that this army was burning against the polytheists in order to defeat him, and when Abu Sufyan and the army of the polytheists learned, with this, they preferred safety and resolved to withdraw to Mecca, and before the withdrawal, Abu Sufyan sent with a ride from Abd al-Qais to the Prophet - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - that the Quraysh would return the ball to the Muslims, and that they had resolved to eradicate the Muslims, so when the delegation informed the Prophet - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - about that, he came down. He, may God bless him and grant him peace, stayed in this city for three days, after which he returned to Yathrib, and he was accompanied by Abu Azza al-Jumahi, that man who was released by the Messenger of God on the day of Badr without ransom, He had stipulated at that time that he would not stand in front of the Muslims again, but he did not keep his covenant with the Messenger, and he fell into his hands on the day of Uhud, so he ordered this time to kill him. Almighty saying: (Those who were told by the people that the people have gathered for you, so fear them, and it increased them in faith. The result of the invasion: The Quraishites fled and were unable to seize or enter the Muslim lands. The natural situation is that whoever pursues is the victor and whoever flees is the loser, in this battle despite the victory of the Quraish side, according to historians, However, Muslims are the ones who follow them even outside the country, and this has only one meaning, which is that both groups were similar and almost with the same strength.

The Prophet used to cast lots among his wives before every battle, so whoever of them would go out, she would accompany him, and the arrow of the Mother of the Believers, Aisha, went out in the battle of Bani al-Muslaq. When the Messenger finished the conquest, the army prepared to return, then Lady Aisha wanted to relieve herself, then she returned to find herself losing a necklace, and when she went to look for it, the (army) rode walked, and they carried the howitzer. on the camel, and they did not doubt the lightness of the howdah, as Aisha was slender and light in weight. Lady Aisha came back, and sat in her shrine, waiting for someone to ask about her, so she fell asleep. Then the companion Safwan bin Al-Mu'attal noticed her. I am commanded to be late for the army to clear the roads and inform the army if the enemies want to surprise them from behind. So he came to Aisha and got to know her, and he made her camels, so they rode, and they joined the rest of the army. How did the news reach Aisha - may God be pleased with her and her satisfaction - Aisha said, “We came to Madinah, so I complained when I came a month ago, and the people are overflowing with sayings of those who say of the owner of Ifk incident, I do not feel any of that, and which is doubts me about my pain I do not know from the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, the kindness that I saw from him when I complained, but the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, would enter upon me, He greets and then says, How are you? Then he leaves, and that terrifies me, and I do not feel evil, until I came out when I was recovery, and I went out with Umm Mistah before the mana’s, and the place of our stool and we were hurt to be at our homes, and we used to only go out from night to night, and that was before we took the kenaf: stooling place, close to our homes, She said, and we commanded the first Arab affair in the wilderness, she said, so I and Umm Mistah went away, and she is the daughter of Abi Rahm bin Al Muttalib bin Abd Manaf, and her mother is bint Sakhr bin Amer, the aunt of Abu Bakr Al Siddiq, and her son, Mistah bin Athahah bin Abbad bin Al-Muttalib, and Umm Mistah and I came before my home when we finished our affairs, so Um Mistah stumbled in her scarf and said, “Unfortunate is Mistah.” I said to her, “What a bad thing! you curse a man who witnessed Badr, she said any Hantah: A little girl, and you did not hear what he said, she said, and I said what he said, so she told me what the people of Alifk said. We take from the above 1 - A whole month in a closed society (Arabs) and a few tribes know each other, and the chaste did not know what was going on around her, something surprising, but it is the mercy of God - the Mighty and Sublime - she was sick - may God be pleased with her and satisfy her - and if she knew before that, her illness might have increased and she Originally it did nothing. ( The mercy of God is near benefactors) 2- She was accustomed to the tenderness of the Messenger of God for her in her illness, which is the only thing that she felt strange. 3 - The height of negligence of what is happening, her defense of Mistah - may God be pleased with him and his satisfaction - because he witnessed Badr as a sign of her heart that does not know the problem and does not know hatred, it is really a sound heart. She said, "I became more ill than mine, and when I returned to my home, the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, came to me and greeted me. Then he said, How are you doing? I said to him, “Do you permit me to go to my parents?” She said: “I want to be sure of the news from them.” She said, “The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, gave me permission, so I said to my mother, O mother, what are the people talking about? She said: O my daughter, it will be easy on you, by God never a woman has been lightenen before man, he loves her because she has co-wives, except that they are many over her. She said, and I said, Glory be to God, or did people talk about this? She said, so I cried that night, Until the morning, I did not have tears and I did not sleep, then Iam crying in the morning, she saidز 4- How are you: How are you, despite the great event, the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - did not lose his morals as if he was applying the principle (the accused is innocent until we prove his guilt). 5 - The Prophet, a polite wife who knows that she did not do what was said about her, sought her permission, because she would not come out of marital nakedness even in the darkest of circumstances. 6 - Look at the bereaved mother in her daughter: Be easy on yourself, my daughter, and show me the wisdom of the Arab woman (a woman has never been a woman who loves her and she has co-wives, but they are many over her) as if she caught the secret from the beginning and trusts her daughter. 7 - She began to cry because of the poisonous words of people, and she was oppressed, How many people have their tongues like the bite of a snake, and I wish it was in the truth but rather in falsehood. When you hear the middle of the story wait until to know the end of it. Questioning the Companions The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, called Ali bin Abi Talib and Osama bin Zaid when the revelation took hold, asking them and consulting them about the separation of his family, she said, As for Osama, he referred to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, with what he knows of the innocence of his family, and by the one who knows them in himself, Osama said, “Your family, and we do not know anything but good.” As for Ali, he said, “O Messenger of God, God has not restricted you and the women other than her are many. Ask the maidservant to be truthful, so the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, called Barira and said, Oh Barira, have you seen anything that bothers you? Barira said to him, “By the One who sent you with the truth, I never saw anything about her that I had to frown upon, except that she is a young woman who sleeps on the dough of her family, so the domesticated one comes and eats it, she said, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, stood up from that day, asking for an excuse from Abdullah bin Abi Salul, while he was on the pulpit, He said, “O Muslims, who will excuse me from a man whom I have heard of harming my family? By God, I knew nothing about my family but good, and they mentioned a man about whom I knew nothing but good, and he did not enter upon my family except with me, she said, so Saad bin Muadh, the brother of Banu Abd al-Ashhal, got up and said, “Oh, Messenger of God, I will excuse you, If he was from the Aws, his neck would be struck, and if he was one of our brothers from the Khazraj, you commanded us, so we did your command, She said, so a man from Al-Khazraj got up, and Umm Hassan was his uncle's daughter from his thigh, and he is Saad bin Ubadah, and he is the master of Al-Khazraj, she said, and he was a righteous man before that, but the Jahiliyyah tolerated him, so he told Saad: You lied, For God's life, do not kill him, nor can you kill him, and if he was one of your people, you would not like him to be killed, So Usayd bin Hudair, who is the cousin of Saad, got up and said to Saad bin Ubadah: You lied to by Allah, so we will kill him, you are a hypocrite arguing about the hypocrites, She said, the living creatures, the Aws and the Khazraj, raged until they were about to fight, and the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was standing on the pulpit, she said: The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, kept lowering them until they fell silent and she remained silent, and she said, “So I cried all day. 1 - This beloved Muhammad - this is the Messenger of God, the beloved of God - and the revelation was delayed for a whole month to vindicate the most beloved of people to him, and his heart is wracked with pain, and the strange thing is that he did not divorce her without investigating the matter, but rather she narrated and waited - the morals of a prophecy. 2 - Look back at this paragraph once more and you know how the eastern man is overcome by rushing into such matters by killing or torture or at least by divorce. Did the Messenger of Humanity hear from them for you? No, rather, he hears and collects speech and filters it, if you will, and asks men and women alike why? Because women are always jealous and believe that a woman is loved by her husband, separating her from this loving husband. . 3- .... Until the two lives fight (who is present from my qibla: the Aws and the Khazraj) erupted. A, two ribes revolted against a woman in whom a Qur’an was revealed that will be recited until the Day of Resurrection. She said, “My parents became with me and I cried for two nights and one day, tears did not rise for me and I did not sleep until I thought that crying broke my liver, so between us my parents were sitting with me and I was crying. We have to greet and then sit down crying with me, she said, while we were on that, the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, entered upon us, greeted us, and then sat down, she said, and he has not sat with me since it was said what was said before her, and he has remained for a month, and nothing is revealed to him about my affairs by thing, She said, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, sat and then said: as for what follows, O Aisha, he informed me about such and such, and if you are innocent, then God will acquit you, and if you have committed a sin, then seek God’s forgiveness and repent to Him, If the servant confesses and then repents, God will forgive him. She said, when the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, finished his speech, my tears diminished until I felt a drop of it, so I said to my father: Answer the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, about what he said, my father said, by God, I do not know what to say to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, so I said to my mother: Answer the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, so I said, as I am a young girl, and I do not read much of the Qur’an, by God, I knew that you had heard this hadith until it settled in yourselves and you believed in it, If I tell you that I am innocent, do not believe me, and if I confess something to you, and God knows that I am innocent of it, you will believe me, By God, I do not find an example for you and me except for Abu Yusuf when he said: ( Beautiful patience, and God help me for what you describe) Then I turned and lay on my bed, and God knows that I am innocent at that time, and that God will prove my innocence for two nights, weeping, and do not don't sleep, and I think that sadness breaks my liver, and the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - enters, After a month, he spoke to Aisha for the first time, after he did not say anything to her except how you are to her. She was sick, and after his article to ask forgiveness for your sin, look at her polite reaction as well: 1 - He reduced my tears, the tears remain uninterrupted until he investigates the matter and until the confrontation begins. she looked at her father, answer the Messenger of God and he refused, she looked at her mother: she refused, so you spoke as if you were reading her words, you feel that her voice is loud, and she says, while she is close to childhood to youth, (a young slave girl, I do not read much from the Qur’an, by God, I knew. You heard this hadith until it settled in yourselves and you believed in it. You have an order, and God knows that I am innocent of it so that you can believe me, for by God I do not find an example for you and me except for Abu Yusuf when he said: So patience is beautiful, and God helps for what you describe) Thus, with all this boldness and confidence, the Messenger of God left her and did not slap her in the face because she speaks in the presence of adults, not only in age but also in standing. Yes, he is your messenger - may God bless him and grant him peace. 2 - Then I turned and lay on my bed: What is this force, they might kill her, they might hurt her more than that, and she is young, why not be afraid? (Trust in God - come - (and I am innocent at that time and that God will justify me with my innocence) but by God, I did not think that God revealed about my matter and a revelation recited for my affairs in myself was too despicable for God to speak about me, but I had hoped that the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, would see in sleep a dream in which God would clear me, By God, by God, the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, did not take his seat, nor did any of the members of the household go out until it was revealed to him, so he took what he used to take from al-Barahah, to the extent that he would descend from it from the arak like a camel on a winter's day from the weight of speech. So he took what he used to take from al-Barahah, to the extent that he derives from it from the arak like a( jaman( : it is made of silver in the shape of pearls, and it is on a winter's day from the weight of saying, the one who was revealed to him she said, “Recite about the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, while he was laughing.” The first word he spoke was that he said, “O Aisha, God has healed you.” She said, “My mother said to me, get up to him, So I said, By God, I will not srand to him, I do not praise but God Almighty. She said - But by God, I did not think that God revealed about me a revelation that would be recited for me in my soul: Look at God’s action: a young woman - a Quraysh Arab, an illiterate who neither reads nor writes, do not be deceived by clothes or words, and wait until God judges, and He is the best of judges. 2 - She was an imagined dream that the Prophet (and the vision of the prophets is true), but she did not imagine that the Qur’an would be recited until the Day of Resurrection. 3 - The Messenger of God was pleased while laughing. Why did God Almighty torture his beloved Muhammad? Psychological discipline for a whole month? Do you know Confucius, the sage of China, what he says: To hear me I may remember, but to involve me I hardly forget, or, as he said, the experience is the best evidence, isn't it? If my words were theoretical, it was not live meat, the Arab diet would not have erupted, but the experience, as it is said, is the best evidence, but the best evidence for what? This is what you will know in the next paragraph. And God Almighty sent downز Those who came a group of you with falsehood The ten verses, then God revealed this in my innocence. Abu Bakr Al-Siddiq said, and he used to spend on Mistah bin Uthathah because of his kinship with him and his poverty, and by God I never spend on Mistah anything after what he said about Aisha what he said, so God revealed ( And the people of merit among you do not turn back to his saying did you not love that God forgive you, He is Forgiving, Merciful) Abu Bakr as-Siddiq said, “Yes, by God, I would love for God to forgive me.” So he went back to the spending that he was spending on, and said, “By God, I will never take it away from him,” Aisha said, The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, asked Zainab bint Jahsh about my matter, and he said to Zainab, “What do you know or see?” She said, “Oh, Messenger of God, protect my hearing and my sight, By God, I only knew good. By God, I knew nothing but good. Aisha, who was one of the wives of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, said she was competing with me, so God protected her with piety. She said, and her sister Hamna started fighting for her, she perished among those who perished. Ibn Shihab said, “This is what reached me from the hadith of these men, then he said Urwa, Aisha said, By God, the man to whom it was said what was said should say, Glory be to God, for by the One in Whose hand is my soul, I have never uncovered a female’s body, She said then he was killed after that in the way of God. Imagine all this great event for the sake of a sentence that does not exceed a line (God admonishes you that you should never return to the same if you are believers) This is a questioning of your faith (if you are believer). Studies related to psychology with some comments: Why do people spread rumors If you pay attention, the main function of rumors is to understand something that is not already clear. Rumors help explain a world-baffling element. In the soda rumor she opened, tensions between groups of people were frightening and confusing. "Why do bad things happen?" This confusion opens the door to rumors that people can cling to to at least give them an idea of why the world works the way it does People spread rumors when there is uncertainty. When we don't already have a solid understanding of how or why things happen in the world, rumors start to spread. If you can imagine being in middle school again, imagine what would happen if one of your classmates stopped going to school one day, all of a sudden. There is a lot of uncertainty out there, So people are likely to develop and spread rumors as a way to deal with what happened. In fact, a 1955 field experiment did just that: Researchers strategically pulled a student out of a classroom without explanation. Not surprisingly, rumors spread as students tried to make sense of the situation. Which is exactly what happened, when Lady Aisha and the companions Safwan bin Al-Muta’al came back to catch up, the believers doubted 2 - People spread rumors when they are anxious Uncertainty often generates anxiety - we like to have a clear sense of the world, and we get anxious when we feel uncertain - and anxiety itself has been associated with the spread of rumours, some research has shown that more anxious people are more likely to spread rumours, and another great experience made some students especially anxious about the upcoming interview. students who were made to feel more anxious spread rumors more quickly than less anxious students in the control group, research has also shown that "dread" rumors (i.e. rumors of something bad happening) spread more than "wish" rumors (like rumors of something good happening). This is the case for rumors circulating online and rumors circulating in person. And this is what happened, beginning with the spread of sedition through Abd Allah ibn Abs Salul, the chief of the hypocrites. You must search for who benefits from this rumor. . 3 - People Spreading Rumors When the information is important as much as you might be eager to talk about the rumors you've heard about the company you work for, I probably don't care that much. The reason is that it is not relevant to me. On the other hand, I'll be excited to talk about some other rumors that are more important to me. In fact, Alport and Postman's "Basic Law of Rumors" that they developed in 1947 was that spreading rumors depends on both the ambiguity of the situation and the significance of the rumour. Across a whole host of studies, people are more likely to spread rumours. When information is most important to them. This is a closed society - an Arab society - oriental - rather a society of prophecy, the Islamic call will be blown out of its door if the Messenger of God and himself did not investigate the issue. For people to spread a positive rumor about them. If someone was part of a rival group, people were more likely to spread negative rumours. What is important is that people spread rumors strategically to gain the respect of others. The social situation. What do you know about the social situation? Look at Abdullah bin Abi Salul, the chief of the hypocrites: He would have assumed the position of chief of the Arabs before the advent of the Messenger of God, and the people left him and gathered around the Messenger of God. Does this not stir up grudges and grudges, a third and fourth time, and until the end of time, when you hear A rumor, first of all, who is the beneficiary, who brought out the rumor, and why.

The story of Zaid bin Haritha - may God be pleased with him and make him satisfied - The name Zaid bin Al Haritha bin Sharhabil Al Kaabi The Title Before the prohibition of adoption: Zaid bin Muhammad After the prohibition of adoption: Mawla of the Messenger of God, one of the honorable companions His honor is the only companion mentioned in the Holy Qur’an The story of his kidnapping as a young child He was on a visit with his mother, Saada bint Tha'labah, to her people, Bani Ma'an. During this visit, the Banu Al-Qayed tribe raided them, and this eight-year-old boy was subjected to slavery, but fate had a lot of good in store for him. Hakim bin Hizam bin Khuwaylid, the nephew of Mrs. Khadija, may God be pleased with her, bought him with another group of boys, and he offered him as a gift to his aunt, Mrs. Khadija, may God be pleased with her, and she had to choose from a group of boys, so she chose Zaid, How he's reach the Prophet Muhammad - may God bless him and grant him peace؟ When Mrs. Khadija, may God be pleased with her, married the Chosen One, may God’s prayers be upon him and his family and companions, she gave him Zaid, and it is said that the Prophet freed him immediately, but Zaid refused except to remain with him, and from the intensity of Zaid’s attachment to the Prophet, the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, adopted him, He even became known to the Quraysh as Zaid bin Muhammad, and he remained in this state until Islam came and prohibited adoption, and this came in what the Almighty said in Surat Al-Ahzab: قال تعالي “ادْعُوهُمْ لِآبَائِهِمْ هُوَ أَقْسَطُ عِندَ اللَّهِ ۚ فَإِن لَّمْ تَعْلَمُوا آبَاءَهُمْ فَإِخْوَانُكُمْ فِي الدِّينِ وَمَوَالِيكُمْ ۚ وَلَيْسَ عَلَيْكُمْ جُنَاحٌ فِيمَا أَخْطَأْتُم بِهِ وَلَٰكِن مَّا تَعَمَّدَتْ قُلُوبُكُمْ ۚ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا The Almighty said, “Call them to their fathers, It is more just with God, If you do not know their fathers, then your brothers in faith and your slave, and there is no blame on you for making a mistake, but what intend in your hearts, and God is Forgiving, Merciful. Pauses with the verse 1 - Justice: Justice and Settlement. So, it is justice with God that every son be given the name of his real father, and this is a message to everyone who adopts children today from orphanages, It is one of the sound and rewarding social solutions for both parties, the adopted child and the adoptee himself, except that Islam guarantees the system of social sponsorship, not adoption, therefore, the child has the right to take the family name of the adopter, but the father's name is not permissible, and God knows best - it is not the subject of a fatwa. - 2 - If you do not know their parents: It is very well known that a child is left at the door of the mosque or the like, and it is as if God - the Almighty - is talking about our era, not the era of prophecy, so they are called brothers and loyalists, as happened with Zaid - may God be pleased with him and make him satisfied. 3- Error and forgetfulness are among the things that are tolerated in religion, but the intention of the heart is what is relied upon and taken into account, so there is no sin at that time. After the revelation of this holy verse The Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, returned to call Zaid Zaid bin Haritha. The people of Zaid were looking for him, and on one occasion there was a group of Zaid's people visiting the Holy Kaaba, they got to know Zaid bin Haritha, and when they returned to their people, they told his family where he was, and Zaid bin Haritha's father and uncle came to take him with them, and the Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, gave him the choice, between going with his family and staying with him, he chose to stay with the Prophet, the strangeness of this story shows that what the honorable companion saw of the Messenger, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, of good treatment and character, made him prefer him over his original family, Zaid became attached to the Prophet of God, and at that time the Prophet came out to the Quraysh and said, “O my people, bear witness that Zaid is my son, and that I am his father, and he inherits him and he inherits me, Zayd remained with the Prophet until his death. The story of his marriage to Mrs. Zainab bint Jahsh Zainab, she is the daughter of Muhammad bin Rabab Al-Asadiya, and her mother is Umaima bint Abd al-Muttalib, the aunt of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace (that is, she is the daughter of the aunt of the Messenger), The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, is the one who undertook that for him. Because he was his master and his adopter, so he betrothed her to Zaid, but she disapproved: disapprove of something refraining from disdain, greed, and arrogance, and she said: I am better than him in lineage, so it was narrated that God sent down his saying, وَمَا كَانَ لِمُؤْمِنٍ وَلَا مُؤْمِنَةٍ إِذَا قَضَى اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَمْرًا أَنْ يَكُونَ لَهُمُ الْخِيَرَةُ مِنْ أَمْرِهِمْ وَمَنْ يَعْصِ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ فَقَدْ ضَلَّ ضَلَالًا مُبِينًا} [سورة الأحزاب الآية 36] And there is no believing man or woman when God and His Messenger have decreed a matter, that they have the best of their affairs, And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger has strayed into a clear error.” [Surah Al-Ahzab, verse 36], she responded in obedience to God and in fulfillment of the desire of His Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, and she lived with Zaid for about a year, then what happened between a man and his wife (of quarrels) occurred between them, Zaid complained about her to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, because of their status with him, He is his master and adopter, and Zainab is the daughter of his paternal aunt, Omaima,Zayd offered to divorce her, so the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, ordered him to keep her and be patient with her, with his knowledge, peace and blessings of God be upon him, by revelation from God, that he will divorce her and she will be his wife, may God bless him and grant him peace, but he was afraid that people would reproach him for marrying his son's wife, and that was forbidden in the Jahiliyyah, so God Most High admonished His Prophet for that by saying, Exalted be He وَإِذْ تَقُولُ لِلَّذِي أَنْعَمَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَأَنْعَمْتَ عَلَيْهِ أَمْسِكْ عَلَيْكَ زَوْجَكَ وَاتَّقِ اللَّهَ وَتُخْفِي فِي نَفْسِكَ مَا اللَّهُ مُبْدِيهِ وَتَخْشَى النَّاسَ وَاللَّهُ أَحَقُّ أَنْ تَخْشَاهُ} [سورة الأحزاب الآية 37 And when you said to him whom God has bestowed favor, and whom you have bestowed on him, Keep your wife with you and pious God, and you hide in yourself what God reveals, And you fear people, and God is more right to fear him, Surah Al-Ahzab, verse 37 The overall meaning of the verse 1- And when you said, O Prophet of God (to whom God has bestowed, and whom you have bestowed upon, by liberating slavery and becoming your son in front of the people), hold your wife, and you know from the beginning, that this marriage came to be a practical lesson for the believers, whose society at that time was mired in adoption due to the large number of slaves, to refrain from saying that they had children, They are not biological and that they may marry the wife of their son because, in fact, he is not the son of offspring. 2- As for a suspicion that hides in yourself what God reveals (He knew the Messenger of God about the end of the story, how it will be) but he is afraid of people's calumny that he married his son's wife, but this is law, and what is above God should be exalted, and people should be underestimated and not glorified in God's law, Zaid bin Haritha divorced her, and she married the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace, and God invalidated the pre-Islamic custom of adoption, and it is lawful for Muslims to marry the wives of those they adopted after separating from them through death or divorce. A mercy from Him, the Most High, to the believers, and a repelling of embarrassment from them, and as for what the Most High said, then when Zayd had consummated his love for her, we married her to you, so that there is no blame on the believers in the wives of their son with adoption, If they maked love with them, and God's command was effected, there was no blame on the Prophet for what God had made obligatory for him, God's way for those who passed before, and God's command was an ordained decree, those who deliver God's messages and fear Him and fear no one but God, and God suffices for reckoning as long as Muhammad is the father of any of your men, but the Messenger of God and the Seal of the Prophets, and God is Knowing of all things} [Surah Al-Ahzab verses 37-40. We take advantage of the following Slavery is the withdrawal of trust from a person to be enslaved by others. It is psychological and physical pain, and perhaps more material than moral, as its forms are many and varied, Now, in this era, and one of its forms is hard work with little or perhaps no pay - may God bless them and save mankind from the disgrace of slavery until now, Zayd was one of the slaves who were bought and sold, but his luck was with the Messenger of God, so he freed him and honored him by making him his son. The marital competence It is necessary so that a wife does not become arrogant over a husband, and a husband does not exalt himself above his wife in terms of lineage, social status, money, knowledge, or other than that. Lady Zainab was arrogant above the great companion: Zaid bin Haritha, 3 - Zaid bin Haritha refused slavery or belittled it in any way, so he rejected bad treatment from his wife and quarrels, so he refused except to divorce her, even if she married someone better than him, he did not care, except that he did not leave himself in a place where he is psychologically humiliated, this is what raises the status of a person, whether a man or a woman. . 4 - The story is violent for the human soul in terms of accepting it in all ages. The Messenger of God was afraid of calibration despite his knowledge of its end, but social acceptance is an integral part of our life, especially the Arabs, but religion came to end the stereotype of things that we have always been accustomed to. May God have mercy on Zaid bin Haritha - the venerable companion - who refused to return to his family and became the mawla of the Messenger of God, after he was an adopted son of the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace. The links . https://www.almrsal.com/post/739395 http://www.al-eman.com/%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%83%D8%AA%D8%A8/%D9%81%D8%AA%D8%A7%D9%88%D9%89%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%84%D8%AC%D9%86%D8%A9%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AF%D8%A7%D8%A6%D9%85%D8%A9%20%D9%84%D9%84%D8%A8%D8%AD%D9%88%D8%AB%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B9%D9%84%D9%85%D9%8A%D8%A9%20%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A5%D9%81%D8%AA%D8%A7%D8%A1%20%28%D9%86%D8%B3%D8%AE%D8%A9%20%D9%85%D9%86%D9%82%D8%AD%D8%A9%20%D9%85%D8%B1%D8%AA%D8%A8%D8%A9%20%D9%85%D9%81%D9%87%D8%B1%D8%B3%D8%A9%29/%D8%B2%D9%88%D8%A7%D8%AC%20%D8%B2%D9%8A%D8%AF%20%D8%A8%D9%86%20%D8%AD%D8%A7%D8%B1%D8%AB%D8%A9%20%D9%85%D9%86%20%D8%B2%D9%8A%D9%86%D8%A8%20%D8%A8%D9%86%D8%AA%20%D8%AC%D8%AD%D8%B4:/i766&d1098333&c&p1

The Phase two In the calling The secret call ended with the revelation of the verse: “And warn your kindred to your clan” (Al-Shu`ara’: 214), So the call entered its second phase, which is the call to prayer out loud only without a fight, It began with the invitation of the relatives of the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - from Bani Hashim and Bani Abd al-Muttalib, and this period lasted ten years. Where it extended to the blessed migration. The invitaion for food ( 54 men) Where the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, moved, and invited his relatives to food, and their number was forty-five from his family and clan; As the invitation to food softens hearts and inspires affection and intimacy. The first advocacy position of his clan - may God bless him and grant him peace - In this meeting, and before the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, spoke, and before he made it clear to them about his call, a strange thing happened, which was transmitted by Ibn al-Atheer, may God have mercy on him, in his book, Al-Kamil fi Al-Tarikh, where he said: Ja`far bin Abdullah bin Abi Al-Hakam said: When God revealed to His Messenger: {And warn your kindred to your close relative} [Al-Shu`ara’: 214] It became difficult for him and he was tired of it, so he sat in his home like a sick person, so his aunts came to visit him, and he said: "I did not complain about anything, but God commanded me to warn my nearest relatives" she said to him: So call them, and do not invit Abu Lahab with them, for he will not answer you, so the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, called them, and they came with a group of Banu al-Muttalib ibn Abd Manaf, who were forty-five men, Abu Lahab take initiative and said to him: These are your paternal uncles and cousins, speak and say goodbye to the youth, and know that your people among the Arabs have absolutely no capacity, And if the one who took you has the right to imprison you, your father's sons imprisoned you, and if you continue as you are, it will be easier for them, that the stomachs of the Quraish would leap at you and the Arabs would supply them, I did not see anyone who came to his father's children with more evil than what you brought to them, The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, remained silent and did not speak in that gathering, The second advocacy position of his clan - may God bless him and grant him peace - Jaafar bin Abdullah bin Abi Al-Hakam said: “Then he called them again and said: Praise be to God, I praise Him, and I seek His help and I believe in Him, and I trust in Him, and I bear witness that there is no god but Allah alone no partner for him, then he said: “Indeed, the pioneer does not lie to his family, and by God, there is no god but Him, I am God’s Messenger to you in particular, and to the people in general, by God, you will die as you sleep, and that you will be resurrected as you awaken, and that you will be held accountable for what you do, for it is heaven for ever and Hell for ever, Abu Talib said: We love your assistance, we are more accepting of your advice, and we most believe in your speech, these are the sons of your father gathered together, but I am one of them, but I am the quickest of them to do what you like, so proceed with what you have been commanded, for by God I will still protect you and prevent you, However, my soul does not allow me to part with the religion of Abdul Muttalib. Abu Lahab said: By God, this is evil, take on his hands before he takes others. Abu Talib said: By God, we will prevent him as long as we remain. Let's analyze the Prophet's words. - As much as we can. (Indeed, the pioneer: the one who is at the forefront of his people: his family does not lie) Why? Because he will lead them in a way, and if they lose the way because of him, they may kill him or, at the very least, harm him. It is a rational speech and gives them a part of reassurance, especially since his nickname in the Jahiliyyah (The Truthful Al-Amin) - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him. (By God, you will not die as you sleep, and will be resurrected as you awaken) All speech does not contain talk about God Almighty, there is no talk except for the consequences and their interest, not his interest, My master, the Messenger of God - nor is the interest of God - come - from their worship. Their reaction Note: Abu Talib: it's more like to us help you, and we accept your advice, and we strongly believe in your speech, and these are your father’s sons gathered together, but I am one of them, but I am the fastest of them to what you love, go ahead as you are commanded, for by God I will still protect you and prevent you, except that my soul does not obey me in parting from the religion of Abd al-Muttalib, Abu Lahab said: By God, this is evil! Take on his hands before he takes others. Abu Talib said: By God, we will prevent him as long as we remain. We thus benefit from this part 1 - Calling each tribe in its name is a form of community respect and good citizenship, even if the idea is different. 2 - The beginning of the hadith: a talk about its basic qualities (honesty and trustworthiness) on which no two people in the Quraish disagree, to the extent that they - he prayed that they would trust him for their deposits until he left Mecca - may God bless him and grant him peace - and it is like a clean floor on which we place impersonal demands. 3 - Abu Lahab’s saying: Damn you: and Damn is destruction, so the destruction was on Abu Lahab and not on the Messenger, for speech is entrusted with pronunciation. That is, what was the linguistic meaning of the word except that it was an insult to the Messenger - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and you are an expert that cursing relieves the soul of its severe distress, this is according to modern scientific studies, and this is in the first and last is his uncle, so if people see his uncle do that with him, so, what they do after that. Related Studies Signs that your family members are toxic 1- You feel sad and fall around them 2- You feel angry around them 3 - You don't want to go see them 4 - You find yourself having to take care of them 5- You feel drained when you are around them Others can follow the link below Another study Why is a "family wound" so painful Not only is it especially painful when our family members hurt us, it's actually more painful than when friends hurt us. According to Anita Vangelisti, professor of communication at the University of Texas at Austin, hurt is a feeling of emotional injury that communication can cause. Family harm is particularly painful for several reasons. The Vangelisti study found that people who experienced these types of environments were more dissatisfied with their family relationships. Recent research takes family harm and alienation to another level. Christina M. Sharp* (Research Professor and Fellow here at Utah State University) I have new research this month in the Annals of the Interpersonal Communication Association that describes how family distancing works in relation to family "black sheep" and family alienation, two chronically stressful outcomes fairly common in United State, We advocate that sometimes distancing is a healthy solution to toxic family relationships marked by abuse and neglect. Family members who are able to keep their distance from each other are often asked about their family situation and encouraged by others to mend their relationships, even if those relationships are unhealthy. This painful question is likely motivated by societal beliefs about the importance of the family and the idea that families are "forever." We conclude from the two previous studies the followings: 1 - The wisdom of God - the Most High - willed that only one of his paternal uncles would stand in the back of the Messenger of God, who had no money like the others, so Abu Lahab and Abu Jahl were more prestige and wealthier in the Quraysh, until he knows the meaning of reliance on God - the Almighty - and he will not forget him from his calculations - and note that God make this to him and he is his beloved Messenger - 2 - God’s wisdom willed - that the male children of Muhammad - may God bless him and grant him peace - die so that there is no inheritance of prophecy. The links http://www.ilanelanzen.com/familyandparenting/10-signs-you-have-toxic-family-members-and-3-things-you-can-do-about-it/ https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/conscious-communication/201703/why-family-hurt-is-so-painful ttps://www.alukah.net/sharia/0/55541/ https://kitabat.com/2021/02/12/%D8%A7%D9%84%D9%85%D8%B4%D8%B1%D9%83%D9%88%D9%86-%D9%85%D9%86-%D9%82%D8%B1%D9%8A%D8%B4-%D9%88-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AF%D8%B9%D9%88%D8%A9-%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%A5%D8%B3%D9%84%D8%A7%D9%85%D9%8A%D8%A9/ https://www.islamstory.com/ar/artical/3406641/%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AC%D9%87%D8%B1-%D8%A8%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AF%D8%B9%D9%88%D8%A9

Negotiations of Quraysh with Abu Talib regarding Muhammad - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him (his nephew) The First Negotiation When the Quraish saw that Abu Talib had risen without the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, and did not hand him over to them, some of their nobles walked to Abu Talib: Utbah and Shaybah, sons of Rabia And Abu Al-Bakhtri bin Hisham And Al-Aswad Ibn Al-Muttalib And Al-Waleed bin Al-Mughirah and Abu Jahl bin Hisham Al-Aas bin Wael Al-Sahmi Nabeh & Munbh the two sons of Hajjaj And others, and they said: O Abu Talib, your nephew has insulted our gods, insulted our religion, ridiculed our dreams, and misled our fathers, either you keep him away from us, or you leave us with him, for you are on the same as what we are upon: from the opposite of him, Abu Talib said to them a beautiful word, and gave them a gentle response, so they turned away from him, and the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, proceeded as he was. This is the first negotiation, but it did not bear any fruit, as the Messenger kept calling for the worship of God as it was. We take advantage of what has passed When you disagree with me in opinion, you must respect that as much as I can, and you also, in one case, we can disagree and never agree, if interests are threatened, Here the negotiations begin, tongue before hand is not it? This is what happened in the first negotiation, but it did not produce anything. Abu Talib (the uncle of the prophet: the non-Muslim infidel ) remained defending his nephew, but their words with him did not yield anything. The second negotiation Then, when the men separated and quarrelled, and the Quraysh mentioned the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, they thought about negotiating with Abu Talib again, so they walked to him and said: O Abu Talib, you have age, honor, and rank among us, and we desired you to forbid your nephew, but you did not do it. By God, we cannot be patient with this who insults our gods and fathers, and slanders our dreams until you stop him from us, or we fight him and you in that until one of the two groups perishes, or as they said, then they turned away from him, and this means that they threatened Abu Talib this time and showed him their enmity, so the separation of his people and their enmity against him became great for him, he did not please himself with the Islam of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and his betrayal, he sent to the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, and told him what the Quraish had said, and he said to him: Keep yourself and me and do not burden me with a matter that I cannot bear. The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, thought that his uncle had betrayed him and weakened his support, He said to him: “Oh, my uncle, by God, if they put the sun in my right hand and the moon in my left, on the condition that I leave this matter until God makes it appear or I perish in it, I would not leave it, then the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, cried and got up, and when he turned away, Abu Talib called him, and he turned to him and said: “Go, my nephew, and say what you like, for by God, I will never give you over to anything. We benefit from this negotiation as follows Now it has not become talk or negotiations, but rather an explicit threat. Why? because Abu Talib is the one who defends and they still respect Abu Talib's social status and this is what appeared in their frank words and see this study Effects of stereotype threat on short-term task performance Advise psychology on how people deal with blocking valuable goals, and social identity on how people respond to identity threats. Drawing on these different areas of research, this model provides a more comprehensive framework for understanding the different ways in which individuals may deal with the long-term effects of stereotype threat in the workplace Stereotypes are widely held cultural beliefs that resist change. Therefore, employees in the demographic minority will likely continue to face stereotype threat at work. An important implication of our model is that every response to a stereotype threat has both positive and negative consequences for the individual. Understanding how employees experience and deal with the threat of stereotype will help foster a more diverse and inclusive environment at work. If clinicians and counselors are aware that employees may react to stereotype threat in many ways, they may be better able to support employees as they confront this pervasive threat at work, although our model focuses on how an individual employee responds to a stereotype threat, it is critical that future research examines strategies at the group and organization level to change the context so that stereotype threat is less prevalent in workplace environments. And we conclude the following 1 - If this is the case with a different identity form for the work community on which a study was based, then what about new ideas that establish major projects in life that must be countered and fear of their future effects, and the Islamic call was increasing and the love of Muslims in it increased and the number of Muslims increased, and it is basically an idea contrary of what the society is upon and what the nobles of the people are upon, so their interests are under threat, as merchants from all over the Arabian Peninsula and elsewhere come to them during the Hajj season, and they earn very large sums of money from that, this is not the house of the symposium in which they used to hold meetings, and although they were illiterate, they did not read or write, but they attended the collections of poets and listened, and they had a high-level critical mind, they listen to the Qur’an and compare it to poetry, and they understand that it is not human speech, and they know that the intellectuals and thinkers in the Quraish society will not go from under their thought to taste the new way of thinking, these are found in the Qur’an, so they are threatened by commercial and intellectual interests, threatening their position, which they built over the years. The third negotiation Abu Talib insisted on defending his nephew in fulfillment of his duty in the manner of those who were raised in his sponsorship and grew up in his home and acted with chivalry, but with that he remained on his religion and did not embrace Islam, therefore, his task became arduous and his position critical. In front of him was the Quraysh who were fanatical about their religion, and they were angered by Muhammad ﷺ’s spread of Islam and the fight against idols, and the proponent of the call does not discourage him from doing what he was commanded with sarcasm or persecution, If Abu Talib had embraced Islam, his defense would have been greater and his argument more eloquent in front of the Arabs and wiser, but he remained on the religion of his forefathers and defended the Messenger of God, not on a doctrine but in the performance of the duty of kinship. And this time they walked to Abu Talib in Umrah ibn al-Walid, and they said: O Abu Talib, this is Umar ibn al-Walid, the youngest of Quraysh, the hairiest of them and the most beautiful of them, So take him, you have his intellect and his help, so take him as a son, and give us this nephew of yours who spoiled our dreams, he disobeys your religion and the religion of your forefathers, and divides the group of your people, He said: By God, what a bad thing you call me. Do you give me your son, I feed him for you, and I give you my son, that you kill him? This God will never be. Al-Ma’ta’ bin Uday bin Nofal bin Abd Manaf said: your people have done you justice and I do not see you wanting to accept anything from them, so he said: By God, they did not do me justice, but you have agreed to betray me and support the people against me, so do what seems to you, when they despaired of having their request answered, the Quraysh became vehement against those who embraced Islam, so every tribe proved itself against the Muslims in it, torturing them and seducing them from their religion, Abu Talib stood in Bani Hashim and called them to prevent the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and they responded to that. We take advantage of the above The bargaining this time came as the West says on Needs: Abu Talib brings Muhammad - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - the status of a son who raised him will not hand him over to his enemies, and it is the status of paternity, not doctrine, and It seems that Muhammad - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - is beautiful in image - this is what everyone used to say by those who saw him or described him - so they brought him a beautiful image (Amarah ibn al-Walid) And in this thinking, they should bring him someone who wants to be proud of him in the midst of society, and he is also a poet. If Abu Talib wanted a social position more than other Quraishites, then this handsome, poetic young man would replace Muhammad, and please do not say that this is ridiculous, Rather, he thought about Abu Talib’s Needs at this time, and when he refused, they knew that it was not a question of needs, but rather a matter of principle, chivalry and manliness. We are here, even if he died as an infidel (Abu Talib), but we admire him for his personality and way of thinking. Related Studies Explanation of the psychology of negotiation We all negotiate, whether with our political opponents, our friends or our families. What is negotiation? What does negotiation mean? Negotiation refers to discussions between parties who have opposing preferences and interests (but also have some common interests), with the aim of reaching agreement on important issues. Thus, negotiation is “a joint decision-making process that involves interactive communication” Closing Thoughts Regardless, when the stakes are high (eg, the Cuban Missile Crisis), successfully negotiating has made a world of difference. As Frederick Stanton writes, “Every successful negotiation is … an affirmation that conflict is not the inevitable result of a conflict of interest.” The same is true of non-political negotiations. You do not need to ignore your interests in order to avoid a high-conflict relationship. You simply need to learn how to negotiate successfully and put your knowledge into practice. And we conclude The negotiation process began with the emergence of thinkers in every time and place. It does not matter how well this society was first educated, but rather it is a purely psychological process.

What Quraysh offered to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace (The first story) Utbah bin Rabia said: One day, while he was sitting in the Quraysh club, and the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, was sitting in the mosque alone: O people of Quraish, should I not stand up to Muhammad? talk to him and show him, some things, perhaps he will accept some of them, so we can give him whichever he wants, and he will stop us, and that is when Hamzah embraced Islam and they saw the companions of the Messenger of God increasing and multiplying, They said: Yes, Abu al-Walid: So get up to him and he spoke to him. So he stood up to him: Utbah until he sat down to: The Messenger of God. The Conversation Utbah said O my nephew, you are one of us, as you have learned from the authority in the clan and the place in the lineage, and that you have brought to your people a great thing: with which you have scattered their group, ridiculed their dreams, and reproached their gods and their religion with it, you have disbelieved in those who passed away from their forefathers, so hear from me, I present to you matters: you should look into them, perhaps you will accept some of them from us. The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Say, O Abu al-Walid, I hear Utbah said O my nephew, if you only want money with what you brought from this matter, we have collected for you from our money so that you will be the most wealthy among us,and if you want honor by it, we will sway you over us so that we do not cut any matter without you, and if you want a king, we will give you control over us, and if this one that comes to you is a dream that you see: you cannot turn it away from yourself, we asked you for medicine, and we invested our money in it so that we would absolve you of it: the follower might have prevailed over the man until he was cured of it, even when Utbah is finished and the Messenger of God listens to him. The Messenger of Allah “Have you finished, O Abu Al-Walid?” Utbah said Yes The Messenger of God said: “So listen to me.” Utbah said: I do The Messenger of Allah said: «بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم: {حم تَنزِيلٌ مّنَ الرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِيمِ كِتَبٌ فُصّلَتْ ءايَتُهُ قُرْءانا عَرَبِيّا لّقَوْمٍ يَعْلَمُونَ بَشِيرا وَنَذِيرا فَأَعْرَضَ أَكْثَرُهُمْ فَهُمْ لاَ يَسْمَعُونَ (فصلت:1 - 4) “In the name of God, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful: {Hamem, download from the Merciful, the Most Merciful books whose verses are detailed, an Arabic Qur’an for a people who know good tidings and a warner, So most of them turned away, and they did not hear (Fussilat: 1-4). Then the Messenger of God went on to read it to him. And listen to the verses so that we may take some verses from them to explain them حمٓ ١ تَنزِيلٞ مِّنَ ٱلرَّحۡمَٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ ٢ كِتَٰبٞ فُصِّلَتۡ ءَايَٰتُهُۥ قُرۡءَانًا عَرَبِيّٗا لِّقَوۡمٖ يَعۡلَمُونَ ٣ بَشِيرٗا وَنَذِيرٗا فَأَعۡرَضَ أَكۡثَرُهُمۡ فَهُمۡ لَا يَسۡمَعُونَ ٤ وَقَالُواْ قُلُوبُنَا فِيٓ أَكِنَّةٖ مِّمَّا تَدۡعُونَآ إِلَيۡهِ وَفِيٓ ءَاذَانِنَا وَقۡرٞ وَمِنۢ بَيۡنِنَا وَبَيۡنِكَ حِجَابٞ فَٱعۡمَلۡ إِنَّنَا عَٰمِلُونَ ٥ قُلۡ إِنَّمَآ أَنَا۠ بَشَرٞ مِّثۡلُكُمۡ يُوحَىٰٓ إِلَيَّ أَنَّمَآ إِلَٰهُكُمۡ إِلَٰهٞ وَٰحِدٞ فَٱسۡتَقِيمُوٓاْ إِلَيۡهِ وَٱسۡتَغۡفِرُوهُۗ وَوَيۡلٞ لِّلۡمُشۡرِكِينَ ٦ ٱلَّذِينَ لَا يُؤۡتُونَ ٱلزَّكَوٰةَ وَهُم بِٱلۡأٓخِرَةِ هُمۡ كَٰفِرُونَ ٧ إِنَّ ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَعَمِلُواْ ٱلصَّٰلِحَٰتِ لَهُمۡ أَجۡرٌ غَيۡرُ مَمۡنُونٖ ٨ ۞قُلۡ أَئِنَّكُمۡ لَتَكۡفُرُونَ بِٱلَّذِي خَلَقَ ٱلۡأَرۡضَ فِي يَوۡمَيۡنِ وَتَجۡعَلُونَ لَهُۥٓ أَندَادٗاۚ ذَٰلِكَ رَبُّ ٱلۡعَٰلَمِينَ ٩ وَجَعَلَ فِيهَا رَوَٰسِيَ مِن فَوۡقِهَا وَبَٰرَكَ فِيهَا وَقَدَّرَ فِيهَآ أَقۡوَٰتَهَا فِيٓ أَرۡبَعَةِ أَيَّامٖ سَوَآءٗ لِّلسَّآئِلِينَ ١٠ {Hamem, download from the Merciful, the Most Merciful books whose verses are detailed, an Arabic Qur’an for a people who know good tidings and a warner, So most of them turned away, and they did not hear, And they said: our hearts are in sacks of leather of that for which you invoke, and in our ears there is deafness, And there is a veil between us and you, so work, verily we are working 5, say: I am only a human being like you, it has been revealed to me, “Your God is only one God, so stand upright to him and ask his forgiveness, and woe to the polytheists 6 Those who do not pay zakat and are in the Hereafter are disbelievers 7 verily, those who believe and do righteous deeds will have a reward unfailingly fraught with gratitude 8, say: Are you ye disbelieve in Him who created the earth in two days, and you will make equals to Him? that is the Lord of the worlds 9, and He placed in it mountains from above it, and blessed it, And he ordained therein its provision over four days, alike to those who ask 10 Hamm: You are an expert that today our whole lives have turned overnight into symbols, so we say, for example, but not limited to (HSBC - WHO) or others, and just reading the symbols of international organizations that you know from mere letters, and the broken letters in the Qur’an, God Almighty knows what they symbolize. Perhaps they symbolize the existence of the Arabic language, perhaps they are symbols of certain places in heaven tomorrow, of course this is an attempt to bring the meaning closer. The Qur’an is composed of the Arabic language in which they speak, yet most of them do not give themselves the opportunity to “hear” and said “their hearts are in a sheath and their hearing is deaf, and not only that, but between us and you is a wall” meaning that they have blocked all access to information for them, It is as if they want to say: So work from behind the wall, and we are working on the other side, then we will see who will win, then try to convince my mind with a reminder of the consequences, that He is one God and do not be one of the polytheists in Him and not pay money to the poor. Allah says ثُمَّ ٱسۡتَوَىٰٓ إِلَى ٱلسَّمَآءِ وَهِيَ دُخَانٞ فَقَالَ لَهَا وَلِلۡأَرۡضِ ٱئۡتِيَا طَوۡعًا أَوۡ كَرۡهٗا قَالَتَآ أَتَيۡنَا طَآئِعِينَ ١١ فَقَضَىٰهُنَّ سَبۡعَ سَمَٰوَاتٖ فِي يَوۡمَيۡنِ وَأَوۡحَىٰ فِي كُلِّ سَمَآءٍ أَمۡرَهَاۚ وَزَيَّنَّا ٱلسَّمَآءَ ٱلدُّنۡيَا بِمَصَٰبِيحَ وَحِفۡظٗاۚ ذَٰلِكَ تَقۡدِيرُ ٱلۡعَزِيزِ ٱلۡعَلِيمِ ١٢ فَإِنۡ أَعۡرَضُواْ فَقُلۡ أَنذَرۡتُكُمۡ صَٰعِقَةٗ مِّثۡلَ صَٰعِقَةِ عَادٖ وَثَمُودَ ١٣ إِذۡ جَآءَتۡهُمُ ٱلرُّسُلُ مِنۢ بَيۡنِ أَيۡدِيهِمۡ وَمِنۡ خَلۡفِهِمۡ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّا ٱللَّهَۖ قَالُواْ لَوۡ شَآءَ رَبُّنَا لَأَنزَلَ مَلَٰٓئِكَةٗ فَإِنَّا بِمَآ أُرۡسِلۡتُم بِهِۦ كَٰفِرُونَ ١٤ فَأَمَّا عَادٞ فَٱسۡتَكۡبَرُواْ فِي ٱلۡأَرۡضِ بِغَيۡرِ ٱلۡحَقِّ وَقَالُواْ مَنۡ أَشَدُّ مِنَّا قُوَّةًۖ أَوَ لَمۡ يَرَوۡاْ أَنَّ ٱللَّهَ ٱلَّذِي خَلَقَهُمۡ هُوَ أَشَدُّ مِنۡهُمۡ قُوَّةٗۖ وَكَانُواْ بِ‍َٔايَٰتِنَا يَجۡحَدُونَ ١٥ فَأَرۡسَلۡنَا عَلَيۡهِمۡ رِيحٗا صَرۡصَرٗا فِيٓ أَيَّامٖ نَّحِسَاتٖ لِّنُذِيقَهُمۡ عَذَابَ ٱلۡخِزۡيِ فِي ٱلۡحَيَوٰةِ ٱلدُّنۡيَاۖ وَلَعَذَابُ ٱلۡأٓخِرَةِ أَخۡزَىٰۖ وَهُمۡ لَا يُنصَرُونَ ١٦ وَأَمَّا ثَمُودُ فَهَدَيۡنَٰهُمۡ فَٱسۡتَحَبُّواْ ٱلۡعَمَىٰ عَلَى ٱلۡهُدَىٰ فَأَخَذَتۡهُمۡ صَٰعِقَةُ ٱلۡعَذَابِ ٱلۡهُونِ بِمَا كَانُواْ يَكۡسِبُونَ ١٧ وَنَجَّيۡنَا ٱلَّذِينَ ءَامَنُواْ وَكَانُواْ يَتَّقُونَ ١٨ وَيَوۡمَ يُحۡشَرُ أَعۡدَآءُ ٱللَّهِ إِلَى ٱلنَّارِ فَهُمۡ يُوزَعُونَ ١٩ حَتَّىٰٓ إِذَا مَا جَآءُوهَا شَهِدَ عَلَيۡهِمۡ سَمۡعُهُمۡ وَأَبۡصَٰرُهُمۡ وَجُلُودُهُم بِمَا كَانُواْ يَعۡمَلُونَ، قَالُواْ لِجُلُودِهِمۡ لِمَ شَهِدتُّمۡ عَلَيۡنَاۖ قَالُوٓاْ أَنطَقَنَا ٱللَّهُ ٱلَّذِيٓ أَنطَقَ كُلَّ شَيۡءٖۚ وَهُوَ خَلَقَكُمۡ أَوَّلَ مَرَّةٖ وَإِلَيۡهِ تُرۡجَعُونَ ٢١ Then he settled to the sky when it was smoke, and he said to her and to the earth: “Come both willingly or unwillingly.” they both said: He ordained them in seven heavens in two days, and He revealed its affair in each heaven, and We have beautified the lowest heaven with lamps and guards; that is the ordinance of the Almighty, the All-dear, the All-Knowing 12 and if they turn away, then say: “My warning to you is a thunderbolt like a thunderbolt.” Aad and Thamud 13 When the Messengers came to them from before their hands and from behind them, worship none but God, They said, "If our Lord had willed, He would have sent down angels, for we disbelieve in what you were sent with, as for A'ad, then they were arrogant in the land without right, and they said, “Who is more powerful than us? did they not see that God, who created them, was more powerful than them, and they denied Our signs 15 Send us upon them, the wind, the sizzle: The sound of the cold wind, on bad days, make them taste the torment of disgrace in this world's life, and the torment of the hereafter is much worse, and they will not be helped 6 And as for Thamud they were guided, so they preferred blindness over guidance, so I took them with a thunderbolt of the humiliating torment with what they earned 17 And We saved those who believed and were pious. 18 And on the Day the enemies of God will be gathered to the Fire, they will be distributed 19 until when they came to them, they testified against their hearing, their eyes, and their skins of what they used to do, They said to their skins: "Why did you testify against us, they said, “God who made all things speak to us, and He created you the first time, and to Him you shall be returned Then he placed for him in the first ten verses of the beginning of the universe that he created the planet Earth in two days and then estimated its sustenance (food) for everyone on the planet of people, birds, beasts and others (four days) if you will - it is a high level statistic, Then he nourished the curiosity of the infidels with the knowledge of the completion of the beginning of life in its beginning, then ascended to the sky, which is a form of smoke, and spoke with the earth and the sky, and they agreed to obedience, not disobedience, as the infidels, and the word that the sky is smoke - this is a unique scientific expression - that is only known in our modern age - and that the sky is not one but another, and we only see the lowest heaven, then follow these cosmic manifestations (if they turn away) are they possible to object? yes, of course. They just said that there is a wall between you and us. We will not hear. We will not see. Nothing will enter the information processing outlets. Who are they? The majority and few of them are the ones who work their minds in speaking, If they turn away, warn them with a thunderbolt like the thunderbolt of 'Ad and Thamud, and you are an expert that the Arabs love tales and legends, and few of them at that time were educated and knew the news of previous nations such as Waraka bin Nofal and others, because as Arabs, many of us like to speak exaggeratedly, which is a kind of lying, but who is truer than God in words - Glory be to Him - so he gives you the story (Aad and Thamud) from a highly credible point of view, then he mentions the consequences: that they are scattered in the fire, and the (information processing outlets) that they deny and work with will bear witness to them, One of the surprising things is that they asked about their skins, why did you testify against us, and we used to make mistakes for your sake, which is not surprising at the end of time, for you are expert that they spoke in the West about shoes and the stick that is placed in the hand, which is inanimate, Perhaps today or tomorrow they talk to their bodies through chips placed anywhere in the body, such as the ones they use today and keep passwords, bank account information and others on it. Allah says وَمَا كُنتُمۡ تَسۡتَتِرُونَ أَن يَشۡهَدَ عَلَيۡكُمۡ سَمۡعُكُمۡ وَلَآ أَبۡصَٰرُكُمۡ وَلَا جُلُودُكُمۡ وَلَٰكِن ظَنَنتُمۡ أَنَّ ٱللَّهَ لَا يَعۡلَمُ كَثِيرٗا مِّمَّا تَعۡمَلُونَ ٢٢ وَذَٰلِكُمۡ ظَنُّكُمُ ٱلَّذِي ظَنَنتُم بِرَبِّكُمۡ أَرۡدَىٰكُمۡ فَأَصۡبَحۡتُم مِّنَ ٱلۡخَٰسِرِينَ ٢٣ فَإِن يَصۡبِرُواْ فَٱلنَّارُ مَثۡوٗى لَّهُمۡۖ وَإِن يَسۡتَعۡتِبُواْ فَمَا هُم مِّنَ ٱلۡمُعۡتَبِينَ ٢٤ ۞وَقَيَّضۡنَا لَهُمۡ قُرَنَآءَ فَزَيَّنُواْ لَهُم مَّا بَيۡنَ أَيۡدِيهِمۡ وَمَا خَلۡفَهُمۡ وَحَقَّ عَلَيۡهِمُ ٱلۡقَوۡلُ فِيٓ أُمَمٖ قَدۡ خَلَتۡ مِن قَبۡلِهِم مِّنَ ٱلۡجِنِّ وَٱلۡإِنسِۖ إِنَّهُمۡ كَانُواْ خَٰسِرِينَ ٢٥ وَقَالَ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ لَا تَسۡمَعُواْ لِهَٰذَا ٱلۡقُرۡءَانِ وَٱلۡغَوۡاْ فِيهِ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تَغۡلِبُونَ ٢٦ فَلَنُذِيقَنَّ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ عَذَابٗا شَدِيدٗا وَلَنَجۡزِيَنَّهُمۡ أَسۡوَأَ ٱلَّذِي كَانُواْ يَعۡمَلُونَ ٢٧ ذَٰلِكَ جَزَآءُ أَعۡدَآءِ ٱللَّهِ ٱلنَّارُۖ لَهُمۡ فِيهَا دَارُ ٱلۡخُلۡدِ جَزَآءَۢ بِمَا كَانُواْ بِ‍َٔايَٰتِنَا يَجۡحَدُونَ ٢٨ وَقَالَ ٱلَّذِينَ كَفَرُواْ رَبَّنَآ أَرِنَا ٱلَّذَيۡنِ أَضَلَّانَا مِنَ ٱلۡجِنِّ وَٱلۡإِنسِ نَجۡعَلۡهُمَا تَحۡتَ أَقۡدَامِنَا لِيَكُونَا مِنَ ٱلۡأَسۡفَلِينَ ٢٩ إِنَّ ٱلَّذِينَ قَالُواْ رَبُّنَا ٱللَّهُ ثُمَّ ٱسۡتَقَٰمُواْ تَتَنَزَّلُ عَلَيۡهِمُ ٱلۡمَلَٰٓئِكَةُ أَلَّا تَخَافُواْ وَلَا تَحۡزَنُواْ وَأَبۡشِرُواْ بِٱلۡجَنَّةِ ٱلَّتِي كُنتُمۡ تُوعَدُونَ ٣٠ نَحۡنُ أَوۡلِيَآؤُكُمۡ فِي ٱلۡحَيَوٰةِ ٱلدُّنۡيَا وَفِي ٱلۡأٓخِرَةِۖ وَلَكُمۡ فِيهَا مَا تَشۡتَهِيٓ أَنفُسُكُمۡ وَلَكُمۡ فِيهَا مَا تَدَّعُونَ ٣١ Verses 22 to 31 And you would not hiding that he testify against you, your hearing, nor your sight, nor your skins, but you thought that God does not know much of what you do 22 and that is your thought that you thought of your Lord: it destroyed you, so you became of the losers 23 And if they are patient, then the Fire is their abode, and if they reprimand, they are not of those who give admonition 24 Recruitment for their peers, so beautify to them what is between their hands and what is behind them, and they have the right to say the word about nations that have been created before them from the jinn and mankind, that they were evil 25 and those who disbelieved said, “Listen not to this Qur’an, and put in it idle talk: in it you may be victorious.” 26 so We will surely taste a severe chastisement to those who disbelieve, and we will surely requite them for the worst of what they used to do 27 that is the recompense of the enemies of God, the Fire. For them is the abode of eternity, as a recompense for what they did to you, and those who disbelieved said, “Our Lord, show us those who have led us astray from the jinn and mankind, we make them under our feet, so that they may be among the lowest. 29 those who said, “Our Lord is God,” and then went straight, the angels will descend upon them, do not be afraid, nor grieve, and rejoice in the Paradise that you were promised 30 We are your guardians in the life of this world and in the hereafter, and you will have in it what yourselves desire, and you will have in it what you call 31. They say (The most false hadith is conjecture) meaning that not all mere doubt brings facts. It is not because you do not imagine that these skins will speak that this will not happen. Rather, it will happen as long as the god of heaven said, then a reminder of the consequences (the fire - there is no reprimand but only loss: We ask God's well-being) and each of them became an invalid companion from Satan, who embellishes their deeds for them, and loss was written for them and their demons, and listen to the words of the infidels: Do not listen to this Qur’an, and if you hear someone reciting it, make a loud noise with false sayings that are of no benefit to distract people from listening to the Qur’an, why might it be in this victory for you, then the end in the fire, then those who disbelieve say, We want those above us from those who led us astray and directed us to a direction that leads to the Fire, that we put them under our feet and trample on them, a kind of anger: anger to make them the lowest and not the highest, as we used to consider them to be the highest of the people, then usually the Qur’an speaks of another type of human being, The straight one, the angels descend upon them, and they are the opposite of others who have companions from the devils. It is said to them: do not be afraid for what you have left of this world, and that is the time of death, or be sad about what you are about to do, and perhaps this in this world is not the time of death only, as the natural person who enjoys good and moderate mental health does not think about the past or look at the future with a kind of fear and they remain present and as the West says (The power of now) The guardianship of the angels in this world and the hereafter includes honor and companionship, and you have what you desire or ask for. Perhaps someone said: He laughs loudly, what do we desire? Whatever we desire is in our hands, we created our paradise ourselves, This is something that you laugh at your poor and needy, it is true: perhaps, but what if fates played a role in it, an exchange of roles, meaning that you were the poor and the poor was you, was your speech going to be him? We are poor in things. We are not all rich in everything, even if a human being is designed as he wants (designer babies) of us who are poor in money - and among us who are poor in morals, and among us who are poor in physical health - and among us who are poor in mental health and others, Every beautiful person is higher than him in beauty, intellect, health and almost everything. You and I are poor in some things and rich in other things. At the end of a simplified interpretation - of some of what Abu al-Walid heard - that is not based on the opinions of the eminent jurists, let us see how Abu al-Walid interacted with it. When Utbah (Abu Al-Waleed) heard it from him, he listened to it and put his hands behind his back, relying on them to listen to him. Then the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, ended in prostration from it and prostrated himself. Then he said: O Abu al-Walid you have heard what you and that have heard. Utbah stood up to his companions and they said to each other We swear by God that Abu al-Walid came to you with a different face, so when he sat down to them they said: What is behind you, Abu al-Walid? He said: Behind me, I have heard a saying, by God, I have never heard the like of it, and by God, it is not poetry, magic, or fortune-telling, O people of Quraish, obey me and make it for me, Separate between this man and what is in it, leave him, for by God, they will be because of what he said, from which I heard great news, If the Arabs pour it, then you have sufficed it with others, and if it appears before the Arabs So his kingdom is your kingdom, his glory is your glory, and you were the happiest of people with him. They said: By God, he bewitched you, O Abu Al-Walid, with his tongue. He said: This is my opinion of him, so do what you like. The commenting on the story See this part of the scientific study ( be present) The distraction is all around us. With so much information dumping at us at a million miles per hour, it's no wonder communication in relationships can suffer. When you're in a discussion with someone you really care about, whether it's your partner, a good friend, or your child, make sure you're free from distraction during your conversation. It allows you to focus on the conversation and really digest the discussion. Moreover, it helps in allowing you to be thoughtful and considerate in your interaction. Communication in any personal or professional relationship is difficult. We have to commit to showing up and doing the work to make sure it's successful and thriving. Learning how to be a good listener plays a huge role in everyone's success, The next time you find yourself in a situation where you need attention, remember to validate it, be present, and respond thoughtfully. You will be amazed at how much better your interactions can be. 1 - Now: Look at the position of Abu Al-Waleed (Utbah bin Rabi’ah) with his hand behind his back while listening to the Qur’an, and listen and he did not speak a word for as long as the Messenger was reciting the Qur’an from Surat Fussilat. What do you understand from this position and this listening? He's a decent person first of all, He was attracted to the Qur’an, and was even astonished by its vocabulary and its elaborations on the side of some until he said to his people when he returned to them: this is not magic, fortune-telling or poetry, so he has a critical ear that listens and enthralls with poetry and other things, and has distinguished that this is not what I have heard before. 2- Note: that the Arabic Sulaiqa in the days of the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him: a sound Arabic Sulaiqa who understand the meanings of words without anyone explaining them to them like us, So the words fell from his heart and mind in place. 3 - As for the position of the Messenger of God: a summit in respect for the other: in his saying (say, listen, O Abu Al-Waleed - then: you have finished, O Abu Al-Waleed), if Utbah bin Rabi’ah listened to the Messenger of God, The Messenger of God preceded him in this respect for the other, where is this from today's speculations, insults, loudness of voice and other things? 4 - See: The Messenger of God did not find a better conversation than the Qur’an to convince Abu Al-Waleed (Utbah bin Rabi’ah) with it. Why? Perhaps the Messenger of God knew from his conversation and the way he bargained at first that it entered him from a purely mental entrance and at the end of his talk he said to him (So hear from me, I offer you matters that you will consider, perhaps you will accept some of them from us) So the Messenger of God understood that he is a rational person and loves one who appreciates his intellect, so he did not find words more rational than the words of God Almighty. 5- Now: What is your ruling on Aba Al-Waleed? Is he a good listener? What do you think of his standing and raising his head to hear? The second story Quraysh When the Quraish saw that the Messenger of God had rejected what they offered him, they said to him: O Muhammad, if you do not accept anything from us from what we have offered you, then you have known that there is no one among the people who has the narrowest country, nor the least water, nor the most abundant life than us, so ask your Lord, who has sent you, with what He has sent you, so that He may remove from us these mountains that have narrowed us down, and that He may simplify our country for us, and let him break for us rivers therein, like the rivers of Syria and Iraq, and let him send for us those who passed from our forefathers, and let him be among those of them who sends us: Qusay bin Kilab, He was an honest sheikh: so we ask them what you say is it true or false? If they believed you, and you did what we asked you, we would believe you, And we knew your status with God and that He sent you as a Messenger as you say. The Messenger of God He said: “What is this I have sent to you? I have come to you from God with what He sent me with, and I have conveyed to you what I was sent with. If you accept it, then it is your luck in this world and the hereafter, and if you return it to me, I will be patient with God’s command until God judges between you and me.” Quraysh They said: If you do not do this for us, then take it for yourself. Ask your Lord to send with you an angel who will believe you in what you say and take us back from you, and ask him to make for you gardens, palaces and treasures of gold and silver, It suffices you from what we see you wanting, for you go to the markets and seek a livelihood as we seek it so that we know your kindness and your status with your Lord if you are a messenger as you claim. The Messenger of God He said: “What is this I have sent to you? I have come to you from God with what He sent me with, and I have conveyed to you what I was sent with. If you accept it, then it is your luck in this world and the hereafter, and if you return it to me, I will be patient with God’s command until God judges between you and me. They said So drop the sky on us as you claim that if your Lord wills He will do it, then we will not believe in you unless you do it, so the Messenger of God said: “That is for God, if He wills, that He will do it to you, He will do it for you, they said: O Muhammad, what does your Lord know? We will sit with you and ask you about what we asked you about, and we will ask you what we ask, so he will come to you and teach you what we asked for, and he will tell you what he is doing in that, If we do not accept from you what you brought us, it has reached us, but this man teaches you in a place called: Al-Yamamah, he is called the Most Merciful, and we do not believe in the Most Merciful. We have never apologized to you O Muhammad, and by God, we will not leave you and you have not reached us until you have destroyed us, and their sayer said: We worship the angels, and they are the daughters of God, and they said: We will not believe in you until you bring God and the angels before, when they said that to the Messenger of God, he stood up from them, Abdullah bin Abi Umayyah bin Al-Mughirah bin Abdullah bin Omar bin Makhzoom, who is the son of his paternal aunt Atika bint Abdul Muttalib, stood with him and said: O Muhammad, your people offered you what they offered you and you did not accept it from them, then they asked you for themselves things by which they would know your status with God as you say, and they believe you and follow you, but you did not do, then they asked you to take for yourself what they know of your kindness to them and your status from God, and you did not, then they asked you to hasten for them some of what you feared them of the torment with, but you did not do it. Then he said to him: By God, I will never believe in you until you take a ladder to heaven and then ascend in it, and I look until you come to it, then you bring with you an instrument with four angels who testify to you that you are as you say, And by God, if I had done that, I would not have thought that I believed you. The Messenger of God would go to his family sad and sorry for what he had missed from his people when they called him, and for what he saw of their distance from him. The commenting on the story 1 - Impossible demands, right? The strange thing is that God - the Most High - did not give Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, what they wanted. Why? Why did he not make for him a ladder to the sky to ascend to him or any impossible things that science did not reach at that time? The truth is we don't know exactly, but do you know that the Messenger of God has many miracles as the prophets - not at the time here - but for example, but not limited to (the splitting of the moon - news that the water level has decreased from the surface of the Dead Sea in Surat Al-Rum and others), except that God - the Most High - did not give his prophet miracle verses, perhaps for two reasons Minds at that time cannot accommodate verses beyond their cognitive abilities, such as Felix's leap or others. Part of the believers’ faith (belief in the unseen and only) and a belief that he will win, but not in all battles. Rather, it is necessary to wait and be patient, not over calamities, but rather to fulfill God’s promises to the true believers, and it is an act of worship just like prayer. 2 - Did you know that the greatest miracle of the Messenger of God is the Qur’an, the Almighty says (and strive hard against them with it) and also says (and when Our verses are recited to them with clear proofs, you will be known on the faces of those who reject you ۖ They almost defame those who recite to them Our verses ۗ...the Hajj) You are an expert that today the whole West is based on ideas, rather it is based on the word war now, and great ideas gain from it and even modern civilizations are established on it. Andalusia and the West welcomed them, and the new Muslims entered the morals of traders Now the name of the Muslim is heard associated with the terrorist because we have moved from action to reaction, we have moved from teachers to learners, from spreading the scientific word in all fields to the bottom of the field, we as Muslim Arabs are about 3% of scientific publications for the whole world, Will the future come with what the past started with? God willing (Al-Basri - Dawood Al-Antaki and others: pioneers of yesterday) We end up with two things We justify with Hope We are distressed, otherwise distress will come, and the breath will be seized If you want to know what has passed, look at what is to come, for things are similar. 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1- The story of Islam Ali bin Abi Talib - may God be pleased with him ( He is over twelve years old) After Khadija bint Khuwaylid - may God be pleased with her - converted to Islam, she and the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - used to pray secretly, so Ali - may God be pleased with him - saw their prayers, then Ali asked the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, about this prayer, and he said: What is this? So the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - explained to him that this is the true religion that God - the Most High - has accepted, He commanded it, and sent messengers for it. Then the Messenger - may God bless him and grant him peace - asked Ali to submit to God - the Most High - and to make atonement for God and disbelive in al-Lat and Al - Uzza- Ali said: I consult my dad. But the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - forbade him from telling his uncle Abu Talib; Because the Islamic call is still in the process of secrecy, and God - may He be exalted - did not authorize the call to be made out loud, and the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - told Ali - may God be pleased with him - that either he should submit or be concealed, Ali - may God be pleased with him - remained that night, then God - the Most High - cast Islam into the heart of Ali - may God be pleased with him. Then Ali - may God be pleased with him - returned, to the Prophet - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - and asked him what he had presented to him on the previous day, so he told him to testify that there is no god but God, and to disbelieve in Al-Lat and Al-Uzza, and abandon polytheism with God, So Ali embraced Islam, concealed his Islam, and remained on that until God - the Most High - revealed his religion. A word about his conversion to Islam - may God be pleased with him - The young man of young age, who is related to the Messenger by blood, and sees from the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him the great character, over the years of his life, when a matter is presented to him, it is assumed that he does not hesitate because the Messenger of God is older than him and he must respect his desire, despite that he said for him: My father asked permission for that, which indicates the morals of Ali Ibn Abi Talib, his first behavior with his parents, then he delivers and conceals the news for the sake of the Messenger of God, another honor for him - may God be pleased with him - It is very difficult to hide a great matter such as the conversion from religion to religion at this age, which indicates a personality that consists of dimensions of strength. 2 - Islam Othman bin Affan ( He is over thirty years old ) Othman bin Affan - may God be pleased with him - was one of the first to convert to Islam, as he converted to Islam before the Messenger of God entered the house of Al-Arqam bin Abi Al-Arqam His conversion to Islam is at hand Abu Bakr as-Siddiq - may God be pleased with him - used to say: I am the fourth of four in Islam The story of his conversion to Islam On one of the nights he was sitting at the Kaaba, he heard the news of the marriage of Utbah bin Abi Lahab with a telegram, the daughter of the Messenger of God, and Ruqayyah was a woman of beauty, Othman bemoaned if he had previously Utbah and married her, then he returned to his house, and when his maternal aunt Saada bint Kariz told him of the message of Muhammad - may God bless him and grant him peace - and that he had brought a message from God, and that Muhammad's religion was the religion of success and salvation, so he heard her words and began to think about what she said, and he had a meeting with Abu Bakr, so he went to him, Abu Bakr saw him busy in thought and mind, so he asked him what had happened to him, so he told him about what he had heard from his aunt, so Abu Bakr said: “Woe to you, O Othman, that you are a firm man whose truth is not hidden from you, what are these idols that our people worship? Are they not deaf stones that neither hear nor see? Othman said: Yes, so Abu Bakr offered him to take him to the Messenger of God, and he would hear from him. Othman agreed, and when the Messenger of God was passing by with Ali bin Abi Talib, they invited him to Islam and Paradise. When Uthman heard that, he entered Islam, and after that he married Ruqayya, the daughter of the Messenger of God. A word about his conversion to Islam - may God be pleased with him We will not speak except on the words of our master Abu Bakr to him (You are a firm man), as if Abu Bakr Al-Siddiq - may God be pleased with him - defined firmness as (The distinction between truth and falsehood) and firmness in the language means: take his command: take the matter firmly and control it, so the distinction between truth and falsehood for men who are strong and firm in their affairs, not for the common people. 3 - Islam Zaid bin Haritha ( He was thirty years old) We will not forget that Zaid - may God be pleased with him - was the son of the Messenger of God by adoption until God Almighty abolished the adoption, then he became a son by sponsorship. When the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - was sent, the Prophet - may God bless him and grant him peace - called him to Islam, and he declared his Islam, and he embraced God’s religion without hesitation, He had accompanied the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - for many years before that, during which he was certain that he was truthful and did not know a way to lie, so how could he leave lying to people, And he lies to God, and he knows that he is a great chaste man far from all sins and sins, and it is impossible to manipulate people's faith, and if his goal was prestige, and the Sultan would not have taken that path, and he would have chosen the easiest path, which is the path of Al-Lat and Al-Uzza. - A word about his conversion to Islam - may God be pleased with him - It is possible for a person to say about himself the best qualities, and describe himself with the best descriptions. Who will discover the sincerity of these resonant words? who live around you, your household, right? Therefore, the Messenger of God says in a hadith (The best of you is the best of you to his family) because everything you say about yourself outside falls on the threshold of your house before you enter it, and this is Zaid bin Haritha - knowing that whoever is truthful in his words and actions, Inside and outside the house he will not lie to God because he has not been tempted to lie to people, so it was easier and easier not to lie to God Almighty, and this was from his jurisprudence - may God be pleased with him and please him. 4- Islam Saad bin Abi Waqas He had seen in a dream that he was drowning in a sea, and while he was trying to save himself from drowning, he saw a moon, so Saad - may God be pleased with him - tries to catch up with it, Indeed, he caught up with him, and when he saw that Abu Bakr al-Siddiq, Ali bin Abi Talib and Zaid bin Haritha - may God be pleased with them - had preceded him to this moon. and the next morning, He heard that Muhammad - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - calls for a new religion, so he knew that the interpretation of his vision is to enter into the religion of truth, so he - may God be pleased with him - was one of the forerunners to Islam, and he went to him - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - in the Giad reefs, and announced his conversion to Islam there, and it was said that he was the fourth who entered Islam, and it was said that he was the seventh who entered Islam and God knows best. A word about his conversion to Islam - may God be pleased with him The Vision is from God - the Most High - and the dream is from the conscious mind, and the question here is: What did God - the Most High - see in the heart of the worshiper of idols (Saad bin Abi Waqqas) to show him a good dream like this on the night of the revelation of the message to Muhammad - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, God - Allah does not look at our Ideal shape if so, or our bodies, if we were perfect, or a beautiful image, or a large or marginalized social situation, no, no, but rather to the heart and the heart only, you see what is in the hearts of human beings, as for the minds, they have mastered them with FMRI and others. As for the hearts, exclusively, what is in them, only God knows until now. The Islam of Zubair bin Al-Awwam ( at age of 8) In response to the invitation of Abu Bakr Al-Siddiq to him, and despite being subjected to harm by his people, he remained steadfast on the Islamic religion, He did not enter Islam alone, but his brothers Al-Sa’ib and Abdul Rahman converted to Islam, and their fourth brother Abdullah did not A word about his conversion to Islam - may God be pleased with him 1 - We always wonder why the Companions became companions - may God be pleased with them all, and when we know that some of them embraced Islam at the age of 8, and one of his brothers rejected Islam, we know that they have a unique personality, the first Arabs are among the most honorable personalities that you like to deal with, May God Almighty return honor, glory and dominion to Arabs and Muslims everywhere, east and west. 2 - This is not the unique personality of Abu Bakr Al-Siddiq, who invites a child to embrace a new religion, Isn't that surprising? Abu Bakr Al-Siddiq, one of the notables of the people, talks to a child and imagines that he will answer his call, and it was, but he is a stranger thing. Islam Abdul Rahman bin Auf Abd al-Rahman ibn Awf had several names by which he was called in the pre-Islamic era. Including Abd Omar, Abd al-Kaaba, and Abd al-Harith, but the Messenger -may God bless him and grant him peace- named him Abd al-Rahman after his conversion to Islam, He embraced Islam at the hands of Abu Bakr al-Siddiq - may God be pleased with him -, as he was one of the companions who converted to Islam before the Messenger - may God bless him and grant him peace - entered Dar al-Arqam. A word about his conversion to Islam - may God be pleased with him The Arabs said: Every person has a share of his name, and the Messenger - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - understood this meaning before the Arabs knew it, and he changed the names of many of the Companions from names that have meanings of distress or an evil meaning to names that have a meaning, because when you meet a person or deal with him for the first time, The first thing you know about him is (his name), and if you knew the meaning of this name and this meaning referred to something in your head as a mental background for what you carry in the bag of meanings, memories and concepts, It is the beginning of a relationship that can continue or transient, but the name is part of the being of every human being. This is the tip of the iceberg of the first companions who embraced Islam, as a model for the rest of the early companions.

Marriage of Fatima, daughter of the Messenger of God in the year 2 AH Fatimah, the daughter of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, is the leader of the women of the worlds, except for Mary, the daughter of Imran, may God’s prayers be upon them both, the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, married her to Ali four and a half months after he (married) Aisha, and consummated consummation with her seven and a half months after he married her, Fifteen years and five months, and the offspring of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was cut off except for her, for the males of his children died young. Abu Bakr and Omar betrothed Fatima to the Messenger of God, but he refused to both of them. Omar said: You belong to her, Ali. He said: I have nothing but my shield that I pledged, so the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, married him to Fatimah, when that reached Fatimah, she cried, and the Messenger of God came to her and said: “Why are you crying, Fatima? By God, I married you the most knowledgeable, the most intelligent, and the most peaceful. On the authority of Ali, may God be pleased with him, he said: Fatimah was engaged to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and a female slave of mine said to me: Did you know that Fatimah was engaged to the Messenger of God, peace be upon him, and I said: No, she said: she has engaged, so what prevents you from coming to the Messenger of God, peace be upon him, and he will marry you? I said: do I have anything to marry him? She said: If you came to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, your husband, by God, you kept pleading with me until I went to the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, had his majesty and prestige, so when I sat in front of him, I entered, by God, I could not speak, so he said: “What brought you?” I shut up, He said: "Perhaps you have come to betroth Fatima?" I said, “Yes.” He said, “Do you have anything to make it lawful? I said: No, by God, O Messenger of God. He said: What did you do with the armor that I armed you with? So I said: I have it, and by the One in Whose hand is the soul of Ali, it is an armor: Heavy, broad, that breaks swords, its price is four hundred dirhams, He said: “I have married you, so send her, if it is for the dowry of Fatima, the daughter of the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him. And the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, said to Ali on the night of the construction of Fatima: “Do not speak anything until you meet me.” So the Messenger of God, peace be upon him, called for water, and he performed ablution from it, then he passed it on to Ali and said: “Oh God, bless them, and bless them, and bless their offspring. Ibn Ishaq said: And someone who I do not accuse told me: The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was very jealous of his daughters, and he would not marry his daughters at the expense of a wife. The Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, ordered them to prepare Fatimah So a cleft bed was made for her, and a cushion of leather filled with loofah, and the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, sent Asma bint Umays to prepare the home, He prayed ‘Isha’ and was sent to Fatima, may God be pleased with her, and she came with Umm Ayman Barakat al-Habashi, his mistress, may God bless him and grant him peace, until she sat on the side of the house, and Ali, may God be pleased with him, on the other side, then the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, came after he prayed the last evening prayer, and said: “Is she here my brother? Umm Ayman said: Your brother has married your daughter? He said: Yes, he is like my brother in status and fraternity, so it is not forbidden for me to marry him to my daughter, and he, peace be upon him, entered and said to Fatimah, may God be pleased with her: “Bring me water.” So she stumbled in her dress out of shame, to a great mug in the home, She brought water in it, and he took it and swept it, that is, he put it in his mouth and threw it in the bottom, and the bottom was a large bowl - then he said to her: come in so she came, and he sprinkled her breasts and over her head, and said: “Oh God, I seek refuge in You and her offspring from the accursed Satan, then he said: “Go back” So she turned and poured it between her shoulders, then he did the same to Ali, then he said to him: “Enter your family in the name of God and blessing, Her dowry, may God be pleased with her, was 400 silver dirhams, and Ali, may God be pleased with him, fell down in prostration, thanking God Almighty. the wedding banquet of Ali, may God be pleased with him A saa' of barley, dates and Hays - which is dates mixed with ghee - and it was said: I was given a ram from Sa'd and a saa' of corn from a group of Ansar, Their bedding on the night of their wedding was the skin of a ram, and Ali was 21 years and five months old at that time. The story of Ali Ibn Abi Talib wanted to marry another woman after Fatimah On the authority of Al-Miswar bin Makhrama, he said: I heard the Messenger of God, peace and blessings be upon him, say while he was on the pulpit: “The Banu Hisham bin Al-Mughirah asked me for permission to marry their daughter, Ali bin Abi Talib, I don't give permission, then I don't, unless he wants: Ali bin Abi Talib to divorce my daughter and marry their daughter, because she is part of me It hurts me what hurt her. We thus benefit from this part 1- The marriage of Lady Fatimah is full of blessings with which she began her life and filled her entire life with the ruqyah of the Messenger - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him for her and her husband before the wedding. The result of this wedding was 4 children who filled the world with knowledge and piety after that. 2- Her dowry was not small for two people who start their lives in their early twenties, but it is small for the daughter of the master of the nation, the daughter of the Messenger of God, and the fathers should have an example from the Messenger of God in not exaggerating in the dowries, even if they were less than their counterparts at the time of her marriage. 3 - The story of an attempted marriage - Ali Ibn Abi Talib - may God be pleased with him, his wife Fatimah bint Muhammad, and the Messenger - may God bless him and grant him peace - rejected that, out of favoritism from the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - for his beloved daughter, Perhaps some fathers did that with some of their daughters, especially if there was no need for marriage because of the wife’s illness or failure to perform her duties, or something else, But we know that it is a characteristic of the daughter of the Messenger of God, just as the Messenger of God has a specificity in marrying nine women, and the men of the Muhammadan nation are not allowed to have more than four, and God has the greatest wisdom in some of what we have troubled understanding.

The prophet in his youth- peace be uopn him- After the incident of the twelfth year of his honorable life when he traveled to the Levant, the monk (Al-Buhaira) was warning his uncle Abu Talib against him. We have not heard the news of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, from the narrators, Until he was in his twenties. And this is a small journey that we will spend on his virtues - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - in the period that the narrators talked about, and we do not know a specific age for each of them. In the Hadith Qudsi (Indeed, God marvels at a young man who has no sabwah: tendency to fun) sabwah: amusement and fun The meaning of this hadith is that the young man who does not enjoy himself and goes to places of entertainment and pleasure is a stranger to the rest of the youth and what God Almighty cannot do in life. The Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, talks about the manifestations that God preserved for him before prophethood and when he was young, of youthful tendencies and motives. He says, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him: (I did not care about ugly things that the people of the Jahiliyyah were concerned about) Except twice from eternity, both of them will protect me from them. I said one night to a young man from Quraysh who was with me at the top of Makkah with the sheep of his family tending them: Look at my sheep until they are night talking or making fun, This night in Makkah as the boys were going out to making fun, he said: Yes, so I went out and came to the lowest house of Makkah, I heard singing and the beating of tambourines and psalms, and I said: What is this? They said: So-and-so married So-and-so, to a man from Quraysh who married a woman from Quraysh So I fascinated with that singing and that sound until my eyes overcame me, and nothing but the heat of the sun woke me up, so I came back and said: What did you do? Then I told him the same thing another night, and he did, so I went out, and I heard the same thing, I was told the same as I was told, so I was distracted by what I heard until my eyes overcame me, What woke me up was the touch of the sun, then I went back to my friend and he said: What did you do? I said: I have not done anything. The Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - said: By God, after that, I did not care about the evil of what the people of the pre-Islamic era did, until God honored me with his prophethood.” Narrated by Ibn Hibban. God Almighty protect His Prophet Muhammad, may God bless him and grant him peace, in his youth from permissible entertainment, and this does not mean that some entertainment is forbidden, but because God has chosen some of His servants for a specific performance. A task such as (His message is Heaven) must be the chosen one, chosen from all that is wrong with him, so he is not known among young people for his amusement like them. His nakedness did not appear during ignorance or Islam On the authority of Jaber bin Abdullah, may God be pleased with him, he said: (When the Kaaba was built, the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, and al-Abbas went to move stones, so al-Abbas said to the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him: Put your Ezar on your neck. He said: Put your Ezar on your neck, He fell to the ground, and his eyes looked up to the sky, so he said: Show me my Ezar, and tighten it upon him. Ezar: clothing that surrounds the lower part of the body. He, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, would not eat what was sacrificed to idols On the authority of Abdullah bin Omar, may God be pleased with them both: (The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, He met Zaid bin Amr bin Nufail at the bottom of Baldah (a valley on the way to Al-Tanaim to Mecca) before the revelation was revealed to the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, I presented to the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, a table (food), but he refused to eat from it, then Zaid said: I do not eat of what you slaughter on your Idols, and I do not eat anything except what the name of God was mentioned on it, and that Zaid bin Amr was blaming the Quraish for their sacrifices and saying: The sheep is created by God and He sends down water for it from the sky and grows for it from the earth, then you slaughter it in other than the name of God - in denial of that and out of honor for Him.) Narrated by Al-Bukhari. The story of the Black Stone when the Messenger of God became thirty-five years old When the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - was thirty-five years old - five years before his mission - the Quraysh gathered to renovate the building of the Kaaba due to the cracking of its walls, and it was still as Ibrahim, peace be upon him, built it with rams (stones) above the stature, and the work in building the Kaaba was divided among the tribes, and each of them took over one side of the Kaaba, they began to build it with stones from the valley, and when the building reached the place of the Black Stone, a discord broke out between the tribes of Quraysh, everyone wanted to have the honor of raising the Black Stone to its place, and they almost fought among themselves, until Abu Umayyah ibn al-Mughirah al-Makhzumi came and suggested to them that they arbitrate in what they differed about, the first to enter them through the gate of the Sacred Mosque, So they agreed to his proposal and waited for the first to come, so if he was the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - and as soon as they saw him they shouted: This is the trustworthy, we are satisfied, this is Muhammad, And as soon as he reached them, they told him the news, and he said: “Give me a dress.” They brought it to him, and he placed a stone in the middle of it, then said: (Let each tribe take one side of the garment, then raise it all together) So they did, and when they reached its place, he took it with his honorable hand and put it in its place. This is indicate to sanity and wisdom when he was a young man before the message (when the Quraysh notables differed). In response to the story how old are you? Have you been called by a nickname that you became famous among your group, or among your relatives, or among your acquaintances, or among your tribe if you were one of the owners of the tribes? It's hard to call you a nickname, and if it calls you it usually is!!!! Your reputation for something is your history that you make yourself, and the Messenger of God put it in the biography - So to speak - and because of that he will fulfill God's message after a short period of time making him worthy of this position. The Almighty said (And whoever is given wisdom, he has been given much good) You do not see only good, but a lot of good. Like this, a civil war may erupt, and it used to happen to them for trivial reasons, and it is possible that the best young men of Quraysh may die. His wisdom - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - was a gift, To think about this trick agreed upon by the sheikhs and youth of Quraish, which indicates his wisdom and flexibility in dealing with difficult situations and difficult personalities, It is no secret to anyone that the time of disagreement does. You only show a person the most difficult thing about him. The Messenger and the care of sheep All these questions are confirmed by another hadith on the authority of Abu Hurayrah, may God be pleased with him, on the authority of the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, who said: “God did not send a prophet but shepherds the sheep. And his companions said: And you? He said: Yes. I used to take care of it on Carats for the people of Mecca.” The Messenger of God witnessed - Alliance Al-Fudoul - A man from the Yemeni tribe of "Zubaid" came to Mecca in the pre-Islamic period with goods he wanted to sell, so Al-Aas bin Wael Al-Sahmi (father of Amr bin Al-Aas) bought it from him, But he refused to give him the price. And when Al-Zubaydi despaired of obtaining his right, he climbed the mountain of Abu Qubais in Mecca - and the Quraysh in their clubs around the Kaaba - and sang verses of poetry in which he presents his grievance, he pleads with Quraish to return his right to him, so Zubair bin Abdul Muttalib bin Hashim, uncle of the Prophet, heard his distress, He said: "What has this left?" Five of the tribes of Quraish gathered in the house of Abdullah bin Jadaan al-Taymi: Banu Hashim, Banu al-Muttalib, Banu Asad, Banu Zahra, and Banu Taym, and they made an alliance in Dhul-Qa’dah, (which is a forbidden month), on the condition that they would do justice to any oppressed in Mecca, stranger or relative, free or slave, and to be one hand on those who wronged him. Then they went to Al-Aas bin Wael and obliged him to return to the man his right, I submit to their judgment. and they stayed like that, and no one was wronged in Makkah but they did justice to him and returned his right to him. We benefit from the previous story thus Three tribes (Hashem, Zahraa and Taym) return the money of one man and take his right from (the seller of Al-Aas bin Wael), I imagine that three tribes, with all their men, They swear an oath on a rich man from and among the richest of them (Al-Aas bin Wael) These are authentic Arab morals (he stands by the oppressed until he regains his right) and the question here is where did the pride go from among our ribs, did it go away forever, or are the events enormous for Arabs and Muslims now, missing them from their glorious history? (Al-Aas bin Wael Hassan embraced Islam after that - may God be pleased with him and his satisfaction) - Three tribes (Hashem, Zahra and Taym) return the money of one man and take his right from (the seller) Al-Aas bin Wael Mushrik was an idolater and he was one of the rich people in Quraysh at that time, and it seems that he was also dishonest, We ask here: Why do some rich people want to increase their wealth through taboos and injustice to people, is this intelligence or what? The works he worked in - peace be uopn him- The first job ( herding sheep ) The Messenger of God (before the mission) herding the sheep, so we can benefit from this story m complaining of the Messenger of God from poverty. Rather, he did things that degrade many young people today, and he was a beautiful young man - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - and the beauty of his character makes the young man arrogant, He does not like anyone who sees him in something that he underestimates. The shepherd teaches patience and teaches meditation, at sunset: he has an enchanting beauty with sunset desert, soft sand and calm, He also knows how to deal with different personalities, not all sheep have one personality, but some of them deviate from. The group, among them the rebel, among them the quiet rebel. Therefore, no messenger from God Almighty was sent except to shepherd sheep. The second job (trade again) (the first time was twelve years old There is no doubt that the markets covered by the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace - such as the Okaz market - were full of experienced merchants of their time. At the age of twenty-five The Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, had another appointment with his travels to the Levant for trade, despite the fear of his uncle Abu Talib, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, from the Romans, as the monk Buhaira had previously warned him, But he did not find what appeared, so he advised him to ask Khadija, may God be pleased with her, to work for her in her trade, Mrs. Khadija was known as a famous businesswoman in her family for a lot of money and good use of workers, Like her boy Maysarah, Khadija, may God be pleased with her, heard the news of the dialogue between the Holy Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, and Abu Talib, and she was sent to the Prophet, and she agreed with him to give him twice what others give him, The Prophet concluded that deal because of his good reputation in morals, honesty and skill in trade, Khadija, may God be pleased with her, was also skilled, and she knew where to put her money. We learn from this story: The idea of a skilled merchant in trade is far from honest and trustworthy in trade. Among the things that a woman loves for a man, a man who disposes well of money can buy and reap the many benefits from this business, without adding to it noble qualities such as (honesty), which raises the image of this man in the eyes of those who watch him. And we will not forget that nine-tenths of the profit in trade, and they said in the old days: Trade is intelligence, and if it is lawful, its beauty increases. The journey of trade with the boy ( Missarah) Lady Khadija, may God be pleased with her, sent a son named Maysarah with him. The Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, advised him to listen and obey. In this trade the following happened: The Noble Messenger, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, went out with a cloud covering him, and went to Bosra next to the hermitage of the monk named Nestorah, So the monk asked about the Messenger while he was sitting under the tree, does there is a red in his eyes? Maisarah said to him: yes, the monk Nestorius told him that under this tree only a prophet sat, And that he wished to realize him in the message to be one of his followers, so he went towards him and kissed him and believed in him and his message, Maysarah memorized this scene well, to inform Mrs. Khadija later, On the way back, something strange happened. there was a cloud in the sky that kept Muhammad protecting him from the heat, and Maysara was looking at that scene, There were signs of astonishment and exclamation on his face. Soberness of her mind - may God be pleased with her and her satisfaction - In the good verification of the news (by herself, through those close to her, and not taking the word for the reason from her servant because of the strength of her personality, because the first to benefit from good morals (yourself between your sides), Self-esteem is different from self-confidence. His achievements in commerce and dealing with all personalities through commerce gave him self-confidence. God knows best, The Messenger returned from the trip with a convoy of trade, buying and selling, so Maisarah said, “We have been trading for forty years, so what we earned in this way, and this profit before, is a testimony to the Holy Prophet of his ability and skill in managing business. We get many benefits We have traded for forty years, the skilled merchant (Khadija: here) does not dispense with her trusted skilled workers, forty years he works with her (Maysarah). Signs of prophecy appeared before the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and it is strange that he knows them and certainly notices them as others do, but we never heard that he spoke about them or that he was. He is proud of him or relied on him because he is close to the Lord of Heaven, the Lord of Abraham - peace be upon him - and the Lord of Moses and Jesus, peace be upon them, all religions were known before him in Quraysh. Going to the Levant for the second time (experience). When a person travels to the same place twice, even if the time between the two trips increases, he has a geographical map of the place even if it changes, he carries a mental map to deal with people there because he knows their way of buying and selling before that, and It is one of the factors that qualified the Messenger of God - may God bless him and grant him peace - in profitable trade. God knows the best. For a Nestorian monk, there are Christians who carry humility between their sides, to say to him, I am his follower. Although he is a monk, respects him and offers him sacrifices, he leaves that to be just a follower. Related Studies Why trustworthiness is a vital leadership habit How to be trustworthy? You can feel embarrassed or embarrassed. Feelings can rise when your credibility is called into question. But a strong personality develops in an environment where honesty is safe, One way to care for others is to be honest with them. And one way to show that you are a leader, is to always tell the truth, no matter how hard it is. If being trustworthy means being trustworthy for the others, We do a good job of building our reputation as a reliable person. When others know that you always tell the truth, that you are someone who sticks to the rules, and that you are brave enough to do the right thing, others will put their trust in you. they will give you more responsibility, And they will start to count on you. Leaders are trustworthy people. they do what they say they will do, and they care about others with their words and what you do. Trustworthy people are the people you can put your trust in. Note: The Messenger of God was building his glory in leading the world shortly with his honesty and trust - may God bless him and grant him peace

The reason why the Prophet Muhammad was given this name And on the authority of Amina bint Wahb that she came pregnant with the Prophet, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, and it was said to her: “You are pregnant with the master of this nation, and when he falls, he will be called Muhammad, because his name in the Torah is Muhammad, and his name in the Bible is Ahmad, and the people of heaven and earth praise him, and his name is in the Qur’an.” Mohammed, And when the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, was born, she named him Muhammad, then carried him to his grandfather Abd al-Muttalib, and told him what she had seen in her pregnancy, and what was said to her about him, and what she ordered to name him. His grandfather Abdul Muttalib's love for him from the first moment, as soon as he was born His grandfather Abd al-Muttalib took him and entered the Sacred House with him and went around the Kaaba carrying him and thanking God, and when the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, reached his seventh day, he slaughtered. for him, so his grandfather invited Quraish for food, then told them that he had named him Muhammad so that God would praise him in heaven and the people of the earth would praise him. Why didn't Amna, the daughter of Wahb (his real mother) breastfeed him? One of the customs of Quraish and Arabs was to send their children to breastfeed in the countryside. To strengthen their bodies, the eloquence of their tongues, and look at this study, Research shows that spending time outdoors, especially at a young age, can reduce children's stress and anxiety, while boosting confidence, “Nature-based education [and] therapy are real sources of strength and resilience for young people,” Clayton said, Imagination and physical health - all characteristics that will help the adults of tomorrow adapt to a changing world, The story of the refusal of breastfeeding women to take the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - to breastfeed him Abdullah bin Jaafar bin Abi Talib said: It narrated on the authority of Halima bint Al-Harith that she said: I came to Mecca with women, with whom we sought infants in the year of Shahba, so I presented a camel (a female donkey) to me as a Qamar, was late (delayed) On the ride and with a boy for us, and we are approaching, by God, she does not ovulate with a drop (not a drop of milk in her udder) And we do not sleep that night all together with that boy, we do not find in my breasts that enrich him, nor : sharfna: an a lofty place, what nourishes him, But we were hoping for raining and relief, so I came out on that (female donkey) so I slandered: I got tired, until it made them weak and emaciated, so we came to Mecca, and by God, we did not know of any woman from us except that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, offered her, but he refused, if it was said that he was an orphan, we left him, We said: What may his mother do for us? We only hope for favor from the father of the child. As for his mother, what may she do for us? By God, there is no woman left of my companions who has not taken a baby other than me, When we could not find anyone else and we agreed to go, I told my husband Al-Harith bin Abd Al-Uzza: By God, I hate to return from among my companions with no infant with me, Let's go to that orphan, let's take him... to the end of the story. We take advantage of this paragraph 1 - The beginning of the Messenger - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - he did not feel that, but put yourself in the place of the mother, her son is rejected just because he is. an orphan, so her widowhood gathers against her, and she fears for the future of her son's life and she is of long standing origins in society. 2 - I went and took him, then I came with him. So he came to my breast with whatever milk he wanted, and his brother drank until he was breastfed, and my friend stood in front of that donkey (a female donkey), if it had a lot of milk, he milked it, drank and I drank. Until we were full, we had a good night, and my husband said to me: O Halima, by God I see you took a blessed breath. 3 - Halima said that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, was growing and growing rapidly, unlike the growth of other children, and this is how those who grow in the desert, this is the choice from God to his masseenger. 4 - And she was, may God be pleased with her, when she stood on Abd al-Muttalib asking him to breastfeed the Messenger of God, Abd al-Muttalib (grandfather of the Messenger of God) said to her: Who are you? She said: A woman from Bani Saad. He said: What is your name? She said: Halima, and he said: Bakh Bakh (a word that the Arabs say when they are optimistic), happy and clemency. The growth of the Messenger of God in the desert “The Messenger of God, may God bless him andhis family and grant them peace, Gabriel came to him, peace be upon him, whilehe was playing, so he took him and smashed him (throwing him to the ground),splitting him from its heart, and extracting the heart out, and extracted fromit a leech, He said: This is the part of Satan from you, then he washed it in agolden basin with Zamzam water, Then he put him back in his place and the boys came looking for his mother - meaning his back (nursing him) They said: Muhammad has been killed, so they met him and he was (pale) in color.” Narrated by Muslim, to the end of the story. The story of the cloud that used to shade him wherever he went - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him He did not feel the heat - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, for there was always a cloud that shaded him wherever he went, his sister said: O mother, my brother was not feel hot, I saw a cloud that shaded him, wherever he walked, and if he stood the cloud stood until he ended up in this situation. Muhammad returns to his real mother after the first chest cleft incident ... Then we were afraid of the events for him, so we said: He will be in his family, so his mother said: By God, what is that for you, so tell me your news and his news, by God, she continued with us until we told her his story. She said: Did you fear him, no, by God, that my son has an affair, should I not tell you about it? I was pregnant with it, and I never bore a burden that was lighter for me or greater in blessing than it, then I saw a light as if a meteor came out of me when I placed it, it lit up the necks of camels in my sight, then I placed it and it did not fall like boys fall, He fell with his hand on the ground and raised his head to the sky, leave him and take care of you. We benefit from this part of the biography 1 - The trust that was placed in the hands of Mrs. Halima Al-Sa’diya was worthy of her, so she returned with the blessed child who blessed her life because it was to relieve her of responsibility. 2 - From his blessing - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - Umm Ayman, who was embracing him, said: I have never seen the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, complain of hunger or thirst. And when he started drinking Zamzam water, we might have served him lunch and he would say: I am full. The story of Al - Aboaa (a mountain between Mecca and Medina) (The death of Amna Bint Wahb, the real mother of the Prophet, and he was 6 years old) When the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, was six years old and he was returning to his mother’s house, his mother Amina bint Wahb went out to his uncles Bani Uday bin Najjar and visited them while he was with her, He had a governess for him called Umm Ayman, may God be pleased with her, and they were on two camels, so his mother put him in the house of (Al-Nabigha) at the grave of his father Abdullah bin Abdul Muttalib, Then the mother died on the way back and was buried by Umm Ayman. Look at this study: What happens to a child after the death of a parent in the short term? Including but not limited to anger, sadness, numbness, anxiety, guilt, emptiness, remorse, It is normal for one to throw oneself at work; It's also normal to withdraw from activities and friends, Neuroscience assures us that the loss will lead to physical distress. In the long run, grief puts the whole body at risk. I found a bunch of studies Links between unresolved grief and heart prblems, high blood pressure, immune disorders, and even cancer. The Messenger in the custody of his grandfather (Abdul Muttalib) The Messenger in the custody of his grandfather (Abdul Muttalib) The seventh story: The Messenger in thecustody of his grandfather (Abdul Muttalib) Abdul Muttalib did not eat the food except tosay: bring my son: he mean Muhammed - peace be upon him - and he cames to him, there was a rug placedfor Abdul Muttalib in the shade of the Kaaba, and his sons were sitting around him, and he turned the rug until he brought Muhammad to him, and none of his sons sat on it except the Messenger of God in his honor, The Messenger of God was with his grandfatherAbd al-Muttalib ibn Hashim - meaning: after the death of his mother, Amina bint al-Wahhab -and when Abd al-Muttalib came to death, Abu Talib (the uncle of the Messenger of God) recommended that he sponsor him and protect him What does modern science show about the grandfather's relationship with the grandson? general self-awareness When grandparents provide childcare for their grandchildren or become actual or surrogate parents for their grandchildren, they have a greater than average chance of bonding. Fill the shoes of the parents, when children perceive how others see them. This type of self-awareness develops later. This is because children need to understand that others have thoughts and feelings and different perspectives on their thoughts and feelings, until about the age of five, most children don't realize that other people don't always think and feel the same way they do) This is known as theory of mind, (Have you ever wondered how some grandparents manage to have close relationships with their grandchildren and some don't? It's not a mystery. Research has revealed secrets, but they are still unknown to many grandparents. Physical proximity, Grandchildren often get their early values from parents and grandparents. However, as they mature, they are more likely to develop their own set of values, Families are closest when they share values, but few families will be in perfect agreement, Not surprisingly, geographic proximity is one of the strongest predictors of the close relationship between grandparents and grandchildren. Other factors, such as grandparents' health and financial status, older grandchildren will appreciate loving text messages, as long as they aren't too frequent. The role of grandparents in the family The death of his grandfather Abdul Muttalib (the Prophet is 9 years old) Abdul Muttalib's age at the time of his death Abdul Muttalib bin Hashim perished at a different age in reality. Abu Al-Rabi’i bin Salem said: They betrayed her, and she ended up with ninety-five years of age and I stood for him. Al-Zubayr mentioned it, and above it what Al-Zubayr also mentioned on the authority of Nawfal bin Amara, , he said: Ubaid bin Al-Abras Abdul Muttalib rejoiced, and he reached about one hundred and twenty years old, and Abdul Muttalib remained after him twenty years, and his death was nine years from the year of the elephant. The Prophet is in the custody of his uncle Abu Talib had little money, and he had a piece of camel in Wadi Urnah, and milk would be brought from it if it was in (Mecca) If the children of Abi Talib ate all of them alone, they would not be full, If the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, ate, they would have been full, If Abu Talib wanted to feed or eat them, he would say: As you are until my son comes, and if someone drinks a large mug alone, then Abu Talib says: You are blessed, The boys become disheveled (their hair is not combed), and the Messenger of God, may God’s prayers and peace be upon him, becomes oily, as if his eyes had eyeliner on. Traveling with his uncle when he was twelve years old and meeting the monk Bahira When the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, reached twelve years of age, his uncle Abu Talib traveled to the Levant on a ride for trade, so he took him with him and met the monk (Buhaira) There he saw the Prophet, may God bless him and grant him peace, contemplating him and speaking to him. He was a scholar of the Bible and an expert in Christianity. Then he turned to Abu Talib and said to him: what is this boy from you? My son said to him, and the monk said to him: This boy should not have a father who lives, and Abu Talib used to call his son on Muhammad because of his great love for him, the monk said to him: Take to his homeland, and beware of the Jews on him, By God, if they had seen him here, they would have hurt him. It's your nephew, that's a great affair. Abu Talib hurried him back to Mecca. Modern science proves the following: What do researchers mean when they talk about "parenting style"? permissive parenting Parents influence their children through specific practices, such as encouraging them to play outdoors, or helping them with their homework, that emphasize blind obedience, strict discipline, and controlling children through punishments—which may include the withdrawal of parental affection. authoritarian parenting Children from trusted families are usually well-behaved and do well in school. They tend to be emotionally healthy, resourceful, and socially adept. Characterized by emotional warmth and reluctance to apply rules, authoritative parenting, a more balanced approach in which parents expect children to meet certain behavioral standards, but also encourage their children to think for themselves and develop a sense of independence. What does it matter? Do parenting styles affect the child's outcomes? Children from authoritarian families are more likely to increase aggressive or defiant behavior over time. They are also more likely to suffer from anxiety, depression, or low self-esteem, For tens of thousands of years, new parents have been spending many years in extended families learning parenting skills by osmosis from their parents, grandparents, aunts, older brothers and cousins as well as taking on responsibilities for their younger brothers and sisters. Today, few parents get this opportunity to immerse themselves in early family life as extended families. Living in close proximity is a thing of the past in the UK, Children who have permissive parents may be less likely to have behavior problems. They may also have fewer emotional problems. But these children tend to have more problems than children raised by authoritative parents, and may achieve less in school. last sentence The value of the extended family in the childhood of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace (from the point of view of science) They undergo massive brain growth, growth and pruning of neurons in the first two years of life. Children's brain development (in addition to their social, emotional and cognitive development) depends on loving relationship or association with a primary caregiver, usually a parent. There is increasing evidence from the fields of developmental psychology, Neuroscience and animal epigenetics studies that ignore, parental inconsistency, and lack of love can lead to long-term mental health problems as well as lower overall potential and happiness. The transformation of the Messenger of God as a child from one caring hand to another from the age of 3 to 12 years has an impact on his psychological and emotional formation, and the extent of his flexibility in accepting events and circumstances, which makes him in the future more able to accept the vicissitudes of life and flexibility with it. This is explained by the different education patterns for the different generations that the Messenger of God - may God’s prayers and peace be upon him - nurtured in the desert (external education) and what affects the personality from a young age. Then moving on to the uncle (merchant), and in trade, one learns to meet people of different mental and behavioral backgrounds, which gives him flexibility in dealing with people, (what was useful to him at his age in his letter). Than his dealings with all the personalities he meets in the call, whether they are against the truth, hostile or peaceful, etc. Then raising a real mother (pampering) three years ago, which affects the brain directly (the need for cuddling and kissing from the mother in particular. Take a look at this scientific talk Children are born very dependent on their parents. Then he moved to raising the grandfather (pampering the vision of role models, leadership and charismatic personality in society), where his grandfather had charisma in the Quraish community. 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